Sleeping Alone - Pembina,ND

I actually have trouble sleeping when my husband is out of town. I've never said this to my boys, but when he's out of town, I like it when they come and join me at night. I just find it comforting to have them with me.

I love sleeping alone! I get the best sleep that way. Hubby and I actually have separate bedrooms. It keeps us from waking each other up since we have different bed times and wake-up times. I know some people think it's odd, but it works for us. And I think those people who think it's odd might be secretly jealous ;-)

I am a warm blooded person, and my husband and his body heat drive me insane. When he is out of town, I sleep so great.. With him here, I have to sleep on the edge of the bed. We have different sats of blankets, he has heavy, I like a sheet.

I know I would miss him some of the times, but I completely understand why people start sleeping in separate rooms as they get older. Not that they do not love each other, but because they need their own space to sleep comfortably.

I love sleeping alone! It rarely happens, but when it does I like it :-)

But generally speaking I don't think babies and young children like sleeping alone. Mine slept much better when brought to our bed (I'm talking under two years old) and when they were little they always shared a room, if not a bed. I remember offering to convert our spare office type room into a bedroom for my son when he was around six (he was sharing with his three year old sister and I was thinking about moving the baby in with her) and he just looked at me very seriously and said "why do I have to be the only one all alone?" Poor guy! I let him stay with his sister for a few more years :-)

I prefer sleeping alone. And so I do.

:)

I can't fall asleep if the other person is breathing on me or touching me or kicking and squirming. I'm pretty sure co-sleeping wouldn't work for me at all! However, having people in the same room as me is fine, so I would love to have my children nearby, in a bed of their own next to mine is fine.

I was just thinking this today. I sleep so well before my husband gets to bed. Afterward, I toss and turn all night. He weighs so much more than me, that I roll into him all night. I call it his gravitational pull. lol
We desperately need a new mattress, so I'm hoping this will fix some of the problems. Until then... I just roll on.

I like it as a special treat, but not an everyday thing. I shared a bed with my younger sister (by choice, we had our own beds but would sleep together) from about age 5-10. I didn't have my own room until I was 25 so I'm used to having someone else in the room if not in the bed. I loved co-sleeping with my babies and now in the morning, after my husband gets up, the dog jumps in and sleeps next to me. I still nap with my younger boys from time to time. I love going away for a girls' weekend and having my own bed, but I wouldn't like it all the time.

I sleep my best when hubby is out if town or if he falls asleep in his office.

I hate someone moving around, snoring, fidgeting when I'm trying to sleep.

It's bad enough around here since hubs is up by 2am every freaking morning making coffee, emptying dishwasher, etc.

I just want to sleep. Granted.. The toy poodle is usually nestled next to me but he does not snore or fidget. He's currently recovering from cataract surgery, wearing the cone of shame, and on special eye drops that are given 4 times a day plus other meds. I love him..., but right now it's like another baby in the house!

I swear my hubs thinks the bed is a trampoline when he rolls over. Everybody is awake when he starts fidgeting and snoring.

I'm on the couch or in one if the extra bedrooms often. I hate disruption during my rest time.

Then in the am, he expects a thank you for helping me by emptying the dishwasher. What... The clanging and banging keeps me awake. He does not get it.

On a side note.. He thinks nothing of allowing the dogs to go out at 2 am and bark like crazy. I'm lucky I still have my sweet dogs and thankful for gracious neighbors who understand my nocturnal hubby.

Btw... Its 8:20pm my time and hubs has been snoring since 6:30 pm.

ETA: my daughter and I did enjoy some special mom daughter sleep time on weeks when hubby was out of town . We do have special memories. Bottom line.. We both like our space. Even when she had sleepovers... Everyone had their own bed!

i LOVE sleeping alone.
No one touching me, cuddling up on me, poking me, kicking me, in my space, breathing on me, snoring, coughing, tossing, turning.
It doesn't mean that I don't love my husband or kids. It just means that they are not good bed mates!
I didn't sleep in the same bed as my husband for about 5 years. We had a fine sex life, had one more kid! But we had our intimate time, cuddled, and then off to our own beds!!
I had my first son in bed with me co-sleeping and I was miserable. Blech. I slept horribly those 2 years.
Now, I sleep with the husband but no kids. It's nice having him there....if he stays on his side and is quiet.
L.

I think, most or many more people than we even realize, actually LIKE sleeping alone. In bed. With no one else there. And do it. But they don't go around saying it to everyone. Its sorta like a hushed "secret" or something among couples.

But then, per relationship "rules" and whatever the heck marriage rules or traditions are... a couple sleeps together in the same bed. And it is supposed to be... the norm and the desired and the best and the only way to prove, love.
Ahem.
But I disagree.
I like to sleep the way *I* like to sleep. I do not like to sleep being bothered or nudged or brushed up against and I don't like spooning or whatever. I like to sleep the way I like to sleep and how I know I can get a good sleep. Me and Hubby sleep in the same bed. But I often migrate... then end up on the sofa or something. Or on the floor. Because quite frankly, that is more comfortable. I guess I like the solitude... of it.

I co-slept with my kids when they were wee ones. It was fine though. Because, they didn't take up the ENTIRE bed and they slept pretty mellow and they let me sleep the way I wanted to. My Husband is taller and bigger than me and geez, he takes up the whole bed to the point I am tinkering on the bed-edge and falling off. And he sprawls out all over the place like a Daddy Long legs spider. And then I have no room. NO matter how big the bed is. And he has to sleep his way, per his comfort, but so that means it voids out the way I want to sleep to be most comfy.

Anyway, I think many perfectly fine couples, actually sleep separately.
And alone.

I have issues sleeping. My H, out like a light in 5 mins. I do like him there. I have an even harder time sleeping by myself.

I watch tv, I squirm, i flip, I flop, out of the cover, under the cover, fan on, fan off.
Good thing he sleeps.

I hate sleeping with my husband in bed. Lol.

He talks in his sleep, snores, flips and flops around... He has literally kicked me right out of bed in his sleep! Lol. Luckily, he works nights so I usually get the bed to myself!

That said, I like to bring my 3 yo DD to bed occasionally. (Actually, about half the time, or a little more..) I LOVE co-sleeping with her! It seems like we have our most meaningful "conversations" and snuggle time right before she falls asleep. I also like being able to snuggle her, and she sleeps heavily enough that I don't wake her up. She sleeps better in bed with me, and I actually get a extra hour or two of sleep because she will snuggle in instead of getting up if she is in my bed. ;)

I don't usually mind DH in the bed, or DD, but they need to be asleep. They need not to snore or kick me or steal blankets. My blankets need to be just SO so I can sleep. When DH is on travel, I stay up late, but sleep more soundly.

Funny you mention this question because I'm having an issue right now with a sleeping arrangement that we had to institute because I'm in the process of being treated for sleep apnea. My husband told me that I have started snoring pretty badly and in addition to that, he said he noticed that I stop breathing and then gasp for air a few times during the night when I'm sleeping. I took this seriously because I have always had sinus issues, horrible allergies, and both my dad and my brother suffer from the same things plus they developed sleep apnea as well. So, I've had a sleep study done and sure enough....positional snoring and mild sleep apnea. It is bothering my husband at night and he says I keep him up a lot with all this. So, until we work out the details on whether I will keep the anti-snore mouth guard thingy or if I have to go on CPAP, I have been sleeping in one of my daughters bedrooms because she is away at college. It really stinks! I hate this! Hubby says the snoring is bad but the not sleeping in the bed is worse. I think so too. We are used to sleeping together so neither of us likes this arrangement at all. In fact, I keep having bad dreams that my queen sized bed has turned into a twin and I can't sleep in it anymore! LOL! I honestly can't wait to get this sorted out because no, I don't like sleeping alone and it feels kinda weird. :(

I have slept alone for about 20 of my 21 years of marriage and I don't think I could do it any other way. DH sleeps with a breathing machine for severe apnea and I'm lucky I can get to sleep from across the hall with both our doors shut. Love him to death, but I just don't want anyone in bed with me to sleep. I'm a light sleeper and I just can never get to sleep so having someone moving/breathing would drive me nuts.

We credit separate bedrooms as the reason for our happy marriage. And for anyone wondering about sex - we have plenty of that. DH is happy to pay me a visit and then leave afterwards. I tend to be a bit of a black widow in that department I have to admit, but he doesn't seem to mind.

I LOVE sleeping alone!!!!!!!!!! When hubby is away I miss him, but it seriously is a chance to catch up on sleep!!!'

I couldn't co-sleep if you paid me. I barely sleep sharing a bed with hubby!!!! I can't stand being touches, dealing with someone else moving, etc....

Yep, I'm so with you. I too go to bed before him. It's the only way.

Hmmm...some of both. I'd say I like someone close, but my most recent best sleep was in my Mom's guest room, all by myself! So, what I like and what actually works for me may not be the same.

I am EXACTLY like you until you mentioned you slept with your babies. I did not. From day one they slept in their own cribs and it was the best advice I ever got. I'm a terribly light sleeper, I am not a cuddler and I don't like anyone touching me when I'm sleeping. lol I actually like sleeping with my husband but we have a CAL KING size bed and we each keep to our own sides and we are happy. I can't even imagine kids or pets in my bed. No way. lol

I think I'm kind of in between. My husband works grave shift, so I do sleep alone unless it's his night off. It might be silly but I do get scared at night when he is not home. I start to worry and think that what if there was a fire in the middle of the night? I would have to be able to get both kids out the door. Or what if someone broke in? My kids rooms are on the 3rd floor and mine is on the 4th floor of the house. What would I do??? So I don't always sleep good when he is working, but once I'm asleep, I'm out for the night.

When he is home, he will usually stay with me in bed until I'm sleeping and then he will get up because he is used to being awake at night and he doesn't want to mess up his schedule. I like that because I feel safe. I do sleep SO much better when he is home.

LOL I guess we all like to sleep alone if given the choice. My husband was like a fish out of water. Flipping flopping shaking the bed!! When we needed a new mattress, we bought the one, I forget what it is called, that if one person moves the other doesn't feel it. It really does work. So we have eliminated that issue. Some new homes being built have a master bedroom and another mini master aka, the snoring room! These builders are onto something.

I like having someone in bed w me, even if we are just holding hands or touching feet. It's comforting,
I lilke to have heavy blankets on and like to be completely covred.

But I also would never have the television on as I am falling asleep.

you aren't weird but I wonder why you have those preferences. maybe you are just more sensitive in general?

I hate sleeping alone, when my husband travels for work I get next to no sleep for at least the first few days until I get used to him being gone. My boys also hate to sleep alone, and sleep together 90% of the time. Some studies actually suggest that sleeping with someone else in the bed helps lower your levels of stress hormone.

I agree with everything you said.

I also like sleeping alone. I don't mind my husband there, but I like the tv on, and if I wake up in the middle of the night and can't get back to sleep (which is often now that I'm pregnant, but I was having insomnia issues before that) I can't turn on my book light and read without waking him up. So I often end up out on the couch anyway.

I've never ENJOYED sleeping alone, but I don't mind if that's what the circumstances call for.

We bought a king so there would be more room for our toddler.

No one mentioned king sized beds. I like to sleep with someone. My husband didn't. We had a king sized bed and it was like sleeping alone except I sometimes cuddled up next to him after we both fell asleep. He didn't seem to mind that as long as it wasn't too often.

My idea of being alone, which I like, is, sleeping with Smith, Wesson and the pit bull-dreamy!