Sleeping survey...I Need Some Research Feedback Please!

My 19 year old sleeps in her own bed; slept with me until around 8 or 9, then like a few times a month until she was 11.
My 17 year old sleeps in his own bed; slept with me until around 7-8, then a few times a month until he was 11-12. Last December my father passed away and he slept in my bed a few nights a week for the first couple of weeks.
My 8 year old sleeps with me every night.

The 7 year old wants to sleep with us all the time. I don't mind. I like snuggling with him. There will come a time where he doesn't like it and I'll miss this last bit of childhood.

The 10 year old comes and gets in bed with us maybe.....once or twice a year.

Right now, my 4yo sleeps in her bed 100% of the time. (With occasional exceptions, for nightmares, sickness, or the random just because.)

At 3, she was in her bed most nights, maybe once or twice a week in mine.
At 2, I would say it was 50/50... But more out of me wanting her there than her need.

Personally, I LOVED co-sleeping. I am a light sleeper and would semi-wake if her breathing pattern changed, so it was perfectly safe. My husband also happened to work nights, so we didn't lose out on any intimacy. My dd and I loved the chance to snuggle in close, and really got some quality time. :)

Our daughter sleeps in our bed. She has since she was 15 months. Prior to that she slept in her crib. We allowed her to move into our bed because she woke up a lot during the night and often got croup.
There has been many instances I have been glad she has been in the family bed due to middle of the night fevers or asthmatic croup situations.

She is six now and still sleeps in the family bed. I can tell you a lot of people disagree with me in my family. But our daughter is very sensitive and gifted. It has been difficult to tell her to sleep in her own bed now.
She uses logic and reason to explain why it's necessary for her to sleep in the family bed still. I do not mind her sleeping in the bed, I actually sleep better knowing she is right there.

Every situation is different. In my situation our child is very self sufficient but still needs closeness and security at night. She is extremely sensitive, even sensitive to strangers feelings.

By next year I plan to have her in her own room. But like I said, each situation is different. She slept in her crib for 15 months and was fine. After that she needs to sleep in the family bed.
But I can tell you, she sleeps great, doesn't wake up, no more nightmares, and I can quickly catch her colds coming on .

My daughter is almost 11. She's slept with us every night since the day she was born up until a few months ago. Now she sleeps with us a few nights a week and will do so for as long as she wants. We didn't decide to co sleep when she was a baby in an attempt to get more sleep. She was a great sleeper. I did a lot of research on co sleeping before she was born and it just felt natural. I love it. She's not scared to sleep by herself, my marriage is great, I'm not trying to keep her from growing up. It's just cozy and nurturing and it makes us closer. We read in bed every night and usually end up having a good chat right before we fall asleep. No regrets. Feel free to PM me if you'd like more info.

we didn't co-sleep, but my older would come and sleep in our bed after my husband got up and went to work until he was a tween. i'm sick of our society looking for sex any time the words 'bed' or 'nudity' come up.
i can't stand touching anyone else when i'm sleeping, not even my disgruntled cats, but i'd let my grown sons and their girlfriends bed down with me any time they wanted. so long as they leave me on my side of the bed, i think it's awesome to co-sleep.
go figure, they've never taken me up on it!
;) khairete
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My kids are 16, 16, 10 & 8. I co-slept with all of them as babies (one of the 16 year-olds is my step-daughter so not with her as I didn't know her then). My oldest started sleeping in his own bed consistently by age 4. My younger boys transitioned to their own beds 100% of the time sometime before they were 3 but would occasionally pop in with us if they got up early, were afraid of something, or just wanted a good snuggle. The younger boys will sometimes nap with one of us in our bed after a really early morning hockey game, and sometimes I fall asleep in their bottom bunk reading stories and they'll fight over who gets to sleep with me ;-)

My boys are 11 and 13. They have never slept in my bed.

I think that moms bring babies to bed to try to get more sleep themselves, and then find themselves stuck in the situation. Since sleep training is hard, they opt for the status quo. I've seen only very few instances where cosleeping was truly their choice from the beginning, and they were also able to get their kids to transition to their own beds in a healthy way.

kids 9 & 7. The first one slept in my bed until about 3 then half way through the night he would come in until about 5 years old. I liked it until he started getting too big (3 people in a queen sized bed is a bit tight) My daughter was a different story. She wouldn't sleep as well in our bed, she didnt even sleep that good until we moved her crib out of our bed and into her room at about 4 months. She isn't a good co-sleeper she is everywhere! Now the only time they get to sleep in my bed is if their dad is out of town for some reason which isnt very often. They will get to camp out on the floor though if one or the other is on a sleep over.

As infants, all 3 slept in our bed (easier to breastfeed, I guess). But they always had their own crib/bed. Each child had a stretch of coming to our beds between the ages of 4 - 6 for whatever reason (they'd start the night in their own beds, but when I woke up in the morning, there would be a kid in my bed...I'd sleep right through it and not even notice they were there). That went on for years.

They haven't, as a habit, slept in our bed for years, but if Daddy's out of town, one of the girls might hop into bed with me and have a little 'sleepover'. Doesn't happen nearly as often anymore... Kids are 17, 13 and 12.

Both my kids slept with me when they were infants under the age of six months to make nursing easier. They have slept in their own beds since then, unless they were not feeling well and needed extra cuddles. I did not enjoy having extra bodies in my bed, especially hot little squirmy bodies.

Our boys are 4 and nearly 7. We co-slept with both when they were little. My older son slept with us from about 1 week old until he was just under 3. We transitioned him to his own room when I was about 7 months pregnant. Once he had his own room, he would come in our room most mornings around 4 or 5 and snuggle until it was time to get up. After his brother was born, he stayed in his own bed to avoid the crying baby for a while, but would get in bed with us once his brother was about a year old maybe 2-3 nights/mornings a week. Once he started kindergarten, he slept about 6 nights a week in his room. Now that he is in first grade, he will come in with us once every few months, maybe. The younger one is nominally in the bedroom with his brother, but usually wakes up around midnigt and gets in with us about 5 nights a week. If either my husband or myself is out of town, the kids both sleep in the big bed.

My older son is less enjoyable to share a bed with, as he is getting really tall and he kicks! But in general, I will absolutely snuggle my kids at any opportunity. I'll snuggle with them when they are grown and have their own kids if I get the chance!

8, 5, never. The one year old did a bit as a baby but no more. She does nap in my arms or car though.

Currently at 15 & 12 years of age - NEVER. :( Except last night, my 12 yo daughter had a bad fall on the ice and hit her head pretty hard, she was dazed and nauseous and I had to take her to the ER and she does have a mild concussion, so the Doc instructed us to share a room for overnight observation purposes, so we slept in a king bed together...and she was not too pleased with this arrangement.

Considering she nursed until she was 3 year old, and slept with me every night back then, I was surprised and mildly hurt (JK...it's normal) that she would rather sleep alone.

When my kids were under the age of 5, someone slept with me most nights, either directly in our bed, or on a futon next to our bed. But my husband traveled a lot back then, so there was room for both kids. We have also moved a lot, and our homes tend to be large so the kids don't like being that far away in a strange house, so after the newness wears off they would stay in their own rooms for months at a time.

Our kids are 11 and 8. They have never, ever slept in our bed. Our bed is our bed and their beds are their beds.

Kiddo is seven now does not sleep in our bed. He has a full sized bed and if he needs help, which is rarely (sick or nightmares) one of us will stay with him until he falls back asleep. So, average week, zero.

1) neither child ever sleeps in our bed
2) ages 4 and 8

I'm a no touch when I sleep kind of person, so my babies go to their bed around 5 weeks. Before then, they are in a bassinet, though i let them fall asleep on me before I transfer them to their bassinet.

My daughter is 11 and the only time she sleeps with me is when we are traveling or have company in our home (maybe 6 times per year).

3 children so far-5, 3, 16 months.
They do not sleep in our bed and have never slept in our bed. Not once in a while, not at naps, not when sick, not when infants, not on vacation, not at some point in the night.

We have one kid, he is nearly 4. He naps in our bed on Sat and Sunday for anywhere from an hour to a total of 4 hrs. Sometimes I or hubs will join him for a nap/ or rest. He does not sleep in our bed otherwise.

Out of desperation, we tried having DS in our bed so we could all get some sleep when he was a newborn, despite having sworn that we would never co-sleep. As it turned out, it did little to improve his sleep, and I couldn't let myself sleep with a newborn in bed for fear of crushing him, so it never took.

Best,
F. B.

My 2 are 4 and 8.
They have not ever, nor do they ever, sleep in our bed.

Ages 7, 4, 7 mo.

None sleep in my bed, never have, never will. If they need me to cuddle in the middle of the night I get in their bed with them til they fall asleep.

As babies, I was too scared to have them in my bed because hubs is an unpredictable dream spazzer. Hops up on the bed yelling things and whatnot. The danger of this is R., as was exhibited to me this summer when he had dream spaz while we were on vacation, jumped up on and off the bed, trampling the pack'n'play that was pulled up next to my side of the bed with our 4 month old IN it. Baby boy promptly moved to his own crib in his own room upon on our return home. All 3 of my kids have slept that way the first few months of their lives (pack'nplay right up next to me)... but if I ever have a 4th I will not be doing even that anymore.

That's just my weirdo situation though!

Mommy,

When my kids were younger - like infants? I took naps with them in my bed during the week.

Now that they are 12 and 14? No. If they have a hard time getting to sleep - they come to my bed (as I go to bed about the same time they do!! LOL) and they are there for MAYBE 15 minutes, then they trot off to their bed and have sweet dreams.

I guess the answer is ZERO as they no longer SLEEP in my bed.

What age is too old? Personally? I think over 5.
Do I enjoy it? No. My youngest is/was a thrasher sleeper.

When the kids were infants they slept in a side car (I was very strict about not co-sleeping in adult bed with infants - I used to work at a medical examiners office) There were many individual nights when they slipped into bed with us as young kids, but it was never encouraged and never more than one night at a time. There were several nights when I slept with them if they were sick. One week I slept on the floor next to one who was quite ill, slept in the chair at the hospital.... One kid can slip into our bed an I barely notice she's there. The other is a massive bed hog who flings her arms around so no way! Is there an age when it is no longer appropriate? Too big of a "depends" to say conclusively - but to me yes.

My children never sleep in my bed.

I mainly don't let them because of fear of peeing/puking/etc on an expensive mattress and custom made bedding.

Assuming I did let them get in my bed - I would not enjoy it. Children are very active sleepers. When we travel, I always end up with a foot in my side or an arm across my head. I don't feel any age is too old to get in to bed with a parent.

My children are 12, 9, and 3.
They do not sleep in my bed.

L.

Our son is 11.
Never, except maybe two or three sick days in his life!

I have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. We have sort of a kids don't sleep in mom and dad's bed policy and have since they were babies. I'd say they each sleep in our bed once a year - only if they're sick. If they have trouble sleeping either mom or dad goes into the kids room and sleeps in their bed or on the floor.

Pretty close to never and absolutely never before three.

My hubby and I are adamant about our own bed. When she was a baby, I feared that my hubby would roll onto her as he is a very heave sleeper - and having her in my bed wasn't my thing anyway! Only now will one of us have a sleep over with my daughter in our bed. The other adult is in the guest room.

And whenever we are at a hotel, I somehow manage to get the pull out sofa!! But I get a good night's sleep!!

Unless they are sick never, not since they were 3 months old and we stopped co-sleeping. As soon as they were sleeping through the night it was time for mom and dad to have their room back.

My babies have slept with me a total of 4 nights between the three of them. We're all more comfortable in our own spaces.

DD just turned 15. She has never slept in my bed. As a matter of fact, my husband and I keep separate bedrooms (he sleeps with a c-pap machine and I'm a light sleeper with insomnia). DD had undiagnosed reflux as an infant and she didn't sleep more than 3-4 hours in a row for a full 2 years. She didn't sleep any better in my bed, so we never went that route. Hope my separate beds for everyone doesn't ruin your research. lol. I'm posting a piggy back question.

My kids are 3 and 7- they almost always sleep in their own beds. When they were babies, they would occasionally sleep with us if they were having trouble sleeping. And now, when my husband travels for work, they take turns sleeping in my bed.

After hearing presentations from medical examiners and pediatricians about the number of SIDS/SUID cases that could have been prevented with safer sleep practices, I'm very wary of co-sleeping with infants.

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Zero.
16 and 13 years old.

But, even when they were small, they had their own rooms and own beds that they slept in every night. Only the few times when they had a nightmare or something (around age 4 I think?) did they come to our room and then they didn't stay but maybe 20 minutes. I'd walk them back to their room and they were fine.

When we had only one child, he did the middle of the night wake up and come to my bedside (around age 2 1/2) for a few weeks. I walked him back to his room and that was that. No big deal.

Our kids are 4 (almost 5) and 10. They sleep in our bed never. When the little one comes into our bedroom at night (about once a month) and wants to get into bed with us...I walk her down to her bed and snuggle with her till she falls back asleep (which is quick). I HATE having a kid in bed with me. I'm a super light sleeper and it keeps me awake the entire night. Yes, when they were babies there were times we let them in our bed. But by age 3...no more!

We cosleep with our 2 kids and alway have. They are 3.5 and 17 months

We have 2 kiddos 3.5 and 5. Less than 5 times combined for both of their lives. I want my space and I don't want to be touched or bumped or kicked or moved or.....when I am sleeping. Hubby has his own side to stay on when we are sleeping. King size bed. Both kids were very high needs and so getting them to sleep was a nightmare and I wasn't going to share my one time to get space to myself without them on me. I needed those 2-4 hours of space! Both actually slept in a swing to stay asleep because of sensory issues (not known about at the time). I never let them in my bed, even as infants because I saw what it did to my sister as her 14 year old still sleeps with her.

My kids are 7 and almost 4. They sleep in our bed about once every four months - only if something has really scared them in the middle of the night (never both, just one or the other). The only other times my son sleeps in our bed is if his asthma is really bad and we want to keep a closer eye/ear on him (this is maybe once a year at the most).

I hate having the kids in our bed and can't really sleep. Usually, if one of them ends up in our bed, I leave and go to our extra room.

My kids are 8, 5,4 and 4. They were all moved to their own bed at 10 months. They don't sleep with us. There have been a few times when a kid was sick that they moved into the bed with us but after a rough couple of hours they were moved back to their bed. I don't know if any age is too big. It just depends upon the parent. I think the way we have it set up none of our children will be sleeping with us. Plus, my husband and I don't have to travel often for our jobs so we don't have empty space for extra people to take up.