Baby Sleeping with Me,

I also suggest a co-sleeper. You could probably find a used one on Craigslist or something for fairly cheap.

My kiddo has slept in bed with me from the day he was born... And now he is almost 3 and I want him OUT. Lol

We are going to try really hard not to let the new baby develop this habit.

If he is sleeping in the bed with you, get rid of the pillows and the blankets and sheets. They are a suffocation risk.

I would trust your instincts and do what feels "right" to you. Co-sleeping has been around forever and I think it's good for the baby.... can be tough on the parents - or not. Totally your choice. I might not use a pillow on the edge though. Mabye get a baby rail for that side? Enjoy the little man - they grow up SOOOOOO FAST :)

Look into co-sleepers. They look like a pack and play, but they can be attached to the side of your bed. My son slept is one until he was old enough to roll over and pull himself up.

We co slept with all 4 of our kids until 3yo. This was a lifestyle choice for us and we do not regret it and it wasn't a Bad Habit (I really hate that people call it that, they are obviously ignorant about it and should keep their opinions to themselves). You need to read up on how to do it safely, and how to avoid unsafe sleeping practices. People all over the world sleep with their kids and it's not wrong, but you do have to eliminate the risk of suffocation. As they get older it's more important to prevent them from falling out of bed.

Transitioning a child out of the family bed is not difficult and they will sleep alone eventually. We just didn't see the necessity in forcing them to do it before they were ready. If this is what you want to do google "family bed" and Dr. Sears and read up on doing it safely. And ignore the naysayers, it's your baby not theirs.

Ah yes, my favorite question! My answer: You do what is best and works for you and your family! My middle child is disabled and when he was little the KID DID NOT SLEEP FROM 1-5 YEARS OLD! I am surprised me and DH are still married! No serious! We would stay up and work in shifts watching and trying to comfort a crying baby for hours and hours. We would go to work the next day with literally 2 hours of sleep, so guess what we did? We stuck the little terd in bed with us and he slept! ALL FREAKING NIGHT! You cant even begin to imagine how many people scolded me and told me how wrong i was and i was creating such a horrible habit... blah blah blah... You know what, by that time, i didnt give a hoot! If it works for you, GO FOR IT!

Momma... you have to do what you feel is best for your baby. There are a lot of co-sleepers on the market that may help you feel more comfortable having your baby sleep with you. Your child is only so small for a short time. If you want to sleep with your baby, then you do that and do not feel guilty or bad about it.

As for me, I don't co-sleep, because it really affects the quality of my sleep. Plus, I don't want kids in the bed hindering what little sex life I have with the hubby, ya know? But I know lots of Moms who do co-sleep, and I think it's a wonderful bonding experience that you will treasure for a lifetime.

I am so sorry for your friend's loss.

All 3 of my kids slept in bed with my husband and I. Not one of them is scared. When my husband is out of town, my baby (6) still sleeps with me. He normally goes to bed with me when I do and my husband takes him to bed when he comes up. It's what works for us. And it makes it better that my baby comes and asks if he can be my cuddle bug - I'm going to eat that up as long as I can.

So you do what works for you and everyone else has to cope.

I quickly turned into a co-sleeping mom with my first kiddo. I was constantly worried about him if he was sleeping in another room, and I can't imagine getting out of bed, walking across the hall, breastfeeding, then trying to get everyone back to sleep. It just seems crazy to me. I slept so much better having my baby close. My younger son just turned 3 and we are transitioning him to a bunkbed with his brother. Frankly, I have no problem with him in my bed as long as he wants! I love the extra snuggle time. I know that there will come a time when they don't want to cuddle with me, so I am taking what I can get now.
On the SIDS topic- I am willing to bet that co-sleeping babies in actuality have a very low instance of SIDS. Accidental deaths happen in co-sleeping situations and are nearly always the result of alcohol, drugs, morbid obesity, or a combination of the three. Infants deaths from these causes may be mis-classified as SIDS. Obviously, an infant is more likely to be harmed by a blind-drunk parent in the same bed versus in the crib, that can skew the statistics.

Get one of those co-sleeper beds from target or Walmart, etc. or get a porta-crib and put him next to you. The risk of course of putting a pillow or blanket barrier around your baby to protect him, is that your baby will turn on his side and be unable to turn back over and smother himself to death on the pillow/blanket prop. Without it you may smother him with your body or with your blankets you wrap around yourself while you sleep.
I'm actually all for co-sleeping. However not with an infant. Both my daughters we had in a crib next to the bed. Once they were 1-2 years old and waking up at night we started co-sleeping. To me I was too scared of accidentally killing my babies to risk it.

What would I do? I get him back in his bed ASAP.

We had 8 kids and my wife only let the last two sleep in our bed. What a mistake. She would put them in their bed initially, but as soon as the first whimper came from their room the would bring them to our bed and nurse them to sleep. Then she would not get up and put them back in their bed where they belonged.

This bad habit is extremely hard to break. And the longer you let them sleep in your bed, the harder it is to break. Then it causes sleep problems for the child until much later in their childhood. My 7th slept in our bed until my wife came home from the hospital when our 8th was born. Our 8th slept in our bed until he was around 8 years old. Fortunately he began kicking in his sleep and he kicked toward my wife. She finally decided he could sleep in his own bed. But every night for about two years he would bring his blankets into our room an sleep on the floor on my wife's side of the bed. (He slept on my wife's side of the bed after I had to get up in the middle of the night and fell over him.)

After we finally got him to sleep in his own bed and in his own room, he would get in his older brother's bed to sleep with him.

Get him out of your bed and into his own bed ASAP. It is best in the long run. BTW, the reason most kids wake up when you put them down into their own bed is because the baby is cuddled up against you and nice and warm. Then when you put them down in their bed, the bed is cold and the covers are cold and it a shock to their body and they wake up. Cuddle them in a quilt or something similar. Then when you lay them down in the warm quilt, they don't feel the bed's cold blankets.

Good luck to you and yours.

As the mom of a Preemie whom now happens to be a NICU nurse. She and I will both tell you stop putting him in bed with you now. She see's all kinds of stories where the family always put baby to bed with parents, usually not with a good outcome. I understand how you feel I felt the same way when she was born. Can you put a bassinet next to your bed or put his crib in your room. As long as your pregnancy was a healthy one with a normal delivery and you aren't a smoker everything should be fine. I also has a child who refused to sleep in his bed. Studies have shown a child who sleeps in his/her own bed are much more rested. This then helps with being more healthy, learning and development is improved as well. At one month it should be fairly easy to transition him to his own bed. There may be a few nights of fussing but not more than 5 days. Try to find what helps him sleep such as music or some sort of white noise. Sometimes even the steady hum of a fan will work. Just remember no pillows or stuffed toys should be in bed with him. Sometimes warming the crib with a heating pad or warm water bottle before putting him down will work. (Take out pad before putting baby down). Just by taking the chill off the sheets made my son settle in easier.

Depending on his age move him to a crib besiDe your bed so he is close but not in the bed

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Don't sleep with him, it not only is a bad habit, but it's also a risk of you rolling over on him and or him suffocating on the pillows.

Put him in a rocker for now or a vibrating seat. Both of our two slept in one of these for about the first 2-3 months. Then move to the bassinet for a month or two. Then to the crib.

No co-sleeping, it is dangerous especially for a tiny new born...An adult could easily roll over on a baby when they fall asleep. Put your baby in a bassinette beside your bed and that will be plenty close enough so you can get to your baby for feedings.

I'm very sad/sorry for your friend's loss.

Please do not worry about setting a bad habit. Your baby is so young. He is going to change his sleeping habits often in the next 6 months. Do what works! Co-sleeping is a great habit. Babies thrive when they are physically held and loved. This is a good thing! There are things you can do to make co-sleeping safe:

http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/health-concerns/sleep-pr...

Both of my boys co-slept with us during different phases. My oldest was not a good sleeper at all until I let him sleep with us. This was the only way for us to get any sleep at all. He use to wake up every time I tried to put him back in his crib.

One trip I learned for nap-time was to lie down with him in the middle of our bed, nurse him to sleep and the slowly role away. This was before he could role over.

Once he learned to role over, my husband decided it would be safest to remove our bed frame, place our mattress and box springs on the floor and surround the bed with pillows, just in case he fell out. He never did fall out, but my husband slept better than way.

ETA - Both of our boys began sleeping in their own beds when they were 16 months old. They did, from time to time, visit our bed in the middle of the night, but we have had no trouble whatsoever getting them to sleep in their own bed.

There is a huge difference between allowing a newborn to sleep in your bed and allowing a 2 year old (or 8 year old) to sleep in your bed. A newborn has very different needs than a 2 year old. You have plenty of time between now and 6 months from now to change things if it is not working. Right now co-sleeping is working, so why change what ain't broke? When it is not longer working (for one of you), you will find a way to change something so that you are once again both sleeping at night.

I have a grandson who was born in December. My best friend back then had a grandson born in January. Hers died the first of February.

I went a little crazy. I would sit all night and watch my grandson sleep. I was so afraid if I closed my eyes I would open them and he'd be dead. It was the worst time of my life.

I finally talked to the doc and asked him for one of those heart monitor things just so I could sleep at night. He wouldn't give me one. I cried and cried when I got home. I still had a hard time letting it go but eventually because I finally just had to sleep and my husband made me.

It's the hardest thing you have to do. Can I suggest you do something?

Put the crib up beside your side of the bed. Take out the side table or other furniture. Then when you lay down at night put the baby in the crib and put your hand through the rails so you can feel the baby. This way you can have that contact with the baby's skin but there isn't any risk to them from your body during your heavy sleep.

This is a topic on which you will get many differing answers, because it is yet unrproven if infant deaths which occur while cosleeping are due to SIDS or asphyxiation.

Some studies state that cosleeping is more dangerous: https://www.dur.ac.uk/resources/isis.online/statements/Ca...

And some studies show that cosleeping is safer: http://www.unicef.org.uk/BabyFriendly/News-and-Research/N...

You're going to have to research and figure out what makes the most sense to you.

You are concerned about your baby because of your friends loss, so you put him in bed with you?????!!? Um, if you were concerned you would make sure he slept in his crib. So very dangerous!!!! Please put him in crib where he belongs.

Little babies are noisy when sleeping. Even if you are not a light sleeper you become one.

When my daughter was little, she was in a small baby bed next to the bed and I could reach down and pick her up to nurse and put her back in her bed. She could hear and smell me. A few times I woke up to find that she was still in the bed between us asleep. Hubby was afraid he would roll over on her so we kept her on the side of the bed in her bed. After about six months and when the bed got too small, she was transitioned to her crib in her brother's room. I could also hear her cries at that time. When she was sick or her brother was sick, I would make up a bed and lay on the floor in the room with them and take care of them.

I know you have to do what you have to do. But it made for a baby that slept in her own crib and was not afraid to go to sleep on her own. She was used to being in the crib and had no fear of it from the start.

Everyone slept better in their own personal space.

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