Should I Tell My Husband About This Dream?

okay really it is a dream he doesnt need to know anything about it , it is not real. Honestly everybody has dreams I have cheated, lied, and ever killed in dreams seriously nobody knows but me - well now you do you feel better?

It's just a dream - it doesn't mean anything. I have had dreams in which I starred in an x-rated episode of "I Love Lucy" while wearing kabuki makeup, rode a pillow like a sled down the freeway, and killed the Jolly Green Giant. None of them had any relation to reality.

I wouldn't, but I know how things like that stick with you. Just make sure he knows how much you love him :)

No.

Blessings....

NO, HES HUMAN, IT MIGHT START A CHAIN OF SUSPESION. -Its just a dream.

It was just a dream. Last night I had a dream that involved the cast of the movie Titanic, a dollar store, and a mafia family. lol Yeah. Weird. I have had dreams smiliar to your's. I never tell anyone bc it is just a dream. I would never do anything like that in a million years, and there is no need to upset my hubby over something imaginary.

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What benefit would it be to tell your husband about this dream and take the chance that he will question your marriage.

It was just a dream, not real and not fair to tell him because you know he will think about it, all the possibilities/scenerios and then you have an insecure husband on top of the disconnection you already have.

Keep it to yourself and work on your marriage.

Noooooooooo you don't need to tell him. It was a dream about your own worries and problems in your marriage lately and in the dream you "acted out" a worst case scenario. You have nothing to feel guilty about because it didn't actually happen.

That's not to say that you shouldn't talk to your husband again, though. I think that you need to talk to your husband about how distant you've been feeling emotionally and how you want to reconnect. Maybe the dream-him pushing you away to go out with someone else represents your real-him pushing you away to go out and do things without him in real life... he's not connecting with you and doing things with you or engaging in a life together even though he's "right there." He's not being conversational or interactive but in your dream, you weren't either... and that needs to change between you.

So talk about it. But don't tell him about the dream. Just... don't.

I would say don't tell him. But use it as a reminder to yourself that you really do love your husband.

He's a guy and I doubt he'd quite understand the significance of you telling him anyhow. It could also cause some doubt in your relationship as well. You need to focus on positive things between you and your husband. Figure out what's going on deep inside your heart, you have to find that out before you can understand why you're feeling disconnected and lonely, let alone how to fix it.

No. The dream is probably about something completely different.

Is there something else you need to tell him about? He's not meeting your needs on some level and it just came through as an example.

Under no circumstances should you tell him about the dream.

I think you feel guilty and you think that "confessing" this sex dream will ease your conscience. You are wrong. It will only hurt your husband. Is that what you want to do?

Instead, do with your husband what you did with the neighbor in the dream. Enjoy it and move on.

The fact that you cheated in the dream doesn't really mean you want or will ever cheat in your entire life with a real or hypothetical neighbor! Dreams form from so many different things that mix up in our heads: memories, fears, desires, instincts, needs and to try to find the real meaning could be interesting but equally useless.I say keep your dream to yourself as it is non comprehensible to you, so how could anybody else (especially your hubby) understand it? It isn't cheating, either, under any point of view, so you should not feel so overwhelmingly guilty and tell your husband. People dream about relatives dying or losing their children in a crowd or becasue a stranger takes them away from them...does that mean they WANT for these horrible things to happen? Rest reassured...a dream is not a big deal.

No. Use it as a wake up call to yourself to continue to work on ways to reconnect to him, even if he doesn't see the disconnect. But there's no need to rattle him with your dream.

When is the last time you went out on a date? Sounds corny, I know, but my husband and I have been to A LOT of marriage counselors and one of our first homework assignments is invariably to go on a date. There must be something to it if everyone harps on it LOL. So if it's been a while since you've been out having fun as a couple, plan a date and see if it helps you to feel more connected!

I have this dream too. Idk, I think mine is the past we have been through. He cheated years ago and I think about it (this was when we were 19 way before marriage). Our lives get busy and we fuss at each other and I get bad thoughts. When I tell him he tells me im being stupid. Yell him, see what he says. Im sure your just fine!

Nope. Some things are better left to ourselves, lest he think that somewhere in the back of your mind you've been considering it.

The short answer is no, just like the rest of these ladies. However, you need to really look at the rest of your question. I believe the sense of relief you felt upon waking was not just that it was a dream and you hadn't cheated on your husband, but that there is still time to work on your marriage and keep it from destruction. Telling your husband the details of your dream won't help anyone. Using the dream as incentive to get you and your husband motivated to improve your marriage.... now, there's a good idea.

I think your thinking way too much into it. I dont think it means trouble for your marriage at all. I have had dreams like that and I would never blame it on my husband. Im not sure if I told him or not, I think I did. Its just a dream. I also have dreams he cheats on me, and I know he never would.
You can tell him if you want, but dont look too much into it. If dreams were real I would have probably been dead a long time ago.

I dream cheat on my husband all the time, generally with Captain Jack Harkness from Torchwood (although sometimes it's the Doctor, or Methos, or Daniel Jackson....). I tell him about it, we think it's funny. Usually it's not really cheating, just me and Jack, but sometimes it feels like cheating because in the dream I know I'm married. I dont feel like it was cheating if I didnt know I was married in the dream.

I wouldn't tell my husband. I think it would put a doubt in his mind that I would never be able to fix. Reason is his first wife of 12 years cheated on him.
So for my situation I would not.

As for you I think that's something only you can answer. You know your husband I do not. :) I also think you shouldn't feel guilty about it either it was just a dream and you already know why you drempt it :)

Oh my goodness, I am so glad you listened to these ladies.

My $.02: Ages ago when I was young and cute and single/kid free, a lady told me that her husband had a dream he had an affair w/ me.
(They were frequent customers where I worked.)
It was INCREDIBLY awkward and I could see it was putting a huge amount of stress on their marriage. Shortly after that they stopped coming around...And I continued to see him (pure happenstance) out and about w/o his family. I don't know if their marriage survived. :(

I dated 2 men before DH. And I grew up w/ a bf that was a boy. A boy everyone jested I would marry.

Over the years I have had dreams about all of them-dreams that REALLY bothered me. And I am always glad I wake up to realize I am married to the man I am married too. Lol. What a sentence.

I have never divulged this info to DH, it would only hurt him. And cause him absolutely unnecessary insecurities.

Just forget about it. Go on a date and reconnect. Sounds like you are due. :)

I once had a dream that I was flying on a cloud like a magic carpet, and visited Paris, London and Fiji in one night. Then dream-me talked to my great grandfather (loooong dead) for a while before I floated on my cloud to a lake where I swam with these tiny little whales about the size of a trout. In the end, I ended up lying in a field of pink grass before my alarm woke me up (yes, this is a real dream of mine lol).

My point is, it was a dream. It doesn't mean it was a reality or will become a reality. Keep the dream to yourself and move on. Sharing it with your husband will only make him wonder, and that's not a good thing.