I've heard that breast feeding contributes to a low sex drive and that's certainly been my experience. Wondering if anyone else has had this experience of a low sex drive while breast feeding and how soon after weaning your sex drive came back.
I have experienced the same thing with both of my daughters. As I was weaning my first daughter my sex drive came back andd I am hoping the same thing will happen when I start weaning next month. Hang in there!
my friend called orgasms whiile bfing "boregasms" yep sex drive drops..try working out a bit..working out helps build up the sex drive..but yes bfing drives it down.
Mine was actually higher when I breastfeed... after I stopped it lowered. I also took the mini pill during the time I breastfeed & for a few years after I stopped, that is till we decided to try for #5, which is due in July. But for me I'm happiest when I'm home taking care of a baby & the family... which might be why my drive is up during that time. After all depression, happiness, over tiredness and hormones all play a part in sex drive. So, if you are going through an emotional time, your hormones are out of wack, you are taking a pill or any form of BC, or in any kind of pain... your drive will go down.
Sometimes it just takes a night away or some extra special time with the man you love to help the drive go back up... atleast for the night. Try to plan something special & go from there!!
Good luck and congratz on the baby & nursing.
Another thing to keep in mind is the emotional side to breastfeeding and sex.
At the end of the day when I have been nursed on a million times and held my baby all day....I have no desire to be touched by ANYONE least of all someone who wants something from me! :)
If I could schedule it, we'd actually have sex, but at 9pm, not so much.
Please don't consider weaning just to get your sex drive back. I don't know how old your child is, but as they nurse less and less you will feel some return to "normalcy" and your sex drive should return. At least that was my experience. As my son got closer to 1 and was eating more solids, then I felt like my body slowly adjusted back to being it's old self.
Its a small price to pay to provide amazing nourishment to your child.
Yes, breastfeeding does contribute to a low sex drive. It has to do with the hormones your body produces. I nursed my twins for 15 months, and it was right around the time they turned one that my drive truly came back. We hadn't weaned yet and it returned. We go through so much during our pregnancies and once the baby (or babies in my case) arrives, it will be great to feel "normal" again in that part of your life.
M.,
I nursed my first child until 2 and my second until around 18 months. With both kids, my sex drived came back when they consistently started sleeping through the night (around 2.5 to 3 for both of them - I birth horrible sleepers LOL). I know nursing can lower your sex drive but I think exhaustion is the bigger killer. And I know I found my husband much more attractive when he was helping more and I was overwhelmed less (which ebbed and flowed with both kids - sometimes he was a lot of help and sometimes none at all).
In the meantime, find a good lubricant and keep trying. I found that I had to kind of force myself to want to (aka not say no) but once we got going it was okay, especially if we used lots of lubricant. It just took a lot more to get my motor going...
:-)T.
Consider the possibility that the actual breastfeeding isn't necessarily the cause of your low libido. Are you getting enough sleep? Are you getting enough nutrition? Are you able to have some "adult" time not just with your spouse, but time alone to really pamper yourself and feel more feminine? It's very easy to get caught up in being "Mommy", and if you still carry a little pregnancy weight, haven't had time to get your hair done or even sahve your legs, and haven't had a decent night's sleep in months- well, sex isn't at the top of the list, is it?
Hormones CAN lower your libido, or raise it, and breastfeeding and post-pregnancy fluctuations can affect that, absolutely. But all the factors I mentioned above can also cause hormone changes and emotional exhaustion. So maybe it would be worth it to increase your nutrition and rest, go have a spa day, and see if a romantic dinner alone with your husband doesn't kick start those old feelings! You are not alone, that's for sure- we all go through this!
Mine was low during breastfeeding (nursed for a year). After weaning, it came back within 2 months (along with my period, which had been absent throughout). Good luck!
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i doubt breastfeeding is the cause of that. it could be stress or baby blues. use foreplay, that helps ALOT. good luck!
