Other Moms Seeking Me Out Instead of Telling Me They Can't Talk, Are So Busy,

Without knowing the whole story, of course, I think you're being a little paranoid. Maybe they did really have to go but ran into a friend and got sidetracked; it happens and it's not malicious. How do you know that they aren't close friends with one another? When they had more time and they believed you wanted to be friends/be involved in activities, they're trying to be friendly. I say give these women a few more tries to be friends before you write them off for some questionably questionable behavior.

Give them a chance. THey may have been overwhelmed that day or saw another friend they actually needed to say something to. They may not have known how to take you right away and needed a little time.
I have moved many times, military, my best friend in NC was a lady who thought I was not her type. I thought she was in the cool mom crowd adn didn't want to have anything to do with me. After we got to meet a couple times we realized how much we were alike and how much we really needed each other, deployed hubbies, her new baby, etc. She truly is my best friend.
Give these gals another chance.

Congratulations! It sounds like you are learning more productive social skills. As a "former" shy person, I had to learn these skills, too. It's hard to say why those women are now not treating you as "clingy," but there's a real possibility that they experienced you that way. If you are now successfully spreading your "friendliness" around to more people, it's possible that they are less concerned that they will be needed to meet your social wishes. It's also possible your perception of what is happening socially is changing, if you feel like you're doing a better job of connecting to others.

Thinking of others in judgmental terms, like "unfriendly snobs," will never help either your happiness or your ability to relate to other people, so I hope you will resist doing that.

At any rate, I'm glad you've been making progress socially. It sounds like your willingness to break out of your own shyness is paying off. Good work!

Peg M said exactly what I was thinking. Accept their friendship as friendship and get to know them. It might enrich your life or you might feel like it's not worth your time. Judging them on what you might very well have misunderstood means that you'll be missing out on something potentially grand. They might be wondering why you're not being more friendly and receptive. If it turns out that you don't find them fabulous, well, nothing lost, right?

My dd went to a small school that is an intentional community. I remember many occasions of really having to leave and saying so, then being roped in by someone I cared a lot for and hadn't seen in a while... and getting late. I think you're being too sensitive.

Perhaps they are shy or insecure about meeting new people too. I'm not shy at all, but was told by a shy friend of mine that I'm SO friendly that it's intimidating sometimes. The people who you think are "ignoring" you or even being mean probably need more people to be nice to them!

Making friends... also entails KNOWING how you are and your personality... and KNOWING what kind of women, would compliment that or be the same as you or women who have the same type of personality as you etc.
That is called 'compatibility.'

Friends are either acquaintances or 'friends' with whom YOU don't mind hanging out with, or calling or having conversations or play dates with.

For me, I don't just blindly make friends with anyone. I CHOOSE my friends.
I also don't care, if I have no friends at my daughter's school or not.
But I do.
But I have nurtured these friendships... with the women I have a commonality with or get along with.
It is conscious.
Not blindly done.

So, just being friendly is good. But beyond that and having actual 'friends'.... with other Moms... is something that occurs like a rock collecting moss. Gradually. And with all your senses open to any red-flags or not... and if you feel comfortable with that person.

Just because some people are friendly or not, does not make them 'snobby' or not a 'friend.' Some people, are just introverts. Or some women are snobby.
But you need to be able to discern that... and not take it personally.

I personally, am only friendly... with other Moms whom I know I 'connect' with.... or I know that we can 'relate' to each other. I am friendly and social with everyone... but that does not mean they are my 'friend' or I am to them.... or that it will progress to actual outings or play dates together.
I can know, the difference.

There are, 'acquaintances' or there are 'friends.' And there are different friends for different things. Some women I am friends with at my daughter's school... but that does not mean it will progress to outside activities and get togethers. Fine.
Then others, I know are more personal, and we exchange phone numbers and have ACTUAL outings. It is mutual. And we are friends, OUTSIDE of the given venue.

Different shades of gray.

all the best,
Susan