Sometimes it's hard for guys to just join up without "help". I've been working out at a local fitness center and liking it, and have JUST gotten him to join up to go with me as a "couples thing". But once he gets going on that, he'll be able to branch out and join up with some classes or raquetball, tennis, or basketball nights as he feels comfortable. I know you said he doesn't like sports, but you can use that idea for whatever he DOES like. Join something to do as a couple for quality time, and as he feels comfortable he could add stuff to do. Our community also has lots of clubs and teams (cooking, chess, bunko, gardening, tennis, swimming, etc) and maybe you could check to see if there's something your community offers that would be of interest to him, or both of you. We also got involved in church and after a few months, he started going to the occasional men's breakfasts. We also go to a small group at church for married couples and he gets a little social time with the men while we women socialize after the Bible study. If he has something he's interested in that he knows how to do, I'd suggest you ask him about it and show a little interest in it. An example of this is that I KNOW I hate tennis and will never be good but he played it a million years ago. I asked him about it and asked him to show me how to hit it a little, and after a couple weeks I suppose he mentioned it at work because now he does that with some guys from work one weekend a month and I don't have to go (whew!). It gets him remembering that he does have interests that he may have forgotten about, and gets the juices flowing again for that....and he can either seek out someone to do that with (meetup.com) or will talk about it in his circle and make a friend that way. Check online wherever you're from, for us it's fortworthchild.com for the calendar of events/activities to do as a parent. This is another way to get him out and having some fun: I've found things like father/son fishing day at the local park, Fossil Rim had some camping thing where they TEACH you how to camp with your kids, a guided canoe trip, stuff like that is what my husband has opted for. That way he's doing something in the name of being a good dad, but it's good for him too! And finally, along the same lines as joining the gym together, we also have taken classes (cooking classes, Spanish classes, toured the local theater and got season passes for that, scuba classes, and we will be taking latin dancing classes). It's fun to do together, as a date thing to improve yourselves, but it also leads to "REAL" dates (out dancing, getting scuba certified got us on a cruise shortly after, etc), but you can meet like-minded people in those classes. And finally, there's always SOMETHING to volunteer for.