What is to love about her life??
Does she have friends? Does she have hobbies that you and your husband help to nurture? Do you do things fun as a family? Are you involved in any service organizations that will help her to put life in perspective..and help her feel she has power over bringing joy to others' lives?
I think it is great that you are going to talk to a doctor about this. Way to go M. for reaching out for help here..and in the medical community. Let her have some time alone to talk to the doctor. Our son,13, trusts his pediatrician so much and can talk to her about anything. He hasn't shared anything yet with her that he hasn't already chatted to us about. But...maybe there will be a day he feels he has no one...but this doctor could keep him on the right track.
I don't know how serious your daughter is when she says this, or how often the anger and crying keeps her from enjoying life. When she is unable to find ways to cope through anger,crying and sadness...then she needs to learn skills from another source.
I wish you the best. It is hard being a mom and watching our children struggle.
She is approaching..or could be in the throws of puberty right now. Hormones are a beast to deal with at this age. Heck..I have a hard time with PMS and have to talk myself down from fits of impatience each month. It is so hard on the immature pre teen..and teen.
Open communication will be the key to unlocking the door to your daughter's heart. Listen without too much talking on your part. Spend time with her doing things SHE likes to do. A walk, go get a smoothie, rent a movie and pop a big bowl of popcorn. Let her enjoy time with you...let her open up on her terms.
Good luck and best wishes!!