L.A.
Mom, this is going to be a little harsh but here it goes,
"Get yourself together!"
Ever see the movie "Moonstruck" Cher and Nicholas Cage. He is all worried and morose all of the time and Cher's character listens for a while and then she all of a sudden slaps him and yells "SNAP OUT OF IT".
This is the virtual. "Snap out of it! "
You are the parent. Even when we are worried, freaked out and concerned about our children, we suck it up and act like we are positive, everything is going to be ok.
When that boy said that to your son and then your son shared it with you, you should have ended it right there by saying. "Oh give me a break! No ones eyes fall out. If he says that again, you tell him to keep it himself"
There done end of the drama.
Parents should not enable morose thoughts and behaviors in our children, instead we take charge and say, I am not going to let that happen, you are totally fine son. Go play.. I love you.
Stomach aches in our home calls for a few sips of bubbly water or a sprite or tums. We do NOT make this a big deal. If he continues to say he does not feel well, it means a rest in bed. Maybe listening to some soft music or reading.
A headache is a cool towel over their eyes and some rest.
Your son is way stronger than you are giving him credit. He needs to be given some responsibilities and held to them. He needs to take out the trash, feed the pest, walk the pets, Help sort laundry, help fold clothing. He needs to start learning how to cook. You can call out items to him to make up the weekly grocery list. Then when you gop to the store, he will be your assistant. He can read the list and tell you what is the best prices.
And each time these things are done and completed successfully, you need to praise him.
No more hand wringing, you set the emotional tone in your home. If you need some professional help, go and get it. You are the mom, no one messes with the Mama's!
Mom