I don't think there is a darn thing wrong with complaining about our kids. My kids are NOT rotten but they aren't perfect either. I would hate to have "perfect" kids. How boring would that be?
My son was more of a challenge than my daughter. Loved them both beyond compare but there were moments I wasn't sure how this was all going to turn out.
I am so proud of the adults they are now. They have really come into their own and yes, their father and I had a lot to do with that. We made sure they understood the value of a dollar and education. We were parents not friends. We handed out punishments as well as a tremendous amount of love. Sometimes saying "NO" is showing love. When they were growing up we didn't have a lot of money. We went to the parks fed ducks, watched movies and had game night. Went for walks and would ride our bikes. We did things as a family. One of my requirements was eating dinner at home every night as a family. That is so important.
Yes, we spanked both kids and with all due respect, I have no guilt about it. That said, we had to learn our children's "currency". My daughter would get upset if I just looked at her sideways, our son you could beat to death and he would say "that didn't hurt", BUT if you took money away or his stuff, then you had his attention. Each child is different.
These kiddos of mine are super awesome adults and I am so proud of the people they are. Both are college graduates, gainfully employed, living on their own. Neither did drugs or drank much. Didn't get into trouble with the law, although my son did his best his first couple of years in HS. =) Our son is engaged to a wonderful young lady and will be married in May. Our daughter ended a 6 year relationship (yay!!) last year. She took time off and got to know herself again. She is pretty amazing and funny as hell.
So yes, I love my kids but right now, I like them. A few years ago? Not so much. =)