I do notice that, and you bring up a good point. I would like to hear others' responses to this bc I have a feeling I should be open to hearing and seeing this topic discussed.
I am a SAHM (for the most part, I also go to school) but have been the career woman too. So I see both sides of the coin.
I am of the opinion (slightly) that when I hear SAHMs complain so much, I get a little bothered by it. I think it's normal to complain to some extent, but I am sore on women who seem to be perpetually put-off by their "job" as a mother every time I see them or visit them or notice their status scroll by on my facebook "news feed" etc. I try not to judge bc I know that EVERY child is different and not every child can be like my two girls so maybe others have it so much worse than me. But I feel hurt bc I wonder if all this anger, resentment, exhaust, annoyance, and pissy mood is finding its way back to the child.
It's different if you are in the office or corporate world and you are moody and your coworkers catch on. They are adults and can pull up their big people panties and deal with it.
When Mommies get so out of it, complain, lose it- etc... little kids don't have the capacity to handle that so my initial reaction to constant complaining is "man I hope the kid doesnt hear this" or "man I hope their child isnt in tune to all this". I'm just defensive of the child, that's all.
Being a SAHM is a tough job that comes with higher standards than "regular" jobs.
Take for instance, the military or police officers. They take an oathe and actually lose some liberties of the constitution bc part of their job is to protect US.
Sort of the same with SAHMs.
We lose a lot of liberties when we make that choice. And when we choose to take on this amazing, proud, wonderful, elite job- we should accept that s**tstorms that will come our way and face them with dignity bc our kids deserve that.