How Often Do You "Do It"?

well, this passed week has been 0 since he has been sick and i have been on my time of the month. lol.but USUALLY i would say about 4 times a week.

1-2, sometimes more, sometimes less. If I don't feel like having sex (too tired, don't want to make the effort, or I already know that it won't be good for me) and he does, I'll offer an alternative (bj or hand job).

Well before kids at least once a week. Now with 3, a preschooler, toddler, and newborn its only been twice in the past two months.

If he feels like you are depriving him, then you are. I think we have all been there at some point in marriage, for the most part, men want it, and once we have little kids, we don't. Take it from an older lady, who has been there, done that, and don't tell him that he is getting enough, try your hardest to give him what he wants, he wants you because he loves you and it could not be anymore simple than that. It does not matter if we like how they feel about things, telling them to get used to living life the way we think is not going to change the way he feels one little bit. Sex, and sandwhiches. If you are not having sex with him, make him a sandwhich. Soon, if he is getting it as much as he likes, you will see that your work load is less, he is happy, and he would do anything for you because he feels so loved. Men feel love through sex, ask him if this is true. He will never get used to thinking like a woman, he just won't. I can tell you, that since I did this, my life has never been better. The more sex you have, the more sex you want to have, and you are the only naked woman in the room, and he wants you to want him as much as he wants you. Secret of life.

And, when we were younger, almost every day, now every other day in that fifty year range, but since he knows he will have as much as makes him happy, it is never an issue if we go longer. Makes them feel loved, and secure. You will never know what you are missing if you don't give it a try, but I can tell you that you will get more of the same guilt trip if you don't.

Good luck! and much happiness ahead!
M.

Not enough!!!!!!lol!!!!!

Wow - you guys must be younger or more energetic than we are! In my 50s, I work and drive teens all over town, attends their sporting events (track meet all day today) my husband works on a different schedule than mine, we both have sick elderly parents so - usually once a week - sometimes 2 x a week, sometimes once in 2 weeks. All depends on the other stresses of life at the time... But we try to enjoy eachother.

But for those of you with young kids and lots of stuff that needs to get done around the house - husband re generally happier with more sex - it's how they feel loved. So if you're tired and are thinking of al that work that needs to get done - you'll get alot more accomplished if you spend a little time on a Saturday morning with your husband. He'll be much happier doing chores...and you'll feel more connected to eachother - bonus all around!

A few times a week.
If we had it the way we want it, it would be everyday or more. ;)

1-2 times a week unless I'm having my period or it's really cold.

Widely varies, but they say that the more you do it, the more women want it. I've noticed that for sure.

That being said, we go from several times a week to once a month. Typically, we average once a week though.

Once a week minimum. There are plenty of good weeks...and they can vary :) Besides the 6 weeks after birth...or my surgery or hubbys surgery... i don't think we have ever waited any more than a week or two.
(we have been together for 16 years)

BUT... i was told on here that i am not normal :(

Usually once or twice a week.

Every other day.
= )

You said that you are wondering if you and your husband are normal,
what about you guys. How often are the two of you doing it?

When he's not being a jerk, daily. But we're on the upper end AND we've decreased by a factor of about 5. In the beginning (first few years before kids and first couple after) it was a couple to several times a day. I want sex more often than he does... but it's easier to get a guy past the point of no return than it is to get a girl there. As he's found when I'm seriously unhappy with him. I can be angry and still have great sex/ want sex... but NOT if I'm unhappy or tired.

Just remember that what every one else has said works for them and it's you and your husband that need to agree on what is best for both of you.

About 3-4 nights a week on average. If we're really getting along more, if we're not getting along less... ;) He prefers nights and I prefer mornings so whenever we can meet in the middle.

After 30 years of marriage every day usually.

1-2 times a week...last week was 4 but that is definitely not the "usual" for us.

2-3 times a week. In the 11years we have been married the longest we have gone without is 2 weeks.

Wow Jaimee - awesome. We are 1x on average.

I feel cranky if it is less than 4 or 5 times per week, but try to be realistic, too. We work opposite schedules, so we're usually tired when the other one is not, so I try not to complain if it is at least once or twice per week. Before I was pregnant and my belly has gotten pretty uncomfortable again (I'm almost 27 weeks now) I think we were usually 5-6 times per week. I have no idea what is normal, but we both enjoy doing things so both feel a little deprived when we don't manage it as often as we would like. I sometimes feel like I am more interested than he is, but I think the case is usually that he ends up exhausted from work and then gets a "S. wind" after I've fallen asleep for the night. We've got little ones so daytime is out but I'm always telling him to wake me up anytime--that is a good reason for me to have my sleep interrupted. :)

Well, it depends. I will first say that the most we have since we've been married is once a day. It only happened once in the 11 years we've been married. The longest time we have gone without, barring illness, pregnancies, surgeries, is probably 2 weeks. On average we get together twice a week. Whatever is good for the two of you and your needs is what is "normal" for you. Most often men want it more and if a woman is getting her other emotional needs met then she will be in the mood as well. If there are big stressors in the house then the sex is the first to go.

If I'm lucky about 2-3 times a week. I could have it everyday with these crazy pregnancy hormones! ;)

We "do it" (hehe) at least once every other day. But my husband is coming back next week from Iraq, so I am sure we will be doing it alot more often ;)

2-3 normally but I have female problems right now and maybe once a week if hes lucky. I am going through a phase I dont lubricate and it hurts.

Once a month, maybe, I have no drive (two kids under 4 1/2).

Loved your question- it is something I have often wondered about as well. I have a 7 month old, a 2.5 yr old, starting a new home business, and hubby works about 60 hrs a week. There are times we go a week plus with out. But we talk about it everyday, just when we get up at 5, and go to bed at 11- not a whole lot of energy left. At this point with the kids- we sort of have to schedule it in, and then it is a date! But with my pregnancy hormones- we were at 2-4 times a day. I now tell him that was to carry us over! lol Hoping things get a little more active soon! :)

I'm so glad you posted this, I was wondering myself. We've been so exhausted since the birth of our 3rd child (a YEAR AGO!!) that I feel like we never get to anymore. BUT when we do... it's awesome. Quailty, not quantity I say!! We're lucky if we get it 6 times a month... it's so bad ;) I feel like I should put forth more effort, but... he's not exactly begging for it either. We definately could use some extra spark!!

1-2 times a week on a good week, once a month when we are really busy/kid is sick/we're sick, etc. . . 1-2 times a week is honestly perfect for us. I can't even imagine wanting to have sex everyday! Well, not since I was about 19, lol.

About once every 9-10 days or so. Used to be more, but with two kids and working full time, I'm just too tired.

1-2 times a week, but I know he wants it more. It is very frustrating b/c men seem to "need" it and women do not need it and it is a never ending battle (that I have with myself). It is extremely annoying, but I know I have to give it to him or he will cheat on me (he didn't tell me that, I just know he or any man would). I am too tired for sex at this point in my life, but I still give it to him 1-2 times per week. Arg!

If I can get away with it once... but about twice...

We are also 1-3 times/week, but honestly I wish is more, shoot, I know he does too, but we're just so tired! I keep hoping that when the kids are a little older it will get better. I also think it's pretty normal to fluctuate from week to week...life gets in the way sometimes! ;)

1 to 2 times a week. Of course it's more when we're on vacation or our daughter isn't home. LOL

Actually it depends on how tired he is...on average I'd say 3-4 times a week. Sometimes more sometimes less.

We average about 2-4 times a week I would guess with 2 kids (11 & 9), been together 14 years. Of course in the beginning before kids & all it was more like 2-3 times daily, lol!

My husband & I went through a fairly long period of time right after the kids who are only 17 months apart where he acted like he was killed that I didn't have the time or energy for more than that. He was upset, I was upset, it was not good. But we got past it & now have a nice compromise I think!

I swear I just answered this same question....

Depends upon the decade of our lives:

In my 20's - about 2-3 times a day...oh, those were the days ;)
In my 30's - about 1x day
In my 40's - about 1-2x week
In my 50's - about 1-2 x month. Would like more but hubby travels too much :(

The longest period of abstinence was about 1 year. Way too long, but lots of medical and health issues to contend with. But there was a lot of cuddling, holding, spooning. We were fine, but very nice to restart.

Were usually 1-2 times a week. Not that we don't want it daily, but with jobs and children usually by the time we can fit it in were both 2 tired....lol.

In the beginning like most of u 2-3 times a day, the goes to 1x a day then to a few times a week....
oh to be young again...lol :)

About once a year if I'm lucky.

every night
twice a night zomg

3 to 4 times a week on average. Sometimes more if we can get away from the kids.

We average about every other day. We have 3 kids (5, 2, and 4 months), so we don't do it as much as we'd like:)

It can fluxuate, but generally 5-6 times/week sometimes more----

What is normal for one couple may seems strange to another. If both partners are happy then it doesn't matter if it is once a day or once a month. I would take the answers you get with a grain of salt considering most people lie about sex most of the time. At least that's what I've found to be true.

Well, now that I'm uncomfortable big and pregnant, not even close to enough. But, before I was pregnant, it ranged from week to week, sometimes once a week, sometimes it was everyday. So I would say on average 3 times a week . . . It depends on our schedules a lot.

WOW! I'm a little bit jealous! We are typically 1-2 times a week and I thought after 16 years together we were doing pretty good....apparently not as good as some of you :)
My hubby has also been through a lot of medical "stuff" the last 2 years so that has taken a toll on our intimacy. Hoping to get it back to where it was!

5 times a week usually... I love it.