Help! My 2 1/2 y.o. Puts up a Fight Every Time Its Bedtime...

I'd say your only issue is you're not committing to the course until you see it through to the end.

If you just put her back in bed without saying anything, you have to KEEP DOING IT until she gives up. Basically you are pitting your will against her's so you have to keep doing it until she realizes that she's not going to win. That might mean 10 times, it might mean ALL NIGHT. Do know that it will get easier, but you have to COMMIT to it, and know that there will be a few nights where it takes hours and hours for her to go down. You just can't give up and you certainly can't lose your temper over it.

You read for only 30 minutes? That's not long enough, not in the beginning. Maybe after she gets in the groove of things.

You're going to have to commit to a course and then stick with it for a LONG time. There are many options beyond what Supernanny suggests, but if you don't commit to the FULL COURSE of any of them, then nothing will work.

Good luck!

I tried all the nice ways I could to convince my DD to calm down and go to sleep when she went through a period like this. Nothing worked.

(We even had a nice, long bedtime routine... Pick up toys, brush teeth, potty, pajamas, goodnight loves to the household, then 2-3 books.)

So I got a little mean. She liked to sleep with the door open, and the hall light on (in addition to her nightlight.) So, I told her that if she didn't stop yelling I would turn off the light. And I did. Of course, that made her scream and yell LOUDER. After a little while, I flipped the light back on and told her that I would turn it off if she didn't stop yelling. The first night, I probably stood next to the hall light switch for a good hour (I left it off for about 5 minutes before giving her another chance... I would go in and help her calm down, then tell her that if she cried again I would turn the light back off) before she got the idea that telling and crying for no reason = light off. The next night only took three light-outs before she stopped. The third night, she only had to be threatened with lights out. After that she went to bed just fine. Even now, in the rare instances that she acts up, I just have to ask her if she needs me to turn off the light and she will quiet down immediately.

Maybe she needs a new lovey to sleep with. I'm not sure what you replaced the paci with... but if she needed it to help her sleep, maybe she needs something new to help her.

Have you considered dropping the nap so she'll go down easier at night?
Either way, make some changes in the bedtime routine. Get an analog clock and put a bed sticker or teddy bear sticker on the time you want her to go to bed. Act like you have stopped deciding when it is bedtime, the clock now tells you and her when it is bedtime. Even you cannot argue with a clock. "oh look the clock is almost at bedtime we better choose pajamas!"
Everything that is reasonable on her" list of things she needs" will be by her bed, if she sometimes asks for water, have it by her bed every night. If she sometimes says she's hungry, give a last, filling but small, snack (banana,or peanut butter crackers) right before brushing teeth. Teddy bear, doll, blankie, favorite book under her pillow, all are reasonable and can all be there. food or milk after brushing teeth is not reasonable, dentists says so. and then stick with the super nanny routine of not saying anything, you've seen on the show that for the first few nights it takes hours and hours! But keep telling yourself, this is just for three or four nights, not forever! Put a comfy chair and good book in the hallway outside her room and camp out.

You know, I don't have any issues with kids taking a pacifier as long as they need them. Obviously she needs this.

You can choose to continue what you're doing or let her have the pacifier.

I don't recommend keeping her up. If she goes to prd-K and/or kindergarten they'll make her lay down for naps. If she will lay there quietly then they don't care if she sleeps or not but most kids won't lay there for that long and be quiet. So I always encourage parents to keep that nap as long as possible.

If she's going to bed too early then she may just not be tired. If she's waking up too early then she's going to bed too early.

Just work through this. Chose if you want to continue how things are going or do you want to succeed and get her down.

Try laying down with her for 5-10 min until she settles in, use the no talking , engaging method just have a routine, bath, book, now time to lie done, as she starts to get comfortable with the new routine start making the time you lie down with her less like up to 5 min. Eventually she will like the new routine and 5min cuddle time and hopefully it will get better. Its probably just a phase but u have to show her who's boss otherwise it will only get worse. Routines work the best
And consistency. Keep putting her back to bed if she gets up until she stops it may take a few days for her to realize she cannot win the fight with her behavior. Have a reward at the end of the week that she knows about perhaps a new toy etc . Tell her if she's able to go to bed with no arguing, screaming etc she can get a new toy doll or something in the weekend. But u have to stick to it. Don't give up and don't react to her behavior

She needs a new routine that you stick with for a minimum of a month. I'm not joking. And since you took away her self-soothing method, you need to teach her new ways of soothing herself. You can't just expect her to suddenly know how after taking it away. The pacifier helped her soothe and calm down and fall asleep. Taking it away without giving her the tools to learn a new way and fill that hole you created means Problems At Bed Time.

Supernanny all you want on this one, but your daughter needs a new lovey.