Dilemma with My Father and His Live in Girlfriends Grand Daughter

Find out when the granddaughter is there and with drugs and call the police. Better yet drugs and a guy who will most likely be wanted. At least that will get the granddaughter out of the house.

So far as everything else goes your sister should find another place to live. When she finds it, before she signs the papers, sit down with your father and say here is where we are. I have this place and the means to support it. I know you can't afford this house without my rent and utility payments. I will stay here so long as I feel safe and I do not feel safe with the granddaughter in the house. Throw grandma in as well if you guys feel the need. I do think it would be easier to pick one off at a time.

No legal grounds, unfortunately.

However, your sister certainly DOES have negotiating power. She can threaten to move unless the pics are taken down. BTW - the pics are the only thing I'm concerned with, as everything else is a choice of your fathers - and out of your control.

You have negotiation power too. "I can no longer be a part of your life when you continue to put my children in danger by having their photo's displayed when Bubbles takes pictures of herself".

I have a feeling you've said this, or something like it - but in the middle of complaining about his choice of companion (which is likely when he stops listening).

Try it again - but only make one single solitary point. The pictures have got to go. No other topics, no distractions, no changing the subject. Pictures. Out.
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ETA - I like Jo's suggestion too. Do some googling for court records and granddaughter. More than likely her probabtion includes no alcohol. Turn her in.

Added for your SWH - M., ask a lawyer if you have the right to remove pictures of you because of what's in FB. That might help with the "theft investigation" aspect of it. And if you do think dad's mental facilities are slipping, then going to court to have him declared incompetent may be what you have to do. It won't be easy, and he may have already given all his money to them by then, but I'd really consider it seriously, if I were you. And going over your post again, I don't think that your sister should pay anymore rent since she is having to go through this. Instead, she should save her money so that she can move! Again, SO sorry!!

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Can't you just go in there and take your pictures out of that house? I don't have any advice other than that. I doubt that you have any legal grounds, unless you and the family can establish that your dad has lost his mental facilities and have him declared incompetent. At least THAT would keep him from giving this woman and her granddaughter the house and all his money.

So sorry - this is one sick story!

Dawn

I'm so sorry you are going through this. We went through something similar with my step-father. It ended very badly. Jo and Dad on Purpose have given some good advice, but ultimately it's going to be up to your father to start making better decisions. I hope he does.

"So question do we have any rights, or legal ways to ask my father or make my father take our pictures down, or take them off the walls? Can my sister press charges for this girls destructive, and dangerous behavior, since she is worried for her son...."

Probably not. Sounds like her behavior is sleazy and totally lacking character, but it doesn't sound illegal. Annoying, yes!

Remove the pictures yourself if they are that much of an issue. (I find it odd that some strange dud looking at pictures of this girl in "sexy poses, little clothing, and swear words written on her body... would notice the pix on the wall behind her!)

Sadly, I think this is clearly a case of dad's house, dad's choices, dad's decisions.

His choices might cost him his family.

Your sister needs to move...yesterday.

Gosh, that is a walking talking trouble! And her grandmother (your dad's gf) ought to be given a wake-up call if she thinks its just 'infatuation'.

As for your family's pictures being in the background of her FB pics, I can think of two ideas. One - you can report a pic on FB, and cite a reason that your pictures are on the background, and you consider the pic as an invasion of your privacy. But unless the actual pic is 'obscene' according to FB standards, it won't be taken down.
Two - Go to your dad's apartment along with your sister, show him the FB pics, and tell him you clearly do not want the family pic anywhere in the background, and simply take down all the pics and put them somewhere in the main house.

Ask your sister to keep the connecting door firmly locked. And if the girl causes even the slightest trouble, ask your sister to call the cops once, citing disturbance. If there are any more troubles like the fleas, don't help your dad. Tell him to get his gf and the granddaughter to help clean up. When they won't, he'll understand.
Drastic steps maybe, and your dad could end up feeling angry towards your sister/you/other kids, but it could just be the wake-up call he needs to understand who is the real family and who isn't.
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I understand how sad it feels to see your dad's judgement is wrong, but ultimately, he is the only one who can help himself. And if understanding comes only after bad experiences, there's not much you can do to help...

I can't believe how non-chillant a lot of the people are being about this situation!! This is NOT NORMAL. Yes, your dad is an adult, his gf is an adult, her granddaughter is an adult, BUT...it directly involves your sister and nephew, therefore, it involves you and the rest of your family. First of all, does your sister pay for the phone or internet? Because if she does, she should first cut that off. If this girl has no internet, she can't be on fb, and I'm guessing she doesn't have a job so she wouldn't be able to afford it on her own. Then, I would start reporting her pictures to facebook. They can close down her account for it being inappropriate. She will probably come up with another profile, but since she isn't secretive about it, you'll probably hear about it and can report that profile also. You didn't mention if you or your siblings allow your dad and his gf and her granddaughter to see your kids, but if you guys do, I would cut that out. Give your dad an ultimatem. If he can't kick them out of his lives, then he won't see his grandkids.

Not only is it sad that "dirty old men" are looking at your kids and nieces pictures, that's gross all on it's own, but it is also disrespectful of your deceased mom. She put those pictures up for her pleasure and enjoyment, and now they are getting tarnished by "perverts". So, so sad.

Please PM me if you want to chat or vent anytime! It seems like this situation is clouding the rest of your life because it is such a horrible situation, and you're obviously a nice person if you want to help your sister. This is your life and you deserve to be happy!

Looks like your sister and son have to move and your Dad will lose the house.
The granddaughter is turning his house into a brothel and your father is letting her.
Unless he's becoming senile and you think you can have him declared incompetent, there's nothing you can do about it.
If/when he hits rock bottom (and I suspect the girlfriend and granddaughter will move on to find someone else to exploit once your Dad has nothing left), and he's on his own, then you might be able to help him.

There isn't much you can do about your dad and his choice of roomies. You can stop giving him new pictures of your children so there wouldn't be any up to date pictures. You can let him lose the house and again tell him he is welcome with you without the roomies and he he gets mad, so be it! You can't control what this young "lady" or her grandma is doing, nor can you control your dad. What you can do is report the pictures on facebook. There is rules against nudity on facebook. Report each one and put in the report that your children's pictures are in the background and you feel that it is putting your children in danger, especially your nephew. If you and your sister keep reporting the pictures they will shut down her facebook page. Another thing you can do is sis move out and they would be able to move into the larger part of the house giving the girl her own room minus the pictures of your kids in the background, to be disgusting. It would take your nephew out of a dangerous situation. As for taking power of attorney from your dad to remove them from the house you would have to prove that he can't take care of himself, can't make decisions and I don't think that is the case here. I wouldn't take the kids there to visit, make him come alone to your house to visit. He will wake up one day and realize what this woman and her granddaughter cost him.

I am sorry your sister is going through this. I would suggest that she give notice to your dad and find somewhere else to live. Maybe if he has to cover the expenses of the larger home he will consider giving this girl the boot or he can find another way to deal with it.

This girl is over 18 and can do what she wants, to bad her choices are disgusting. I wouldn't worry too much about the pictures in the back ground, the men won’t be looking at them.

It's your father's life. Let him be! Unless he has dementia you have no right to try to change his choices.