Well... if that doc didn't do a blood panel to check your homones, and didn't check to see how much uninterupted sleep you get, and make sure you're not depressed... they're an idiot.
The TOP libido killers are:
- Hormones being off
- Sleep dep
- depression (some antidepressants cause loss of libido, but many don't these days so it's not the catch 22 it used to be)
Either of those 3 are on the table... FIX THEM... and you'll fix the libido problem.
And here's a TMI answer for if everything is fine:
LUBE.
not just for during sex. It's gross feeling at first, but take a couple tablespoons of good quality lube and insert a few hours ahead of time. It really IS gross feeling at first. But then, your body starts to react to the wet feeling in a pavlov kind of way. Wipe off the excess in about 20 minutes, but you should still be quite wet.
Because here's a totally unscientific thing... most of my friends and myself have gone through hormonal periods where we get dry. I don't care that it's not up on the scientific list. A dry vajayjay = no wanna da nookie. Nope. Huh-uh. Sounds icky. But it has a quick fix... and that's lube. BEFORE sex. But not just right before. Long enough before for sex to sound like it might not be icky.
PS: PLAIN lube. Nothing that burns, cools, tastes like who cares... plain old boring normal lube. You don't want anything that is going to irritate dry tissue. We're talking KY, Wet, whatever. Plain.