Okey this happens to Best of us, what do we tell. My daughter who is 6, Saw us in bed in 'act'. I dont know when she came in. I saw herstanding there and asked when did you come. She goes 'When you were still doing that'. I switched the topic right away. Shall I provide more explanation - massage or something else or ignore it. I have no idea what is going n in her mind and drives me nut.
Help Please!!
Thank You for the feedback!! I feel little relieved, I am going to hold on to let her ask q's. I am not bringing it up. I just hope that she wont remmeber like one of the MOM does.
Also will try to get the age appropriate book for her to get her the idea.
V.:
If she hasn't asked any more questions, leave it at that.
Use this to remind her KNOCK before entering a room.
If she asks questions - do NOT ignore her or change the subject. This is a chance to explain how ADULTS/married people share their love IN PRIVATE. Keep the message SIMPLE.
don't harp on it.
don't bring it up unless she asks - she will be ready to hear more if SHE asks.
Guess you need to keep the door locked.
Love everyone's suggestions - esp locking the door. For a light side, see if you can go to Hulu and download the episode of Modern Family where the kids bring the parents breakfast in bed for their anniversary and catch three pairs of eyesful! It's hillarious and you willl again realize you aren't the only ones!
Don't bring it up again. And Lock The Door everytime!!
Dawn
Think about what you would say IF she asks about it, but don't say anything unless she brings it up. (Remember when you accidently walked in on your parents?)
If it was just the missionary position or the reverse, its much easier to explain "wrestling" or "mom/dad playing" than if it was other more embarassing positions. If your family is comfortable with nudity, she will think less about it than if you or your husband are always completely dressed in front of her.
AND, always remember to lock the door. ;~))
Good luck to you and yours.
if she doesnt ask more questions then leave it at that.
Just answer her questions as she asks them. If there are no questions, then she's fine. =) Do you have a lock on your door? We always lock ours.
I had that problem recently. My 6 year old boy walked in and definitely got an eye full as no covers were involved. I have no answers as I went with the complete avoidance approach. He never asked any questions and has made no mention of it since. I am very certain to lock the door now (I had thought hubby had locked it, but I double check every time now). I remember when I walked in on my parents (I was a little older, probably 8) and I definitely did not want to talk about it and wanted to rip my eyes out and pretend it never happened.
Lock the doors! That is the only advice I have.
Let sleeping dogs lie, as they say ;)
Ask her opening and honestly and see what she is able to explain. It's a big deal that isn't really a big deal. Unfortunately we don't live on farms where kids get to see animals mating and get to but 1 and 2 together to come up with 3. Keep your conversation age appropriate. The good news is that she is a girl and not a boy. Boys are more visual when it comes to sex stuff and it would proabably be a bigger problem for a boy.
Don't be embarrassed to have an open conversation with her just try not to have a forced talk with her. Let it flow from the heart. Begin by asking her what she saw and how she felt about what she saw.
I would just leave it at that!
Hi there,
Have you thought about being honest with her? I think she's old enough that you could talk to her in age-appropriate terms, or read her a book like "Where Do Babies Come From?" It might make you uncomfortable, but as a social worker, I think it's really important to be open with kids about sex. My parents talked to us about it from a young age, and while it made me really uncomfortable as a preteen, I was really glad they did when I got older.
Best of luck,
R.
I think you should leave well enough alone for now. Lock your door every time, and try to make sure she's asleep before you do it. In the future, answer her questions when they come up in a simple, basic way. Good luck!
I'm thinking this is the only time when don't ask/don't tell works.
I would talk to her about it. Telling her about "some" of the facts of life will not hurt her. There are so many books at the library about this particular issue. I had to have a list of books like this on file in my resource file in child care so if a parent asked for an idea of a book I would be able to take out my list and show it to them.
The children's resource librarian should be an awesome resource.
Sadly the only thing we could say quickly was that we were wrestling naked. And I suppose we didn't even need to say that. It's really never been discussed again, although I don't think it was totally believed. There was also a time when our door was locked and the younger one kept trying to get in and we told him to wait. He kept asking why. Finally I said 'adults do some private things'. To which he replied 'eeeeeeeuuuuu'. That too was never discussed again.
