I am a 33yr old mom of three kids 12, 6, and 3. I from their birth put them to bed at night in their crib and they slept from 7PM to 7Am. They did have feedings(breastfeeding) in the night but by 2-3 months were sleeping through the night.I unfortuneatly was unable to brest feed for a long period of time with any of my children. They were on bottles by three months because my production was to little to sustain.So I didn't have a baby attached to my body but they also didn't wake up for bottle feedings after 4 months or so.
I was given the best gift ever by my sister in-law. The book Baby wise. In this book it discussed healthy sleep patters for children and how to create them at any age
. He has learned that you respond when he cries. It will continue and possibly get worse if you continue to respond. In the book it talks about having a routine first and then sticking to it diligently. You have to put him in his crib at bed time. Lovingly tuck them in talk softly, play music whatever bedtime ritual you do to calm him do it and then turn out the lights and walk out. If you have not done this before he will more than likely cry. It takes about three nights to create a new bedtime ritual. If he cries(I know for a mom its torture) the book gives you clear guidelines to make it easy. You look at the clock when he starts, let him cry for 20 minutes without responding. You then go in and lay him down again if needed and tuck him in again lovingly(stay calm he will sense your anxiety)and leave again. It may take three times to do this but remember that if he is fed, dry, loved and not in pain HE WILL BE OK. My daughter we had to do this with at about 8 months because her sleep habits changed and we responded.(even though we had read the book,it is just natural to respond) What it created was a middle of the night play session for about two weeks. We decided this was becoming a bad habit that we could not keep up and use the technique. IF you can stick it out I assure you by the third night you will see a different child. It is basically the same thing that the Super Nanny does on her show.
Talk the plan through with your husband so he is on board. That way when you want to crack you have each other. Some parents just cant do it. I am not one of those parents. I used it from birth so I had few issues. I have recomended it to friends and those who could follow through have had great success. They say I can't believe she goes to bed all by herself now.
My children were so used to the routine that when we took them out of the crib at two years of age and into a twin bed they would not get out of bed when we put them in or get up on there own in the morning. They did not know it was an option because the routine they were in had always been the same. If it works for you don't make the mistake of telling them they can get up either. My children would call for us over the video monitor because we explained and showed them at two how it works.
The breast feeding issue is just something else you have to make a firm decision about and stick with it. He doesn't need it anymore(congrats on how long you were able to do it) it is just his pacifier or security blanket if you will. It is just a matter of creating new habits with him.
From the other responses I read you can either spend three days retraining the habits that have been set in place or reconfigure your sleep space,schedule,house,. It is only three days and it will work. Please whatever you do don't start giving him anything except water at night. It will just start another habit that you will have to break and as a former Dental assistant it is very bad for there teeth.
Let me know what happens.
Good Luck and God Bless
M.