Sleeping by Herself

I agree with Tiffany. I had the same problem with both of mine while transitioning to a bed. A bed on the floor is best, because eventually they will realize that their bed is more comfy! :-)

you can try transitioning her by making her a bed on the floor of your room, so that she can sleep near you, but isnt allowed to wake you or baby...
see how that works/

good luck
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Hi I.
it sounds like she is feeling left out since the baby gets you at night and she dosen't. If you can I would put the two in her room and see if this stops otherwise you may need to make a bed on the floor of your room for a little while. Good Luck

The sadness to sleep with you is some but not all genuine, she'll play it up as she sees it's getting her what she wants. It's just how kids work. Let her know she has to sleep in her own bed now, that you love to snuggle with her, and she can come in for a morning snuggle. She's feeling a little left out since the baby is in there, so you'll have to explain that baby sleeps in there because he/she is little and when he gets to be big like her, he'll sleep in his own bed/room too. Calmly put her back in her own bed every time she comes in to your room, or out of hers. Say very little, if anything, just a good night when you put her back in. Start bedtime a little early to take into account how many times she'll get up the first few nights. And most important, stick with it, it WILL work. If you give in even once, she'll know you don't mean business, and you'll be back at square one, maybe zero because she'll hang in there longer trying to get you to give in. Give her lots of love and reassurance, one on one time when baby is sleeping, she'll adjust.

I am in the same boat, except minus the new baby. It is just our son, but once we put him in a toddler bed he does the same thing. Let me know if you find something that works, I am getting exhausted having to get up with him all night long again :(.

Sure you have a choice. The choice isn't a popular one with her but then your the mom and it is up to you to do those choices that are important for her independent growth even though she won't like it. When she comes in, take her back to her room and sit (not lay) with her until she relaxes and can go to sleep. Right now she is feeling that she is missing out time with mom and dad that the baby gets sleeping in your room. When you are in a cuddle time talk with her about when she was a baby and how she couldn't get out of bed. That for a while she had to sleep in your room because she was so new and had to be watched carefully, but now she is a big girl who can sleep in her very own room and she can feed herself and even go potty in the potty and not in the toilet. Then go on telling her how the baby will grow too and be in his own room and learn to feed himself too. Make it sound like it is so special that she can do all these things and poor baby brother doesn't know how to do these things yet so he has to have mommy help him with it. Two year olds like being independent, the "I do it" stage. Use that to get her excited about being the big girl with the big girl bedroom.

I understand that your children have a hard time when a new little one is home. I also know at night we are very tired caring for out children. I have three kids ranging 5months to 3years. When they came into my room, I would walk them right back to their room. You just remain calm and let them know how much you love them. If it becomes where they get out over and over...remain calm and bring them back to their room without saying anything. They will realize you are serious and will eventually stay. It can be difficult, so you have to be up for the task. If you don't want them in your bed, you have to be consistant and not provide mixed messages. My toddlers never come in my room anymore because I always took them back to their own bed. I am one of those mothers that DOES NOT share her bed with anyone except for my husband and that is the way I want to keep it.

It sounds like your daughter is convinced she will die if she doesn't sleep with you, but you cannot be convinced also. She is tired and doesn't know what is right. You do. She may cry when you put her back in her own bed, but she'll be fine. She's tired, and she's convinced herself...She'll fall asleep and forget about it.