Sister in Law Drama.

I wish I had a sister in law that wanted to take mine once a week! lol I understand it might be uncomfortable if she tries to be over nurturing. I agree you should try and discuss the issue with her. I wouldnt burn that bridge just yet, free childcare is very hard to come by these days and you guys need a break too. I think your husband should be the one to talk with her since she is his sister and it will be more accepted that way in most cases. Hopefully she just needs to realise how she is coming across and she will back off. Good luck!

It sounds if there might be some other issues with your SIL as well. You need to let her know it makes you uncomfortable the way she behaves. Get your husband to confront her with you. Let her know if it continues that she can't watch him. It will be difficult at first, but you need to nip it in the bud now. It will not be easy. I do not envy you here. My SIL has no visiting rights at present time, so I know how you feel. Good luck

Leave your child at home and take her out to lunch and have a nice, long, honest talk with her. Be kind, but don't sugar coat what you need to tell her. Explain how uncomfortable she is making you & your hubby feel, explain using examples, what she is doing to make you feel that way. Make sure you tell her how much you both care about her, but you can't continue to feel this way and want to change things so that you all can be close. If this doesn't work then I would cut down contact to family gatherings only. Good luck!

I would first lay down some ground rules with your sister in law (SIL). Talk with your husband and decide what rules you think she should abide by and then let her know. I would also try to explain to her that you still love her very much and want her to be a part of your child's life, but you feel she's being a little too invasive for your comfort. What I mean is that perhaps you feel she is trying to take over and be a surrogate or substitute parent to your child and you feel this may cause some confusion and hurt feelings- so you want to straighten this out before it becomes a big problem.

Just prepare yourself for what her reaction may be. She probably won't be happy with you after this discussion but I think it's important to let her know how you feel and come to some sort of compromise about the situation before one of you says something you'll both regret.

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Do you feel she is good for your child, or do you think that she has some other problems that you don't want your child exposed to. You have to consider all the issues involved. If she is telling your child yes, to things you say no to, that is over stepping her grounds. You are the boss when it comes to your kids. Be firm with things like that. If she is doing anything wrong, let her know.
I would think that there is something else you don't like, other then her being motherly over your child. I was also wondering how old your child is? You mentioned that she longs to have another baby. Perhaps you should recommend adoption to her. If your child is just a baby, that is kind of young to be sending him away once a week. Just my opinion, but it doesnt sound like you like it either. You guys don't like it, so don't do it. Just tell her that you miss him too much when he's gone all night. You don't want to make trouble, I am sure, so just tell her it's you, not her. Keep it simple as to not hurt her feelings. She had her time as a mother, now it's your turn. Don't let her take it from you. They grow up much too quickly.

my suggestion is you and your husband should have a talk with your sister in law together. Sit her down and explain how you feel. That while you appreciate the fact she want to spend time with your child and loves him you are his parent and while in public or any other forum you are to be the one to take care of your child unless other wise asked for assistance. She will probably get upset and tell you that she isn't doing it but make sure your husband tells her he sees it too and limit the over nights and days spent at her house. It's nice to see your aunts and uncles and what not but there is really no reason for him to be there that much. Your sister in law has only one child and you said she is the preteen, who is there for him to play with? If after this the behavior does not stop or she refuses than you need to cut all contact and make sure your husband stands behind all of your decisions.

I understand where you are coming from. But I had this happen to me when my sister had her first baby. When we would go shopping I would hold him and push the cart. I did it to give my sister a break and b/c I wanted to spend as much time as possible with my beautiful nephew. People would always assume that I was his mom b/c I was the one holding him, I could usually tell but they wouldn't always say anything. When they did, I would correct them. I always wondered if it had made my sister upset but she never seemed to mind..I think she liked the break too much to care. lol

But, I still have a strong bond with that nephew and he is 13 yrs old. And I still give her babies all my attention when they are around..even to the point that sometimes my son gets a little jealous. But I do this whether we are in public or in the privacy of a home. I'm not doing it for attention. I just love babies so I guess that I can't control myself when it comes to giving them love and attention. Maybe your sis-in-law is the same way. Maybe she doesn't realize that you feel this way. Why don't you talk to her about it? I think it would be more upsetting to have someone that ignored your child or wanted nothing to do with them as I have had in my family...it's heart-breaking when you feel your child is being slighted. Give her a chance..or maybe you could just politely let people know that you are the mama. I hope that you will give her a chance to explain herself.