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I agree with the other mom's. If she is fed, diaper clean and you know she isn't sick or hurt, then you can let her cry. I've had to let my baby cry the whole time I made dinner jsut so i could get it done. They will learn.

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This sounds exactly like what mine did around 6 months. When they start realizing (become aware) that you will come when they cry, they will start to manipulate. I love kids, but that is how they are! I would say, let the baby cry it out. It is hard to do no matter what age they are, but with my experience it is much easier when they are younger. If you must go in to comfort baby, DO NOT PICK HIM/HER UP!!! Simply stand beside the crib and speak softly and rub the baby. I have found that even this has a negative impact (especially if you're child is very smart) and they know they are not going to get their way. It takes about a week before they will start sleeping or going to sleep on their own.

Another thing that helps is having a set bedtime schedule. Do the same routine every night (at the same time if possible) and they will begin to respond. Babies thrive on schedules.

Hope this helps!!!

M.

M.,
Well first I want you to know that every mother or most mothers on this planet have been where you are so you are not alone! I am a mother of 5 and I work as well. What you need to do is try to let her cry a bit. Not long or if you have anyone that can play with her or keep her occupied while you rest, work or clean house. I know this is horrible to say but I used to let my kids watch a tape or dvd. I used to let my daughter watch baby beethoven and she loved it.

had the same problem with DD - it'll pass, however, i learned to just sometimes put her in the crib and let her cry it out for 15 minutes, then I got her out and we played on the floor together - we also watched a lot of Baby Einstein together (w/ DS of 3) - he started telling her all the things he saw and that finally put her at ease. again, this will pass - for me it finally happened a month ago after she turned one

I don't think there is anything wrong w/ letting your child cry while you try to get some things done. If they are fed, clean pants and not sick. I would let them fuss while I did the dishes, through clothes in the laundry, even let em wait a couple min when they wake up. Sure kids need love and affection but things have to get done you using a hour to get a few things done is not going to hurt them. I never let my kids cry longer than 5 mins but my kids are pretty easy going. they usually would only cry a min or 2 and figure out I'm doing something else. I wouldn't let them cry so hard they had real tears or get chocked up. My son does it now when I walk in the room he cries when I walk out he stops. He figures he'll give it a shot. :o) I don't think you are spoiling her she just wants to be near you. If you put her in the same room while you clean does she cry? My one daughter always sat out on the counter while I made supper at that age. I would tell her what I was doing and she would just laugh and smile. Hope things get better.

M.,

When my daughter was that age i let her cry and I still do. My daughter is 2 now and I put her in the bed and let her scream for 10 minutes, obviously a little less time with your 6 month old. After the 10 minutes is up I go in confort her for just a minute and then leave again. Eventually she cries herself to sleep and sleeps all night. It was tough at first to do that, I had to go to a different part of my apartment, like to the bathroom so I wouldnt hear her. It works though and you can get things done. I hope it works.

Oh M., I fell you girl. You have several jobs and you want to do your best at them all. Have you ever just let her cry it out? I know that crying can drive you berzerk, but if you know she is clean and fed and safe, then there is really nothing else you can do. When my baby girl did all that hooping and hollering as an infant, I'd put her in her high chair and go about my chores and I'd put on some music. I'd be singing and dancing and making faces at her, but I was also getting things done. If she is like this while you are trying to sleep. . . maybe you need to let her cry herself to sleep. Another thing you could try is those sound machines that have the rainfall effects and the forest sounds, etc. It may take about a week but once she realizes she has to go to sleep on her own, she will and crying will wipe her out even more. May God guide you to the right choice and I hope you get to get more rest for yourself.
-A.-