Periods and Intercourse

Ten year olds in todays world know a lot more (probably misinformed though) about sex and their periods than you might think. It's always good to go the simpliest most direct route. Also, think of things that you thought about before your own period, and address those. With intercourse, that's a little more tricky to give advice on. I don't believe in sex outside of marriage, and was a virgin when I got married at the age of 24. Most parents I would think would want their children to wait until marriage. Present that position first. Also make sure she has all the RIGHT information of STD's. Kids don't think they'll ever get them and more people have an STD than I even want to guess. These are never easy subjects. Good Luck.
P.S. Not trying to judge those who don't wait until marriage.

What kinds of questions is she asking? I'm the kind of person that is up front, forward and open about talking about sex. I'm not sure how you are with the subject. I do feel it is best to be open about the subject and better for her to find the answers to her questions from you than someone else.

As far as getting her period - you could simply tell her that there comes a time in every girl's life when she becomes a woman and starts to menstruate. How she will find blood in her panties (or on the toilet paper when she goes to the bathroom) and its perfectly normal. There's nothing to worry about. And when this happens she should tell you so that you can show her the proper way to take care of it.

If you think it is too much for her to handle, you can always contact her pediatrician and I'm sure they may have some pamphlets that you and your daughter can go over with together.

Good luck
Hope this helps..

M. R.

A few suggestions are: Ask the children's librarian at your local library for suggested books you can read with your daughter. Find out if her school covers any of the information in class. Some schools offer mother/daughter seminars on sex ed. Check with your local hospital. Some hospitals offer programs on sex ed for kids periodically. You could also introduce the topic of menstruation using very simple, accurate terms, giving as much or as little information as she is ready for. For example - "Every month, a woman's body gets ready to have a baby grow inside of it. Even though girls your age and even older aren't ready to have a baby, your body will start to get ready like a woman's does. You might get a tummy ache, and will notice blood coming out of your vagina. It's nothing to be afraid of. It doesn't mean you're sick or hurt. It will happen for a few days and then stop. I'll show you what to do to keep your clothes from getting messy." Answer any of her questions and ALWAYS, ALWAYS give truthful answers. When she's ready to learn about intercourse, make sure your family's values and morals are stated & reinforced, whatever they may be.

You may be surprised at what your daughter knows or thinks she knows.
Good luck!

I have a most fabulous book for you to get at your nearest Barnes and Noble......"The Period Book...Everything You Don't Want To Ask (But Need To Know)" by Karen Gravelle & Jennifer Gravelle. This book is to the point, well illustrated and full of everything she is now curious about but may not know how to ask or is asking. It is for girls her age. I read it to my daughters when they turned 9. This gave us time to bond as girls and it let us begin building trust on that topic. Read the book together and all the questions will follow. I found this to be a marvelous experience for a mother & daughter and have recommended this book for the last 8 years. I found it for my neice and have passed it on down to my other neices and daughters. Good Luck!

Girls are starting their periods so early these days. And the other day my daughter informed me that a friend of hers had been with 19 guy. she is 16.
Before she stared her period, I went out and bought trial sizes different brands of tampons and pads. This ensured that no matter the time, day or night she was ready. She kept them in a box in her room. When she started, she was then able to decide form experience with each which one she preferred.
She had problem (extreme cramping) so I had her put on the pill at 15 But she is still a virgin at soon to be 18. I allowed her to make the move with questions. But I never allowed it to sound ugly. I did tell her I was here to answer any questions (and she has had quite a few) I let her know that her friends were going to tell her their views. But please let me tell her mine when was was ready. she also talked to young mothers that explained what this did to their teen years.