I get what you are saying but am not understanding why this has to be a fight. Is the organzied religion that the grandparents want to expose the child to illegal? Does it expose the child to certain danger? If it is simply a matter of the grandparents want to take their grandchildren to a Catholic church service because they are Catholic, for example, and you do not agree with the ideaolgy of the Catholic church, what really is the harm of allowing your child to go to a Catholic church service here and there with their grandparent. Why engage in that power struggle? Your child will be exposed to a lot of things that are outside of your control during his life time and I just don't think that sharing in a part of something that is part of their grandparents' heritage is going to do a lot of damage in the long run. You are still the parent and you still have the greatest influence on your child of anyone that your child will come in contact with in this lifetime, including their grandparents. Just relax and trust that your child will make the right decision for him/her and that you are still Numero Uno in their eyes -- unless you do something brash, controlling and irrational and blow it.
Now, if the organzed religion that you are talking about involves child sacrafices, certain molestation, and crimes against humanity and the law, then I would say that the parents' rights trump grandparents' rights each and every time. But really, do you really want to involve yourself in such ugliness and power struggle if you don't have to?
My suggestion would be to sleep on this for a few days and figure out what's really yanking your chain here before you declare all out war. I just hate to see people get to be so fighty with each other.
Please take care and understand that this post is just intended for you to get a little bit different perspective on this situation. That's all.
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I get what you are saying but am not understanding why this has to be a fight. Is the organzied religion that the grandparents want to expose the child to illegal? Does it expose the child to certain danger? If it is simply a matter of the grandparents want to take their grandchildren to a Catholic church service because they are Catholic, for example, and you do not agree with the ideaolgy of the Catholic church, what really is the harm of allowing your child to go to a Catholic church service here and there with their grandparent. Why engage in that power struggle? Your child will be exposed to a lot of things that are outside of your control during his life time and I just don't think that sharing in a part of something that is part of their grandparents' heritage is going to do a lot of damage in the long run. You are still the parent and you still have the greatest influence on your child of anyone that your child will come in contact with in this lifetime, including their grandparents. Just relax and trust that your child will make the right decision for him/her and that you are still Numero Uno in their eyes -- unless you do something brash, controlling and irrational and blow it.
Now, if the organzed religion that you are talking about involves child sacrafices, certain molestation, and crimes against humanity and the law, then I would say that the parents' rights trump grandparents' rights each and every time. But really, do you really want to involve yourself in such ugliness and power struggle if you don't have to?
My suggestion would be to sleep on this for a few days and figure out what's really yanking your chain here before you declare all out war. I just hate to see people get to be so fighty with each other.
Please take care and understand that this post is just intended for you to get a little bit different perspective on this situation. This is written by a person who never really had grandparents so I the thought of being able to spend special time with them. My mother's parents died when I was very little and, because my parents split when I was very young and my mother did what she could to keep us kids from having any kind of relationship with my father's side of the family because her bitterness overroad her better reasoning. I would have killed to have some kind of family connection with my grandparents on both sides of the family even if it meant spending time attending meaningless ceremonies like attending a church ceremony. That's all I am trying to impress upon you now. Food for thought. I hope that you will be able to resolve this disagreement very soon.