I, too, felt overwhelmed. My daughter was supposed to be hospitalized for 2 weeks, ended up being 6 months, 6 surgeries. I was already in counseling, thanks to my OB. I took advantage of free counseling in the hospital + kept going.
My doc said "all women feel their children are a burden." Which helped ME to hear that.... but the doc was a guy..... so take with grain of salt. Maybe he meant "at some point."
I never got to "enjoy" my baby -- one of the visiting nurses said, eloquently, "you've been robbed".
Anyway, I couldn't afford the time/money to continue counseling, so I got help in the way of a Stephen minister through the church.
When my daughter was 4-1/2, things (health-wise) got SO much better. She is/was a dream child, so loving, obedient. God really gave me a gift (beauty for ashes).
However, I still find childrearing overwhelming sometimes....mainly due to the culture we live in, the constant school stuff, SO many choices, yada, yada, yada....
For your friend: I read a lot of stuff about parenting styles: permissive, authoritarian -- and authoritative (in the middle), which is what I strive for.
Edited: I also kept a journal. To be completely honest, I felt like running away....had started a plan. I sure wish Mamapedia had been around back then!!!