R.K.
I do not feel that it is fair for one parent to be the fun parent and one parent to be the displine parent. I believe that both of you need to combine fun and displine. It would help to know how old the kids are. But controlling them is never a good idea. Children need guidence not control. Children need to grow up to be who they are meant to be not the person their parents want them to be. If your child want to be an artist for instance and dad wants them to be a doctor or lawyer they will never be happy.
If you hubby reverts back to the way his parents raised him he needs to learn a different way to parent. Counseling will help a lot. By being able to talk it out with a counselor he will learn new tools to use as a parent.