Moms, What Is Going on with My Son?

It is very normal - he is just frustrated and this is how he is expressing it. Many kids do this and the less you pay attention to him for it, the less "value" it will have for him, and then eventually the less he will be inclined to do it.

I know it's hard but don't pay him any attention! My kids have never done that, but my son does have a really bad temper and when we would be in a store and he would fall out I would just take a seat and watch him and tell him to let me know when he was done....it didn't last long! Good luck! : )

Being a baby becomes incredibly frustrating by the time they can see and sometimes touch all those wonderful, tempting goodies around them. They are programmed, mentally and physically, to touch, poke, examine, explore, throw and drop EVERYTHING they see at this age. It's literally their job.

You'd go nuts, too! If you're forever telling him no and taking things away from him, you'd do well to do some better planning. Make a careful evaluation of his surroundings and see how many things can be put out of his sight so the struggle never has to happen in the first place. Use your cell and remote out of his sight as much as possible, and if there's a dead one around the house, give those to him to poke and play with. And keep a few favorite, or even new, little toys within reach to hand him instead of the no-no that he's not allowed to touch. Find as many ways as possible to say yes instead of no.

The self-hurting is common at this age. Put him in a safe place at ignore him until he calms down. Or try this brilliant technique taught by Dr. Harvey Karp, author of The Happiest Toddler on the Block: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fJ1428uYs2g&NR=1&a.... . He will demonstrate in this (and several related video clips) exactly how he "speaks" the toddler's language, gets on their wavelength, so they know he's on their team. This calms them and makes further communication possible. They can't really hear Mommy when they're in a full-blown melt-down.

My son did bang his head for a little while, I think around the same age. It was disturbing and upsetting but it seemed like it was part of how he released is anger. He never seemed to bang it hard enough to really hurt himself and I would just try to help him calm down without giving in to his demand. It was a stage and he stopped after a few months and is no worse for it.

I have two boys, both did the same thing in response to frustration... I'll tell you the same things moms older than me said to me: boys do this. It doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong. My boys were fine developmentally and physically- sometimes, it is just a boy thing.

http://www.babycenter.com/0_head-banging_11554.bc

I would put him in another room and walk away. Do not give his behaviors
any additional attention. He will figure it out really fast that it does not get
him attention. It is amazing how, even at 14 months, they know how to
get to you. Hang in. Things will get better.

My son was a head-banger at that age. He still occasionally (rarely does it) at 27m.

We moved him to a safe spot (if he was, say banging his head on the floor, we moved him to a blanket or his crib). We starting using baby sign language and really using feeling words (I know you're mad that I told you no [use the sign for "mad]), it's okay to be mad). We also tried to encourage him to do something else (like stamp his foot).

Don't stop your discipline (or whatever it is that caused him to do it), and try not to get upset (it's awful, though, so I know how hard this part is). Getting emotional about it ("are you ok?" or "please stop!") just draws attention and can be a reward for the actions.

He will outgrow it as he learns words and communication better. Hang in there.

My son never hit his head, but at that age, whenever I would tell him No or take something away from him, he would start throwing stuff across the room. And it wasnt just his toys, either. He would throw anything he could find as hard as you could against the wall. Whenever he would do this I would tell him that that is not an acceptable way to express his frustration and put him in his crib. He always seemed to calm down when he was in his crib and I would take him out and he would go right back to be the sweetness that he is. He is now 2 yrs old and no longer does that. It was a phase that he grew out of.

Its a phase. Walk away. He wont do it long. My oldest did it for a couple of weeks at about that age. It was embarrassing in Sears one day, lol. Best thing to do tho is just walk out of eyeshot each and everytime.

It's quite normal. My niece and nephew have banged their heads a lot during tantrums. It'll hurt a little, but it's unlikely he'll actually do any damage.

He is just trying to get a rise out of you- and get what he wants. Even at 14 months he knows how to push the right buttons. It's normal. Just walk out of the room when he does this and I guarantee he'll stop.

He's wanting attention and is learning about tantrums. Walk away when he does this and he'll most likely stop. My brother used to hold his breath until he turned blue when he didn't get something. My mother would always go to his rescue because it freaked her out and one time she ignored him and he never did it again. Kids are funny in how early they learn to get their way with things.

Hitting is head is or attention he I not going to hit it hard enough to hurt himself but just enough to get a reaction out of you. Ignore it.

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for my son ... again MINE it meant that he had ear infections and coupled with sensory processing ... something to look into.