Marriage and Relationships, Husband Suffers from Erectile Dysfunction

That is a very embarassing thing for a man. Most men feel that if they can not "fix" it, then they will just ignore the problem. This seems to be the case. I had to laugh because I wished that my husband would stop asking for it so often and would see that there was more to a relationship than sex and then here you are in the opposite position. :)

I think you just need to tell him how important it is to you and that if he did love you, he'd make time for you. Meaning, he'd go to the doctor (just because he loves you).

The more he hears that you are suffering because of his inadequecies, the more he probably feels "less than".

I am not sure what else to tell you other than he needs to go in. Good luck!

Hello, A.
My husband used to have the same problem as yours. I am the one who found out because he just was getting treated for depression and I said to him one day; look at you fat, no energy, no muscles, you don’t want to do nothing honey, no even have sex with me, hello!!! only work, work and came home and get in the couch why? I think you have some problems with your testosterone, he said: you think so… I said yes.. lest go to the doctor. They test him… and I was right! I give him all the support and now he is okay I am the one every month give him his shot. I, am an LPN ( license practical nurse) I don’t work anymore as nurse I stay home with my kids.
Well maybe you know all this, but just in case.
Testosterone is an important male hormone produced mainly in the testicles. While testosterone helps the body develop male characteristics during puberty, it also plays a central role in maintaining healthy sexual function, energy, mood, and body composition. Men with low testosterone may experience symptoms such as fatigue or low energy, a decrease in sex drive and sexual function, and increased irritability or depression. Men with low testosterone may also notice a loss in muscle mass, decreased strength, and more fat around their abdomen. Long-standing low testosterone can cause a decrease in bone mineral density, increasing the risk for osteoporosis (loss of bone mass)
While these symptoms are often explained away as "I'm just getting older", the real problem may be low testosterone. Because the symptoms of low testosterone are often subtle, and similar to those caused by other medical conditions, low testosterone often goes untreated, with only one in twenty men with low testosterone receiving treatment.
Now it is important that you give him some support and make him go to treatment again just talk to him.
Said to him if he loves you he need to take care this problem so he can take care your needs , believe me he owned to you as a husband.
You said he is afraid! Of what? as a man he needs to take care his problem. There is nothing to be embarased you guys have two kids, and been married for five years.
There is a lot of help for him. And yes he will notice changes that is the reason probably that he was acting like you said my husband barely talk no wonder why? and them you said he was getting more responsive. This man with this problems get like a idiots believe me all couch potatoes.
A. it is nothing wrong with you hon!
Where do you live? My husband has a very good doctor.

Please let me know.

josie

My dear girl, I have a few insights for ya. First off, men are very sensitave and believe that if they don't see the doc they won't get any bad news. Talk to a Urologist. They are the most understanding and straight about the problem. Second his stress is a factor and if he is telling you "sex isn't everything" it's just another way of avoiding the problem Not rejecting you. He can try the little blue pill and see if that helps while waining to see the doc. Remind him that finding out the source of the problem is the only way to get it under control rather that putting a bandaid on it by taking drugs that help on a temperary basis. Please remember that he Does still love you and find you attractive. Hope this helps give me some feedback hun. B.

Hi A., I have been going through the same thing with my husband the only difference is he can stay erected for the most part, but when he is stressed out its different.we would go a month without it and i would talk to him and say why are we not making love .his anwser would be he didnt know. so then i would start feeling like there was something wrong with me, so i would tell him how i felt and he would say its not me. they are embarrased by it because they feel like they are not being the man they should be. so i talked to my doctor and she said men can go through mid life crisis like when woman go through menaoause. and that they can be treated in so many ways like pills, shots, patches.and that she also recomended counseling.there is so much i have gone through with him but just to much to write,but what they dont realize is its not just the love making its the comfort that goes with it as well as other things. but if you would like to talk you can e-mail me ____@____.com then if you would like my # I can give it to you. lol L.

My fiance has diabetes and it has affected him down there as well. I talked to him a lot about it before he finally went in to our family doctor. It was the Wickler Family practice. I just told him that it's not only about the sex it's affecting our relationship. I just didn't feel like a woman should. I felt like he didn't think I was sexy anymore and it was really hurting my self esteem. Also, I am way too young to never get any. I told him if we were like this now, where would we be at 45? Sexy outfits and stuff won't really work because he has a medical condition. Since my guy got on the medication things have been a lot better and I feel MUCH better about our relationship. Good luck. If your guys listens and cares about the relationship he will talk to a doctor. It's more of a common problem than guys think it is.