Love

Because anytime you have to deal with people, its work!..It's not the love, it's the loving and love of people who are stubborn, opposites, opinionated, different, you name it, that makes love hard....try understanding the person you are with and then love will seem easier.

HI D., Falling in Love is easy, sometimes too easy, it's staying in love where a lot of people have trouble. I think sometimes we have an idea of what love is supossed to be by the movies we watch, or even by what other couples have. I've been married for almost 29 years, and it's work, it's accepting the faults of another person, it's putting someone before yourself, it's sacrifice, it's comprimise at times, and if you don't know how to do all these things your relationship probably wont last. Being in love is easy, staying in love takes work, J.

Because when you find the right one, it is the most rewarding thing you could ever do. Thus it is also the hardest and you have to continuously work at it. I've been married for 12 yrs this year and we've had our good times and bad but I wouldn't change it for the world. My husband is my best friend and we have a wonderful family together. And as the years go by we get to know each other better as we learn something new about each other everyday. That's why you have to work on your relationship, because each of you is in constant change. So you always have a "new" person to get to know. Embrace the joy that love can give you. Handle with challenges with love and commitment and your love will be all the better when the challenge has passed. Nothing worth it was ever easy, but it's the most rewarding.

What is love? I think everyone has a different opinion and view on what love means to them. That is why there are conflicts, making love difficult:)

because anything in this life worth having is hard. We work harder at it to appriciate it more. If Love was easy and freely given would we want it?

Good question. I think it is harder to stay in love than to fall in love.

Because we expect too much from it.

D., Love is easy, people are hard. We do not find it difficult to love a child, or a pet, or a favorite colour. We love nature, life and Spirit with ease and grace, we do not find it hard at all. Yet when it comes to our romantic life, we make it hard. We make up what we THINK it should be and compare and blame and harden our hearts to it. WHY? because that is what we are taught. We are taught that "Love hurts", "You can't always get what you want", "You have to work at love". It is all false. Love does not hurt, love brings ultimate joy. Love is not hard, love is effortless and joyful. We CAN get what we want when we know what we want.

D., you didn't give me much to go on so I have just 2 questions that may guide you to your own answer:
1. What is love to you?
2. What is your definition of hard?

I know that when I define love it is "unconditional". What that means to me is the other person receive my love not matter what. The "love" itself might change but it is always unconditional. You may love someone enough to marry or want to marry them, but them your love changes and you want something different, and that is okay.

For me "hard" mean requires great physical or mental effort to comprehend. Love should never require great physical or mental effort to comprehend UNLESS we are in our head and not in our hearts. I think Buddha said it best "in your head there are no answers and in your heart there are no questions".

The most important thing is to love yourself enough to trust in your heart.

One of my favorite meditation chants is this:
I love myself so much
so that I can love you so much
so you can love you so much
so you can start loving me.

D., be love and love will be you.

B.
Family Success Coach

If it was easy it wouldnt be worth doing.... Something happens to you when you struggle with it, fight with it, fight for it... It changes you.. it binds to your soul permently.. deeply. Love can also be so beautiful, but thats not what you asked............. it hard because it has to be

A real, true relationship is rewarding, fulfilling, and sometimes challenging, but what you're talking about sounds more like infatuation--that "in love" feeling that's really about obsessing about someone else. It's intense, but it's not a real relationship. True love doesn't make you miserable.

Is there real communication, respect, and shared values between the two of you? If not, it will be very hard indeed. I hope things work out for your ultimate best good.

Too much difficulty and not enough joy, satisfaction, and peace can mean that you're not in "love," but rather in "infatuation."

I've been in both, and infatuation (or "crush") is always hard. That's because infatuation is a hope to satisfy some emotional need you have by getting another person to fulfill your needs. It might happen for a week, or for a few months, but over time it can not and will not work. The only person who can really learn to meet your needs is YOU.

Love is a special constellation of admiration, respect, awe or surprise, a willingness to give, share and support in equal relationship with the other person. Sexual attraction is usually part of the package, but true love can thrive even without sex.

As you might guess, love is not as common as infatuation.

Hi D.,

In all honesty, love shouldn't be hard. A realtionship is work, but being in love isn't supposed to be hard.

best wishes
W.

Pray and ask for trust. Feelings are everchanging. Decisions to love are what count in life inspite of ourselves.

None of the best things in life are easy (dang it all!).

Trust your heart...everything will be alright. Faith is important when you love someone.