Hi E....first of all, I applaud you for finding a place (mamasource, of course) to possibly find an answer or guidance to your issue. (I wish I would have heard about mamasource 16 years ago...but it probably didn't exist!) Anyhow, gosh! Some parents are VERY passive with "I-don't-care" attitudes towards their child's school behavior and progress. You sound like you are 100% committed to your children's lives - you deserve a lot of recognition for that! I know that some kids (my daughter, for example) can act differently at home than at school. She's such a grouch sometimes at home, but the teachers used to comment on how polite and cheerful she was at school. My boys, on the other hand, are polite and pleasant at home, and polite and pleasant at school. I find it hard to believe that Juan needs a doctor's opinion - if he is a good kid at home, then overall he's probably a good kid at school. I know that when I have heard about kids acting out at school, sometimes it was purely for attention or out of sheer boredom. There was a little boy (who was super intelligent) simply "freaked out" my son and other kids in their class with his actions and sayings. He didn't have many, if any, friends, and kids as well as the teacher seemed to pick on him more than others. Sometimes I think it was for being different (red-headed, chubby, freckles, poorly dressed, smelled a bit, outspoken, not bashful). He took the "picking" in stride...and instead of crying or getting mad, he'd just be silly and do and say some crazy things! He was probably just too smart for the normal everyday school day and became bored easily. I think the kids were in 3rd or 4th grade at the time, and kids can be cruel...and I think teachers can be easily stressed-out. I was reading a mamasource post by a Chicago teacher who commented about medication for behavior...this drives me crazy, too! Teachers (not the one who commented, she sounds like she's got a lot figured out in life!) and parents seem to be resorting to Ritalin and other drugs instead of good old-fashioned parenting. This is where you are different, and that is wonderful! I simply think that this "behavior issue" is totally blown out of proportion by the teacher. I would be shocked, as well as infuriated by a teacher suggesting doctor's care for a 9-year-old. If Juan has such a behavior problem, then why haven't teachers in the past commented on him? I think YOU would know if he had a behavior problem...not a teacher who has known Juan for a little over a month in school. And I think it would have been obvious before now, too, if there was a problem. Take it easy, and know that you'll run into great teachers, and sometimes some really stressed-out ones, too! P.S. I forget to send things back to school with my kids, too...homework, lunch money, etc...and I sometimes have to yell at my kids, too. You're a normal, good mom!