Grief Counseling

You don't say where you are from. If you live in the Fort Worth, TX area, there is a wonderful place to go to. It is called the Warm Place. I don't know the exact address, but it is on Lipscomb St. in Fort Worth.

Good morning H.:

H.,
Just a note to you about your own health. I worked for a guy whose sister passed away from an aneurysm and his insurance paid for him to take a test to see if he also had one.
It is a very expensive test and insurance will not pay unless you have had a family member diagnosed with an aneurysm.
It would be worth your time to check into this as if they know that you have one, surgery can be performed so that you don't have a rupture. I know that you are not thinking of yourself at this time, but keep this in the back of your mind as a to do for H. list.
God bless you - I still feel and pray for you every day!
C.

As I read through the responses, I see that you are getting a lot of support and help. My church, Richland Hills Church of Christ has a free grief counseling at night with small groups.
It is not affiliated with the church, they just use the building. It is in NRH.
Words can never fill the pain that you are going through and time will heal some, but the loss leaves a hole in your heart.
I lost my younger sister when she passed in her sleep one week after she turned 49. She left behind a daughter that had just graduated high school and a boy in college.
I took over her affairs as she was divorced and it took a great toll on me.
Grief counseling does help and they meet every month after an 8 week session.
I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a sibling is not like losing a grandparent or even a parent. They are suppose to be here to celebrate our lives.
Finally, thank you and your husband for your service to our country. We don't get the opportunity to say thank you enough.
You sound like a special lady with a special family and I pray that God will comfort you and bring you closer to Him.
They say that things happen for a reason, we just have to be patient and see what that is.
God bless you and your family,
C.

H.,
I am so very sorry for your loss. When I lost my son almost 7 years ago my daughter and I had a very hard time coping. We went to a place in Ft. Worth called the WARM Place. It is grief counseling for kids and their parents attend a group as well. I don't know if your kids are struggling as well but if they are this is the place to go. I don't think we would have made it through the first few months without it. I am including the link for you if you are interested. Again, please accept my condolences on your loss.
M.
http://www.thewarmplace.org/

I am so sorry for your loss. I totally understand what you are going through. I too lost my older brother when he was 35 the day of my birthday. We were very very close and miss him so much. It's been 2 years now and it still feels like yesterday. But yes you definitely need to seek grief counseling. Nothing but God and time will heal the pain. Again I am so sorry for your loss. Take Care.

M.

Oh H., my heart is breaking right now for you!!! I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I don't know of a counselor, but I'm a great listener anytime you need an ear. I just can't imagine what you are going through. I know I wasn't much help, but I just wanted you to know I am here for you and will be praying for you. If you need anything, my phone # is ###-###-####.

T. (your mamasource friend)

Hi H.,

I am so sorry for your loss. I have never lost a sibling, so I can't say I know how you feel but I have lost my 8-yr-old son and so I know the feeling of having your heart ripped out of your chest. I have also helped my remaining son cope with the loss of his brother. Grief is not easy. It is a process. With God's help, though, it does get better. Time does not heal all wounds; it's what you do with that time.

Check your local church and see if they have a Stephen Ministry and/or counseling office. It is important to talk about your feelings and not try to stuff them inside. If you live near Colleyville, Highland Meadows Christian Church has great resources available.

God bless you,

M.
www.GoodHealthMadeSimple.com/M. (my story)

Kathy Stevenson in grapevine is great. Her number is ###-###-####.

I am so sorry for your loss!!

Contact the funeral home that you was buried with. They have MANY resources, especially for grief counseling.

Hope they can help,
H.

My best friend of over 20 years died in August. She was like a sister to me. My dad's wife gave me a book called I wasn't ready to say goodbye by Brook Noel and Pamela D. Blair, Ph.D. It has helped. I have also been seeing a counselor one one one through my church in Mansfield, called Community of Hope. That has really been helpful. I don't know of any groups however. I hope this helps. My prayers go out to you and your family.

A little about me:
I am a teacher in Mansfield. I am the very proud mom of 3 girls, 5, 3, and 2 weeks old. I have been married to my wonderful husband for almost 10 years.

H., I am soo so so sorry for your loss and your pain. My heart aches for you right now. I can recommend at this time your Church. However, I am going to my sons counseling appt next Tuesday and I will see what resources that they can suggest and send you a message.
God bless you

H., I am very sorry to hear about your loss. My husband lost his mother 12 years ago to cancer. 18 months ago he lost his father to Lou Gehrig's disease and the next month lost his brother to a brain tumor. Thankfully we had about 18 months preperation for both of his parents, but his brother was very sudden. He collapsed at work 1 day and that is when they discovered the tumor. We were blessed to have him for 3 more months, but it was a very rough 3 months. His brother lived with us. We have 3 children who were 7, 4 and 4. My son gave up his room for his uncle. It was a very difficult time for all, but especially my husband. He atteneded a Grief Recovery class at church, talked in great links with 1 of our ministers and spent a lot of time in prayer. Please check with your church for any classes and then ask your minister for a recommendation. I am sure that they can refer you to someone in your area, if not on your church staff. We will pray for you in during this time. Just remember that God is there for you and your family.

H., I'm so sorry for your loss and could say alot of things to try to make you feel better.I've been though this so many times and I guess the most important thing I could tell you is about "The Warm Place". Another thing that I would suggest is to get on a mild antidepressant,[Mild is key}.Time will heal and H.,you will never get over this you will only get though it.Music,prayer,meditation whatever helps use it! Just know people care even people that don't know you!God bless you.

I understand your pain and feel for your loss. I lost my mother when I was only 17. It is not easy to lose a loved one so early. I worry about my brother as well being a marine.

As for counseling, you can call your local hospital to find a good support group. You can usually find all kinds of groups or they can give you a list of one on one couselors. The best time is now. I waited 10 years before I saught help after my mother's death, and I really wish I would have went sooner.

Good luck sweetheart

Sweet H.,

My heart aches for u! I lost my 22 year old brother in a car accident when i was a very young girl. It still hurts today and i can feel him with me all the time. It does get easier as you find a reason in your heart that he was taken at such a young age. For me, I (after MANY years) came to realize that my brother was an inspiratioin to so many people on Earth, but had an even more profound effect from heaven. I am certain he has been God's vessel to carry so many souls to Him as they search for answers to my brother's death.

As for things u never said, SAY THEM now and forever, he will hear you!!

Many blessings, email if you wish ____@____.com

Sherri

My church offers many support groups, and I hear they are wonderful. They have a bereavement group called Journey Toward Joy. In addition, there are licensed professional counselors who work in The Healing Place. They offer counseling to individuals, family, and children. The website is ____@____.com this helps.

H.,
I am sorry to hear about your brother. I lost my brother when he was 22 and I was 20. It is very hard. Time does heal. You will always have the good memories. My sister when to a grief support group that meet at the Medical Center of Lewisville.
You are in my thoughts and prayers
E.

I don't have any names of counselors for you, but I did want to offer my condolences. I am very,very sorry for your loss.

Also, thank you to your husband and your family for the sacrifices you have all made for our country.

H.,

So sorry to hear about your brother. Griefshare.org is a great website. They can direct you to a support group in your area and will also send you daily emails to encourage you through this difficult time. I lost my Dad in January and my Father-in-law the previous Sept. This group has been a lifesaver for me.

Take Care.

First, I am so sorry for your loss. Losing someone close and so young is always so hard to take. Obviously right now, you don't see any way past the pain, but it's very wise of you to seek help like this when you're feeling so hurt.

A lot of churches offer Grief Counseling. If you belong to a church, I would start there. I know the Word Of Love church on Precinct Line in Hurst, about a mile south of Hwy.26, has "Grief Couseling" on it's marquee right now, so if your church doesn't offer it, you might call some other churches around you and see if they do.

If you have mental health benefits available through your work or your husband's work, they can provide good resources as well.

Again, I am so sorry for what you are going through and I hope God will bless you and lighten the burden of this grief very soon.

Blessings,
N.

H.,
I can see your pain in your writing. I have felt that kind of pain, too. It literally felt as though part of me was dying. www.griefshare.org is a very good organization that can refer you to a meeting in your area. If you live in Arlington, my church (The Church On Rush Creek) also has a counseling center. You can find more information at www.RushCreek.org I have had many friends that have told me how much Grief Share has helped them. God is with you and I pray that He will comfort you. Jesus said "Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted." Matthew 5:4
~ N.

Write a letter to him,keep busy and pray.
D.

I don't know of a group to recommend for you... however, I know exactly how you feel. My brother was 23 when he was killed, I was 27. I could not believe it and for a week I kept thinking he would come walking through the front door. Now this was 14 years ago. For the first few years I trembelled when I spoke about his death. The days will get better as time passes. You will always miss him. If you were close to him, he certainly knew how much you admired him and loved him, just as he loved and admired you and probably didn't say so. I like to think my brother has become a guardian angel for my family. I see him and his personality in my son and my nephew so he is still around, like the sneaky jokester that he was. I miss him when there are family issues, like my mom's cancer, my sister's cancer and divorce, my dad's death, the birth of my kids. I know he would have been a help and a joy at these times. So as sad as you are, you will always have this loss. You will get better - but you will not and cannot forget those that touched you is such a special way.

I used Community Hospice for Grief Support group and it was wonderful. It was exactly what I needed. You could also try your church or professional counseling. I'm sure other Hospice's might do the Grief Support Group as well. Community is in Fort Worth and they send out a newletter with articles that are good.

It was helpful to be with other people who were grieving too. They had a really good training on the holidays, which was really helpful.

http://www.compassionatefriends.org/
This group meets the second Tues of each month in NRH. I don't remember which church, but there is a contact on the website. If you email her, she will give you the details

I am so sorry for you loss. I am not sure what area you live in, but First Baptist Church in Arlington has a wonderful Grief Counseling group. Lola Greathouse began this group several years ago and it has helped so many people. You can contact Lola at ###-###-####.

I don't know your location, but if you are in the West Ft. Worth area I highly recommend Anne Cummings Bridge for any counseling needs. She is very professional and terrific at what she does.

I'm very sorry for your loss. I pray that you will find the peace that you need.

H.,
I know words do not help, but I am so very sorry for your loss. God promises He never gives us more than we can handle, although many times, it feels as if we are given too much. Please just rest on His promise that He will bring you through this. We have a great counselor at our church. His name is Greg Wells.
Here is a link to his info: http://www.121cc.com/community/counseling/

Dear H.,
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I was recently introduced to The Warm Place http://www.thewarmplace.org. It's a non-profit that I know you and your entire family will benefit from. Recently my mother passed and I didn't think I needed help getting passed the loss; however what I soon learned was how to speak to my girls and how to deal with day to day events. The Warm Place will walk you and your family thru the process to assist in the healing process and how to communicate your loss with your family. I hope this helps, my thought and prayers are with you.
C.

First of all let me say thank you to your husband for fighting for our freedom and thank you to you for being their for him and your family. May God keep and bless all of you. As far as the grief counseling goes if you attend a church that has a grief/ or recovery group that would be one place to check in too. You family doctor may have some resources for you. Beyond that, friends and family are a great place to seek comfort. I hope this helps and I will be praying for you and your family.

Hi H.,
I am so sorry for your loss and the pain you are going through at this time. Words seem empty but they are heartfelt. My sister is a licensed family counsellor/therapist and has done several grief groups through her church - First Baptist Church, Duncanville, TX.
Not knowing where you live, my guess is there are such groups in churches throughout the metro area. You can only take one day at a time - Always remember the good times you spent with him!
M. W