Getting Bullyed

You should face the Bully and just smile and then ask if THEY need any help with a subject you'd be more than willing to show them how to do it and help.

Bully's seek to make another as miserable as they are inside, hence kindness and lack of reactions usially backs them off or helps them to develop more positive friendships!

Sorry, but in 2007 you were in middle school - that would put you somewhere between Sophmore year and a recent grad. Assuming you are still in school I think you are old enough to be able to ignore these peopel and keep doing what you are doing. Surround yourself with the right people, notify those who can help, councilor - teachers - friends - parents about the bullying and do what you can to keep your distance. I think it would be easier to help you best with more information.

ETA: She posted a response to a question from 2007 - ON June 12, 2012. Go look at the date before you accuse her of trolling.

I saw from a previous response of yours that you are in middle school. Ugh. I hated middle school. I would never want to go back. I was bullied a lot in middle school, but oddly enough, some of the people who were mean to me in middle school ended up being my good friends in high school.

It's difficult to give advice without knowing more about you and your situation, but you just have to be yourself no matter what anybody else thinks. You have to do what you feel is right and ignore the people trying to bring you down. It will get better! :-)

I'm a sixth grade teacher and I know that kids are bullying these two kids who are really smart kids and always do what they're suppose to. I tried to talk to the girl once, but she said she was fine. She is one of the strongest people I know. She knows that she'll be the one getting more money from her better job and have more opportunities in life. Remember that it's only a few bad years before you are something great. The girl I know actually loves school because she looks behind all those awful people. She's going into algebra next year and is excited. Just hang in there and know you're going to be better than all those mean girls. Keep doing what your doing and one day they'll want to be you.
Good luck.

Keep listening to your teacher and parents. Let them know what's happening to you. The kids that are bullying are future criminals if they don't straighten up. You will be the one that is successful.

A sad reality is that bullying (sp?) never stops.... regardless of school, high school or higher education or even in the work place. If you have a history of it, it make it even harder to deal with.

In part of her post Cheryl listed some resources you could go to... I would check them out. As well as a chaplain to help you deal with the issues. You should not have to handle this yourself.

I will say a prayer for you.

you could also look at them and say.. you get in trouble if you want to, but, i am not going to be dragged into it WITH you.
K. h.

Hi A. - I was (and still am) a "goody girl". Middle school sucks because kids are just not mature enough to realize that doing what YOU are doing (listening, learning, etc.) is what is actually valuable. It gets better the farther in school you get. College is awesome because most people there are mature and get it (not all, of course, cause there are always a few jerks ;)

I would say talk to your parents, the counselor at school, and the teachers. They need to know what's going on so you can get the support you need. These non-"goody" losers may not stop teasing, but with support you can tough it out. Stay strong and be yourself.

The only reply I'd have for them would be "yeah, so what?" They can't say much to that. Take care!

OMGosh! My daughter just recently told me she is getting bullied by 3 girls who, are you ready.....are/were her friends! It seems that her high averages in most subjects combined with the fact that the teachers use her work as examples in class has made them envious. One girl wants her to do her hw for her or let her cheat off her tests. My daughter won't allow either of those things to happen, so the girl now makes fun of her wardrobe, her glasses, her height, etc. Another girl teases her for not having kissed a boy yet....FYI, she's 12!! The third girl, who was a close friend for a year and a half, has just stood by as the other two insult her and she laughs. They also call her a "goody goody" because she studies, hands in everything on time, is trying to get into a very competitive high school, doesn't curse, and won't cut class with them.
Now, they USED to be her friends. Were these people your friends at one point? I sat my daughter down and explained to her that what she is doing is WHAT SHE'S SUPPOSED TO BE DOING!!! She is supposed to be a "goody" at 12 years old! I made her speak to her school grade's guidance counselor. They are very good usually at dealing with bullying in schools....but they need to be told in order to do something! Email or ask the counselor to meet with you before or after school, if you don't want the bullies to know about it. Have you told a parent or guardian? You need support and they will be the best support system for you. The counselor or parent/guardian can discuss the situation with the teacher you can monitor the kids' behavior. I have told my daughter to stand up for herself and speak up--to answer these kids right back with comments that aren't insulting, yet makes the point that you're not one to be bullied!! Bullies usually will pick on someone they think is "soft" (weak/timid). However, most of the time, once the 'victim' takes a stand for themselves, the bullies (unfortunately) move on to someone else.

My child's Assistant Principal and Dean acted swiftly!!! I spoke to them at 3:30pm and by the first period of the next morning, they had half the class in their offices, assigned punishment/detention to the ones most involved, and then held a bullying assembly. As of today, no one has bullied her :)

I wish you the best! It's hard, I understand, at this age, but IT WILL GET BETTER!! I tell my daughter that the best revenge is to be happy and succeed and not let them "in".

By the way, Sara's words are perfect!!! Thank you....I'm making my daughter read your post in the morning.

WOW, Cheryl O.....tone it down a notch :)

Verbal & emotional bullying, as statistics indicate, leads to physical bullying.
ANY name calling that is offensive or insulting to the individual is bullying. (Per our state education dept's handbook). Therefore, yes, even consistently calling someone a "troll, if offensive and hurtful to them, is bullying. Don't be a bully :)....be a buddy! :)

There are worse things to be than a "goody girl" after all!

You could be a conniving, lying, nasty, cyber-stalker or something.....

And yes--name calling IS bullying.
Talk to a guidance counselor if you can.