Feel Horrible

Let it go. I know that any responsible loving husband would get defensive and put out about it but it seems like he went overboard with his reaction. Drop it and move on.

I do stuff like that too, Jamie. I don't even REALIZE how silly what I am about to say is until it's popped out of my mouth.

Swear to God I'm possessed sometimes! I apologize too, then feel clingy although my guy is always more than willing to pretend a thing didn't happen, tehehe. Then I scramble around like an idiot trying to make it up to him when it's clear he's forgotten about it almost instantly after I apologize, sigh.

I personally don't know how he can stand me sometimes (and I am sure HE'S thinking....here we go again with the hormonal warfare!)

:)

Drop it...and concentrate on figuring out why you feel so insecure and let your imagination run away with you.
My Mother used to do this same thing...something totally innocent would set her off and she would think about it all night long as she tossed and turned in bed and by the time she got up the next morning she was ready for a fight...and I would have no idea why!!!

What you really have to do, and it IS hard. is pay attention to what is making you have these thoughts.
You need to focus on logical thoughts only.
I saw something On tv about things husbands keep from their wives.
Now I didn't think my hubby did any of these, but I asked in a playful way.
He answered and didn't get offended.
It has a lot to do with HOW you approach the situation. If you go in, guns blazing, when it isn't called for, you're going to get the wrong effect.

I would say to drop it. But if you really feel like you need to get it off your chest try letting him know how you really feel about him.

Oh and when you get those "Crazy" thoughts, realize that they are crazy and let them pass.

Sometimes I read on the internet what men do to their wives or girlfriends or what mom's do to their kids that I disagree with and I will tell my hubby. But I tell him in a Do you believe this? kind of tone.
This has led to discussions why some people live like this, but we both know in our hearts what we want from each other and how we want to raise our children and live our lives.
You have apologized. Maybe make him his special dinner tonight. Then drop it and don't compare him to men on the internet.

I would let it go for now, and if it comes up in the future I would make a joke about my crazy behavior. This may be TMI but my DH's ex was extremely jealous and possessive, so he is sensitive about that kind of stuff. I once brought up something I'd read--on here, actually!--and he freaked. I made a joke about it and even now may text him that I am in the bushes outside his doctor's office checking up on him. He does the same to me. We actually have turned it into a family joke and my daughter does it too. It's hilarious.

My point is, I guess, don't beat yourself up. We all do things we regret later because we are human!

Let it go with words and instead show him with an action like make his favorite dish but don't talk about it anymore. IF he brings it up again then talk about it other way, you asked a real concern, he said no, he felt bad, you apologize and did something (like cooking) to show.

I think you should do something special for him...maybe his favorite dinner or even just a little love letter telling him exactly what you told us...that you can't believe you asked him such a stupid question and how amazed you are that he dealt with it so wonderfully...and how darn lucky you are to have such an amazing person in your life. Turn it from negative to positive and make sure he knows you really love him.

I'd let it go. I too, let my mind run wild sometimes thinking about the many ways that my husband could be misbehaving or how life could go wrong, or how something terrible could happen. I think these things get into our heads from reading, talking, and watching too much Oprah-ish tv. (It's okay, we all do it and it is valuable to have information of what goes on) But I think women let their imaginations run wild sometimes with worry or insecurity creeps in from some ungodly place!

Be grateful for what you have, focus on the good things, not the possibility of bad. And unless he gives you real reason to question him, I'd leave the DH alone and offer some extra special kindness to show him just how much you care.

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wow that's a tough one and i'm a very guilt ridden person myself so i definately know how you are probably beating yourself up but at the same time you obvioulsy felt a need to bring up the topic so without knowing either of you i can only suggest what i would do...since it's already been brought up and you don't want or need to beat a dead horse but at the same time want to resolve uncomfortable feelings..timing is everything...pick a time when you're both off..since it is a touchy topic maybe in the morning when you both have time to be apart if needed afterwards so you can end your day on a happy note again!i would write down anything you still needed to get off your chest and right before you approach the topic i would sit him down letting him know what you wanted to talk about and offer him the same option of writing anything down explaining you wanted this to be your last conversation on this topic.the only other thing i would suggest..is my hubby and i have one golden rule when we are disagreeing....the gloves have to stay off....meaning you have to be respectul and fair,listening to both sides without being defensive....again this is just what i would do but everyone is different and you have to cater to your personalities...best of luck i hope it gets resolved and you can go back to getting good solid sleep at night with smiles

Don't worry! It's totally fine you mad a mistake and you told him why and he's not mad. Just be yourself going forward and ditch the guilt. You don't need to be insecure on top of them mistake. That's what good marriages are for, making mistakes and moving on. It doesn't hurt for him to know how you would feel in that scenario and that you care. Don't beat it to death.

apologize again- explain you got caught up in the other woman's story and it just got the best of you. Let him know you didn't think he would do something like that but the question- and it was a question not an accusation - just popped out. Then let it go everyone says stupid stuff it happens.