Daughter Holding Her Bms

the only thing that worked for me was a really big bribe! I had three boys and one only went for the bribe, I threatened to make the third one clean his own undies if he pooped in them and the first one didn't have an issue with it.

if she has a tendency to poop at the same time each day you might try just sitting her on the potty for 20 minutes and read a book, but that didn't work for me, but has worked for some of my friends.

with my littlest one he did a lot better if he could hug me while on the potty, he would grab on to my legs and lean way over and hug, I think he was afraid of falling in when he was pushing out the poop, and being bent over seemed to help a lot, he also always had to have his knees up high so we used a step stool under his feet so that helped also, but the hugging part was very important to him, sometimes I sat on the step stool in front of him and he could hug my neck, but being bent over and not afraid to fall in helped, we never used a potty chair with any of my kids.

My guy took a few months to get the pee training down, then one day it clicked. What also clicked was that he could hold his poop, and he became a master at it and did :-/ He was only going a couple of times a week and truly uncomfortable (the Fiber Gummies I started giving him made it harder to hold so he was almost struggling at times to hold it) and I came across a site mentioned her on Mamapedia in an answer to a question regarding "poop refusers":
http://www.rogerknapp.com/medical/pottytrainingrefusals.htm

The site offers a wealth of information, and children can benefit greatly by the approaches. The key to my guy going poop on the potty was the "power incentive," and only you can determine what that is for your child. It makes sense why the M & M's, stickers and charts, books, DVD's, small toy, etc. don't work for every child, they're all different. But once I had it (and the parent retains ownership of it so it doesn't lose it's appeal as an incentive) it took just a little over a day until he was literally running to the potty to poop on his own : ) He was almost 27 months at the time so your daughter is the perfect age to benefit as well.

Make sure that she is getting enough fluids and fiber in her diet. The other suggestion is making sure where ever she goes that she has leverage when she goes, meaning a stool for her feet. Make sure that after meals that she gives a 5 or 10 minute try.

I have been going through this with my son who is now 6. We have taken him to his pediatrician several times and finally took him to a GI specialist. He was potty trained at 3. He started school at 4 all day m-f and started holding it. He didn't like using any potty other than at home. I didn't realize it was a constipation issue even if the stool is soft. Now we have him on a schedule as well as on Miralax until bm's are more routine.

I would talk with the nurse at the pediatrician's office to see if they have any suggestions.

Take care.

My now 6 year old daughter did this exact thing around the same age and for several months to the point of blocking herself up, which clearly is not healthy. Following a visit to the pediatrician, along with x-rays to make sure she did not have a serious blockage and developmentally okay in there (apparently there are some digestive developmental issues that often don't present until around the age of two), we started giving her Myralax once daily. This is similar to a laxative, in that after she took it for a couple of days, she was loosened up just enough to not be able to hold it in any longer, however, does not present a dependency. We did this for several months until she was comfortable with using the restroom and had not a problem since. Hope this helps and good luck!!

I'm going through this now with one of my sons. He's got the hang of peeing in the potty, but won't poop in the potty. We allow him to wear a diaper/pull-up if he wants to poop in that. He is still reluctant to actually go and had a really painful time of it last Sunday night. We had already bumped up the fiber in his diet to try to help. So we called the pediatrician's office and now we are giving him Miralax. It takes a few days to really take effect, but we've already seen him going once a day...just still in a pull-up.

Our plan is to keep letting him go in a pull-up until he gets more consistent and quicker at it. Right now he may stay in a pull-up for 1/2 hour and may have false alarms where he doesn't really have to go. Once we can get him going consistently, then we'll start working on getting him out of the pull-up and on the potty. But I'd rather have him go in the pull-up than withhold. And in terms of potty training, he is still learning even with the pull-up as he doesn't go in his underwear and asks us for the pull-up. He also doesn't pee in the pull-up so I don't feel like we are regressing. He knows the pee still goes in the potty.

Also, stay away from foods that might plug her up, like bananas. My kids still like those baby food pouches and view them as a treat. So I picked up some that have lots of fiber in them per serving. It's an easy way to get some extra fiber in him plus it's all fruits and vegetables so it's a healthy snack. I also picked up some crackers that have lots of fiber in them since my son likes crackers as a snack.

What worked for me was to wait. My son (yes, I know boys are more difficult) was peeing great, but absolutely refused to poop in the potty. He was not afraid. He knew exactly what was supposed to happen. He just didn't want to do it. His bathroom became a veritable candy and toy store. There was nothing he wanted enough to make him poop in that potty. When I tried to force it and made him wear big boy pants, he held it for 2 days, then finally pooped in his undies before I could stop him. I waited a month and tried again and it was the same trauma. I finally said it was up to him, mommy and daddy aren't mad, and he can go when he's ready. Two days later, he said he wanted to poop on the potty and we haven't had a single accident. Not one.

I had several friends tell me that if they're not ready, you can stand on your head and it doesn't matter. I also have a friend with a daughter who had the same issue. She withheld and the next 2 years were filled with enemas and books like "it doesn't have to hurt to poop." That was enough for me to wait it out.

My daughter did this, and the only solution was to put a pull up on her and let her go during nap or night. She realized real quick how gross it was and that mommy still had to "change a diaper" like she was a baby. (and I put her on the changing table and talked about how babies did this and how she was a big girl and has shown me she is by peeing in the potty. So why poop in her pants? Yes I pulled the guilt trip card.) She also got very constipated by holding it, and therefore had some really painful poops. I think that convinced her too!

If I recall, this only lasted about 2 weeks, and then she told me she didn't need the pull ups anymore and could poop in the potty.

Good luck!

I don't know why but giving my daughter apple juice made it easier for her to go and less likely to hold it. It didn't give her loose stools but it kept her from holding it, she just sat herself down and went. Also i've learned when she's going number two she prefers a little privacy so I step right out the door till she is done. If you put some things in her diet that will increase her urge to go it will give her more oppurtunities to try. Kind of like increasing they're liquids when you started potty training. Fruit, yogurt, and oatmeal are all helpful and healthy. Happy potty training!!!!! :0)