My best friend will not come to my Daughters 2nd birthday party and bring her children because we are having it at Chucky cheese. She says that her 3 kids are not fully vaccinated and there are too many germs there. Do I have a right to be upset. She has no problem taking them to Disneyland.
You have a right to feel how you feel and I would be a little hurt. But I understand where your best friend is coming from. I'm a complete germaphobe and Chuck E. Cheese freaks me out. Especially now that we are getting into flu season among other illnesses. That aside, she is your best friend so I would let it go and do something special with her and her kids another time to celebrate.
This time of year Chuck E Cheese is germ heaven, I'd still go but I don't think your friend is off base with her concerns. She has chosen to not fully vaccinate her kids and that means, in her eye's, there are going to be things and situations that she will have to avoid.
Look at it this was, your DD is going to be 2. She's not going to notice or care who is there, she is going to be having to much fun. If your friend is overall good to you and your DD then respect that she is making a parenting choice that is best for her kids.
Yes! You do have a right to be hurt and upset. However, you also have to respect she is protecting her kiddos the best she knows how. I think if you all are close, you should feel safe enough in your friendship to tell her you understand, but are hurt and that there will be a visible hole at the event without them there.
FYI: My kids - despite my preferences - LOVE Chuck E Cheese. I do go there just because they want to on a thursday or friday - no party LOL. Germs are just as prevalent at the park and the roller rink and the jump houses. It is personal perceptions. ANYWHERE a bunch of kids who stick their fingers in their mouths, noses, etc and touch stuff is going to be riddled with germs. that's life:) Have fun.
Honestly, my kids are vaccinated and I try to find an excuse not to go to a Chuck E cheese birthday party. They tend to be very dirty, gross, chaotic, and I have a very difficult time watching multiple kids there. Not to mention all the horrible things I alwasy read about happening at Chuck E cheese.
For comparison sake - I'm very laid back, non germaphobe, space giving kind of parent. So, I think your friend may have a legitimate concern.
Don't dwell on it, because it's not going to change her mind. I think you do get more germs at a place like Chuck E Cheese than you do at D-land, though I'm sure she takes them to plenty of other places with germs. Lots of people just dislike CEC and choose not to go there, so maybe that's her excuse.
It just isn't worth getting upset over. I can totally understand why you're hurt, I just don't think it will change things.
Hopefully she will vaccinate her kids soon. Imagine the germs they will get at school.
No, you have no right. It's her reasoning. You GIVE because you want to, not to be sure you GET something back equally. GIVE without conditions and love her for who she is. Personally, I hate CC and would give ANY reason to not go...but because I am so straightforward, I'd tell you that AND then give a really great present. ;)
I have not vaccinated my kids, but I've still taken them to CC (once)...because I WANT them to be exposed to things to boost their immune systems naturally by exposure....but that's me. My kids are NEVER sick. Literally, not even a runny nose....but I expose them constantly since they were born, little bits at a time and let their immune systems strengthen little by little.
I'd let it go. let her kid have her party. I kinda agree at 2 its a little young for all the germs at CC . I remember having it at the park where the kids could run around on the playground There are germs there but its outside. Maybe you and her can have a little party for your daughter at a park at a different time?
No - because winter is coming and the last thing she wants to deal with is 3 sick kids. Your child is 2 and doesn't care who is there. If you want to spend time with your friend for your kiddos' birthday, do it. But don't get mad at her for this. Besides, you're saving the cost of 4 people at Chucky Cheese, so there's a positive side.
Yes, you have the right to feel whatever you want to feel. However, you also have the ability to make a choice about how you feel. Will being upset make you any happier? Will it improve your relationship? What is your goal and will this help you achieve it?
I choose to be happy when my choice is between being right and being happy.
Take the whole vaccination-germ thing out of the equation and read your own post: You want her there because YOU go to her kids' events and you threw her a baby shower. So...you threw her a shower expecting that she would reciprocate by coming to a social event of yours? Not because you happen to like her?
That's how it sounds.
It sounds like you base your friendship with her on keeping score: You did X for her so she now must repay you by doing Y.
If you consider yourself close friends with her...what's the friendship based on, really? If you were good friends with similiar interests, etc., beyond just both having young kids, then I think this tit-for-tat scorekeeping would not matter to you, but it does, so it sounds as if you are really just all about keeping things "even" between you. That's no basis for a friendship between adults. Or even between kids.
I've been to many birthday parties, I love Disneyland, but I am sorry to say I HATE Chucky Cheese. Too noisy, cheesy, unhealthy... I excused myself from a few Chucky Cheese parties myself. Your daughter and kids are probably going to love it, but please don't be mad at their mom LOL D.
Nope. She's making sure that her kids are safe, so you don't have the right to be upset with her for that. Now, if she had said "I hate Chuck E. Cheese and I am not going there under any circumstances..." then you would have a leg to stand on.
Why are you having a 2 year old's party there? There's nothing for a toddler to do! Your daughter isn't going to care who is there and who isn't. If it's about keeping score and gifts, then invite her over for cupcakes with her children on another day.
I wouldn't be mad at your friend. I completely understand. I'm a huge germaphobe. I'll go to Disneyland any day, no problem - I just clean our hands after each ride. I will not set foot in Chucky Cheese ever again. They're disgusting. The first time I went there my girlfriend wanted to go. We were in high school at the time. I swore I would never go back. My son's friend had a party at Chucky Cheese about 9 years ago. We agreed to go since I hadn't actually been in a Chucky Cheese in over 20 years. Again, I swore I would never go back. It was just as bad as I remembered it from the first time we went.
