Bedtime - Albany, NY

well for 2.5 years she's been sleeping in your bed, so of course she's going to have a hard time transitioning. You can't bring her to bed with you anymore- you have to stick with a routine. Kids thrive on routine which is why she's not sleeping well for you now, you keep bringing her back to bed with you.
Come up with a plan and stick to it. I would just keep going in to comfort her when she wakes up, but that's it.
She will eventually sleep thru the night if she knows she doesn't get to go into your bed.
Good luck,
Lynsey

Pick a few nights a week and sleep on the floor in her room. Each week, cut it down a night. Let her sleep with you two nights a week after that. She'll get used to you being gone and see it as a special night when you two do sleep in the same room.

Nanc

Hi J.. I support co-sleeping, did it when I had infants and my kids were welcome to visit our bed later on when needed. However, if she has slept her whole life in your bed, you likely won't be successful in simply buying her a bed, putting it in another room and thinking she'll just go to sleep there without any transition issues. Although she is very young, speak with her about the expectations. Let her sleep with a tshirt you've worn or a blanket/pillow from YOUR bed. If you are in rooms where the proximity allows you to hear each other, if she wakes up, speak to her from your bed, don't go in to her (unless she is hysterical). If she is suddenly waking repeatedly, I hate to say this because I will likely be flamed for it, but you could consider a few days of Benedryl at bedtime. She may be less likely to wake up with a dose of Benedryl in her system and that may train her body to sleep through the night again (in her own bed)
Good luck

My son transitioned to his own room and a twin bed at this age and did it without too much drama. We talked it up a lot and he played on the bed for a few weeks first. He was in our room in a crib and never co-slept (works well for some but not us). I thought we would have to do some intermediate steps and planned to have the crib mattress on the floor in our room if needed. Maybe having her in your room but not in your bed will work as an step in the right direction.

My daughter and I co-slept as well for almost 2 1/2 years. She sleeps through the night in her big bed but I lay down with her every night (sometimes I end up falling asleep with her). Once I know she is really asleep I get up and leave. Are you already doing this? I don't mine that I've been doing this for awhile if it means she will sleep through the night. She used to wake up 3 times a night on average, so laying down with her for a little while every night is fine with me. Of course, eventually, I hope that we can get to the point where we read stories and then I tuck her in and say good night, turn of the night and leave - but I know the time will come. They are not little forever! Elizabeth Pantley has a good book for helping with sleeping problems. I think it's called The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddler or something like that. Best of luck to you!

Hi there I had to same issue with my son who is 2 1/2 also. What worked was butting his bed in my room. Let him fall asleep on his own by first reading a story giving him a kiss then I leave the room. Now if he's in my bed I leave him there until he's sleep then I move him to his bed. Most of the time he will stay there til its time to wake up in the AM. For those time he does not I just put him back in his bed.
Good luck, D. C.