Why Do Women Act like This?

I used to think that all women were like this.......but I found that there are 100 amazing women for every nasty, self centered one.
I am so thankful for my sweet friends who changed my opinion of having girls for friends!

Sounds like you may need to get some new friends, I wouldnt spend my free time with people like this.

Insecurity.
Pettiness.
Immaturity.

These are the top reasons that I don't have many girlfriends and never will. .
It just never seems to end.
So my solution, avoid it completely and be the person that you want to be.

Those women won't bother you anymore once they realize that they can't crack you facade.

I play soccer, and not all teams do that. We've played against some really nasty teams, and some of our members have been on other teams where the women did that, so they quit the team. Our team is wonderful. You need a new team.

not all women do. Find yourself a new group of friends!

Insecurity. When people feel badly about themselves they like to take it out on someone else. Very sad, really.

i think the real question is

'why do people act like this?'

this "hazing" "singling out" and "mess talking" happens among every living thing, not just women, or humans for that matter.

its a defense mechanism brought on by ego, its not fun, but it separates the compassionate from the not compassionate, and weve all heard the saying.
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"the meek shall inherit the earth"

This stuff can start up in preschool and elementary school and it continues into the old folks home. A lot of people are like pack animals (dogs, baboons, etc) and there is a competition for rank in a group. When a new person approaches a group, everyone wonders where the new person will fit in and if they themselves will be demoted in the group. The more secure in their ranking they are, the more they can afford to be friendly to the new comer.

People are insecure and lack confidence, so they find ways to feel better about themselves, often at others' expense. I don't think it's usually malicious, but quite thoughtless and inconsiderate.

I think the same thing all the time!! I have came to the conclusion that they don't have anything else to do!!! And 2 worst things about this is.. they don't see nothing wrong with thier actions, and thier chidren will grow up doing the same thing. What are nthey trying to teach thier children???

It is REALY sad and CATTY that this happens. They think that they are any better than everyone else. Or WHAT

I too, am bothered by this behavior. You would think people would grow up and stop behaving like that. The truth is, some do and some don't. I thing it stems from one's insecurities and also the fact that these people are greatly influenced by what other people may think. But as a lot of your responders said, we are not all like that. And hopefully, you or whoever you are talking about can find some nicer people to be around! Good luck!

Well I am in my 40's and still find women acting like what you mentioned. It might because it never occured to them to act any different of they are just nasty.

There a bunch of women at my kids school. In my head I call them the bench ladies. They only say hi to each other. These are not the type of women I would want to be friends with.
There is a neighbor who lives on my cul-de-sac who is also very clicky. I don't understand her. I find it very confusing. Sometimes she is very nice.
They would prefer to be bitches instead of having kindness in their hearts. Its so much easier to be nice. I would find other people to hang around that are a joy.

I think that it is like that with both genders...everywhere, not just on sports teams. It's like that in the workplace, the neighborhood, and all over the world (that's why we have wars). I think that most people get along with others who they share something in common with. I know that that is usually how my friends came about. Sometimes you fit in, sometimes you don't. Women tend to be more emotional therefore they are more catty and verbal and take it personally. Men will usually distant themselves from guys they don't click with or if worse comes to worse, they get physical.

Just my 2 cents,

M.

Melissa M. Is right on, I found the same to be the case most often. There a so many people (men and women alike) out there who are insecure and think that it will make them feel better to belittle someone who appears to have what they do not. They stay in there clicks because it is their comfort zone, we find comfort among those we are like and growth among those we are not. I just refuse to return the negativity, instead I smile. They usually don't know how to handle that kind of reaction.

Arrested development.
Pettiness.
Stuck up.
The sense that it gives them "power" over others...

Yes, it should be for fun. And "team" work. They don't get that.
Cliques will happen. Its pathetic.

Before I "join" something, I always use my intuition and per the "vibes" of the group... if I don't like it, I don't join in. I keep my distance.
I am good about gauging personality types... so I use my gut instinct.

I am an over 30 woman... but it happens in women younger than that too.
I just don't make 'friends' with people like that.
They are toxic.
You decide and "choose" the group you hang out with.
Or don't get too personal/friendly with them.

I hope this isn't happening to you and your team?
If so, maybe another team might be better, with a better coach and a group that focuses on TEAM work and camaraderie. Instead.

Men, can be like that too.

Its not cool, no matter what age or group it is.

I have made friends, with other Moms, that are like minded like myself and totally nice. Mature, and women. Not immature 'brats.' Some adults still act like kids.

Hugs and I hope you don't let it get you down.
Its not worth it.

all the best,
Susan

Because it makes them feel important.
Okay, at a high school reunion, why do all the cheerleaders STILL group together? Security. Without that ''status'' from high school, they'd have probably been just as much "nobody"s as everyone else. But the cheerleaders group together, stick together, stick with the former jocks, who strangely enough ALSO stick together. Security. They bonded years ago, didn't tend to go outside that circle, and so stay where they feel comfortable.
Belittling fellow/sister team players is not only rude, it's unsportsmanlike and someone should step up and tell this person to root for her own team or button it. But they have this overwhelming need to believe they understand the game so well that they know who will score for their team.They've overlooked the fun aspect and instead think winning is everything.
Admittedly, I tend to do the same as a sideliner in karate. I've been a karate mom for so long that I can tell who will go far and who's just messing around. So you tend to encourage those who seem serious. May not always be right, but why encourage those who can't pay attention?

You need to find nicer women to hang out with! Not all groups of women do this. I know what you are talking about. When I have been subjected to this, I push back AND I don't hang out with those women anymore. I do have wonderful friends too!

Cause their b's lol I think that women in general are just intimidated by eachother most of the time and when they click with other unsure, insecure women they leach on eachother!

Its not just women in there 30s and older it starts about highschool age dont know why guess thats life.