What Schedule Is Best for 50/50 Custody

I had a friend that did a 4/3 split with his daughter until she was in middle school and then went to a week on/week off. My friend and his ex-wife also lived close so it wasn't too difficult on either one of them. Sometimes they would have problems with the split in the middle of the week because of the child's activities, so you need to be flexible to have the child spend an extra day with one parent sometimes. The more activities my friend's daughter got into they found it easier to go week on/week off. I think with a child that young if you can do a 4/3 split it would be best because the child wouldn't have to go so long without seeing mom or dad.

We currently have a 50/50 with my step daughter, and we get her every thursday, and every other week it is from thurs to monday. it seems to work out good. she has a long period of time with us, and a long period of time with them.

Hi E.,

My lil one is only 4 and because her father and I do not live that far from one another we do 2 days each then every other weekend.

It would be very hard on her if she didn't see us for much longer than that...also for myself.

How old is the child? How far do you live from each other. If the child is old enough to have opinions on this and make some decisions, work together with the child to find the best solution. Hopefully you and your ex have a good enough relationship to do this, or you're able to put your issues to the side in favor of the feelings and sanity of your child. I'm a child of divorce, mom had primary custody, so I didn't deal with this specifically, but if you can work with your kid and take their needs (from THEIR point of view) re. friends, activities, etc., they will be ETERNALLY greatful, even if they don't realize it. Believe me, I know.

Good luck and take care.