What Brings You up When You're Down?

I listen to messages online or download Christian music to an mp3 player. There are so many wonderful pastors out there. This life will be over one day. In the grand scheme of things it's but a vapor. I like to concentrate on what comes next. God has us here for some reason even if I don't understand it all. I truly look forward to what he has for me after I finish all he has for me to do and learn here. In the meantime it's my job to figure out what I AM here for. We all have a purpose even if your purpose seems lost or burried right now.

Sometimes a good cry and a nap. Then a forceful positive attitude that it all will work itself out. I also pray. So, prayer is very important to me too.

I hope you are OK! PM me if you need to "talk".

Hugs!

Just remember that God has a plan. We don't always understand it at the time, but it's there.
Hang tough, kiddo.

Oh no, I'm sorry you're feeling so low R.. What makes me feel better kind of depends on what is upsetting me. If it's just a lot of little stuff piling up- or just having a general down day, music always makes me feel better- something fast and happy.

If someone I love has died, I try to imagine the incredible peace and love they feel in Heaven- and that they are reuniting with others who have passed before them.

How about talking to a friend or family member? Or get outside and go for a walk. Sometimes going to church helps.

If this feeling doesn't go away, and you've been feeling this way for a week or 2, consider talking to your doctor- you may be suffering from depression.
I'm on medication for depression, and it has helped a lot.

I hope you feel better soon!! :)

Such a timely question for my family as we lost my father-in-law to a car accident last week.

I would love to say "time with my son", but quite honestly this week I have found myself just needing "quiet" and "alone" b/c my little guy is too young to understand, but knows that something is wrong and is looking for more attention than normal!

Finding a few minutes to myself to just be quiet and let myself be sad, angry and overwhelmed without having to hide it from anyone is the only way I am finding some peace right now.

I hope that you find peace in whatever is troubling your heart.

Depends on the depths I am at.
Kinda - down - a good episode of Glee or some silly sitcom makes me smile.
More melancholy - good music by myslef, maybe driving around in the car Mary J Blige, Bob Marley, Aretha Franklin, sometimes if im more angry than sad, Alanis Morrisette, Jay Z - 99 Problems, Linkin Park , something a little harder.
When I'm weepy and hopeless - i take a melatonin and a nap.
When it's full on sorrow - I let it take a hold of me for a while. Really face it head on and let it run its course, Loss of sleep and all. I just go about my regular day and try to rest as much as possible and stay hydrated. Lots of wine soaked tears. I know better than to try and shortcut grief. I let it run it's course.
But when I am ready to try and feel better, I find doing esteemable acts makes me feel better. Hard work. Doing good things for others. Really physical labor. Sweaty, heavy, hard work, hopefully in the service of others, makes me hopeful about the world. I might offer to clean out my grammas garage. Even if it's just in my own backyard. I might dig something up or move something around and just get dirty and tired. After so much time spent on an emotional level, it's great to get out of my own head and work my body. It's a differant ache that kind of replaces the emotional one for a little while. Then get cleaned up, drink a ton of wine and carry on.

being active. I LOVE to swim so that usually works for me by going to the gym...or working out. tanning helps too (for me at least) I was in a funk over the weekend and yesturday it was soo nice. I hand washed and waxed my car. Took almost 4 hours but it looks soo nice. Sadly mother nature pissed on it this morning and dirtied up my 4 hours of hard work within a 20 min drive to my horrible job...(witch ha ha)
When all else fails I get happy by taking my kid to Chucky Cheese or a play gym and play WITH her in the bouncy things.

Sorry you are feeling so sad, why?
When I am very sad and everything looks awful, I think about my more difficult days, I think on how much people wished have my life and aren't as lucky, I see my kids and they are happy and healthy.
I like listening to music, talk to a friend, sleep, cry, get some fresh air, and remember this tho should pass.
I hope everything is all right, and that you may just nervous for your wedding.
Warm hugs!

My sister and I handle our emotions very differently..... She will do Bickram Yoga or go to church and pray.

I watch some sort of gory movie - Hostel worked wonders for me while my bf and I were going through some major trouble. Something about comparing my problems to theirs - mine just didn't measure up.

If all else fails I look at someone who has it worse than me and then I write down a list of what I am thankful for. Currently, that would be one of my sister's friends. She was 8 1/2 months pregnant with her 1st son on 9/11. Her mom was killed in the trade center and her husband killed at the Pentagon as a result of the attacks. I can't even imagine. So, when I am really sad I think of what it must have been like for her and I just know that I have to suck it up.

Good luck with whatever you are going through. Also, know that everyone deals with things differently, so what works for you isn't what might work for anyone else.... Do your own thing!

Is this all one issue? Grief is a terrible emotion and takes time to get through. When I was grieving the loss of my mother, I read everything I could get my hands on (about grief & loss), I prayed, talked with my minister, had grief counseling, acupuncture, learned self-hypnosis, and prayed some more. I would also recommend listening to happy music, watching funny movies, and reading funny books. Good luck!
P.S. There is a great little book called "Healing After Loss". :)

I usually call my Mom and cry it out. By the end of the conversation I am usually laughing at what I was previously crying about. Or, I rent a really sappy movie and baul my eyes out.

If I am grieving, I cry it out with God or go to the cemetary and cry it out. I sometimes will write in my journal just to get things out.

Once I say it and cry about it I feel better for a while!

I read this portion of Psalm 139. It reminds me that there is no place I can go where God won't go with me. He's there always there. Just because I can't see the light doesn't mean it isn't shining.

Psalm 139 (New Living Translation)

Psalm 139
For the choir director: A psalm of David.
1 O Lord, you have examined my heart
and know everything about me.
2 You know when I sit down or stand up.
You know my thoughts even when I’m far away.
3 You see me when I travel
and when I rest at home.
You know everything I do.
4 You know what I am going to say
even before I say it, Lord.
5 You go before me and follow me.
You place your hand of blessing on my head.
6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too great for me to understand!

7 I can never escape from your Spirit!
I can never get away from your presence!
8 If I go up to heaven, you are there;
if I go down to the grave,[a] you are there.
9 If I ride the wings of the morning,
if I dwell by the farthest oceans,
10 even there your hand will guide me,
and your strength will support me.
11 I could ask the darkness to hide me
and the light around me to become night—
12 but even in darkness I cannot hide from you.
To you the night shines as bright as day.
Darkness and light are the same to you.

13 You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body
and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.
15 You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion,
as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.
16 You saw me before I was born.
Every day of my life was recorded in your book.
Every moment was laid out
before a single day had passed.

17 How precious are your thoughts about me,[b] O God.
They cannot be numbered!
18 I can’t even count them;
they outnumber the grains of sand!
And when I wake up,
you are still with me!.........
19 O God, if only you would destroy the wicked!
Get out of my life, you murderers!
20 They blaspheme you;
your enemies misuse your name.
21 O Lord, shouldn’t I hate those who hate you?
Shouldn’t I despise those who oppose you?
22 Yes, I hate them with total hatred,
for your enemies are my enemies.
23 Search me, O God, and know my heart;
test me and know my anxious thoughts.
24 Point out anything in me that offends you,
and lead me along the path of everlasting life.

Okay to the first question, I usually go for a brisk walk and cry. I know it sounds strange but sometimes a cry is really what is needed to make you feel better. That usually makes me feel better than I focus on all the good things in my life. Even if they seem really small and are few of them. I think of the love my kids give me. I think of how blessed I am to be able to have children and to have delivered healthy babies.

Second question: I keep reminding myself that nothing last forever. That although im feeling really low at the moment, it will pass and the happiness will return.

Third question: Time and prayer.

* I just read some of the other comments and a lot of ppl mentioned movies. That made me think of two times that watching a movie really got me through. After my father passed, I was so terribly sad and really felt like my life was over. I couldn't stop crying and thought I would never be happy again. While laying down w/the tv watching me more than the opposite riding in cars with boys came on. That movie had me laughing so hard it hurt and even though I was still sad, I knew that I would find happiness again. When my relationship ended Fun with Dick and Jane helped me feel better. Good Luck R..