What are their summers like?
This is the time for some chores, and learning the skills to go to college and be able to take care of themselves.
Making beds, washing their own clothing, folding them, shopping at a grocery store, knowing how to plan, prepare and clean up a meal.
How to mow a lawn. How to repair some things. How to get stains out of clothing. How to shop with a budget.
We have a very dear friend that was VERY active daughter, Always her choice. Her mom was always worried about how this child keeping up with everything and waiting for her to burn out or break down. She said, sometimes, I feel like I am her "personal assistant" (this woman is an Attorney for the State f Texas). It helped a lot when her daughter started driving!
I reminded this mom that this is who this child is. Her job was going to be to guide her daughter to admit, when it was getting to be too much, or if her grades were slipping, or if she began to not feel well or not look well. .
Here is her Senior year in HS that I know of.
She was the Band Major
Class President (had been class president since 8th grade)
Duties - Homecoming Dance
Homecoming Court (remember she was the Band Major that night also, she had to run and change into her dress after Conducting the band performance! )
Fund raisers - designed the Senior tshirt and organized the sales
Came up with the Senior Prank (she set up a dunking booth in the Senior Parking lot with snow cones and popcorn with live music on a school day!
Arraigned PROM
Was in her own Band
Worked at a Yogurt place and another place, but I cannot recall where.
Top 10 in her class of 500.
National Honor Society
Varsity Volleyball
Team Softball
Tutored /Mentored a Middle school kid
Student Council
Applied to Stanford, University of Texas and NYU, accepted to all.
There is more, but it has been 5 years now.. She is in Grad School at NYC has 2 jobs AND is starting a Website for Korean Musicians (She spent a year in Korea while in college)
Some kids thrive on this. They can get so many things done and they keep on doing it for years. She says she does not feel stressed, she feels energized.
Yes, she takes care of her apt (I heard it is super tiny) and all of her on upkeep.
Hold on mom, you have children that want and seem to be able to do it all. This is what they are good at. You just make sure they are healthy happy and keeping up with their school work. In between you can teach them how to take care of themselves.