Weight Loss - San Jose,CA

WEIGHT WATCHERS!!! it is inexpensive, consistant and reliable. You will fing FRIENDS and education... There is a breast feeding weight loss plan too!!

I would recommend this website www.sparkpeople.com it is FREE with lots of tools, support and motivation. Well some men have issues with themself so they need to put others down. Don't let him get to you, It's not true. I was told worse things and I found a man (my husband) who loves me :0) You can do it !!!!

Hi Jareda-

My approach is a little different. First, stop focusing on the weight issue. Its just a symptom of the bigger problem- your self esteem. Look for ways to make you feel stronger emotionally. Am I a good person? a good mother? a good friend? You are making it as a 22 yr old single mother which is pretty remarkable in my book. Try to stay away from people who bring you down, especially loser guys who are verbally abusive. Set boundaries for the people you choose to have in your life and how you will allow yourself to be treated. Focus on your kids and being the best person you can be. Gradually, as you feel stronger and the self esteem builds, the weight will become less of an issue. Celebrate small achievements by playing with your kids at the park. Show them what a strong happy mom looks like. When you are down and thinking about all the nasty things your ex said, ask yourself this question: Am I going to prove him right or am I going to prove him wrong? Promise yourself you will NEVER again allow someone in your (and your children's) lifes who treats you (or them) badly, period!

I wish you the best of luck. You can do it!

For every time you were told a negative thing about you personally, you need to hear a positive one. Here is a small start: You are beautifull, vibrant, young, smart, you have a gorgeous family, and you are strong beyond your years. I have lost a lot of wieght in many ways and have given advice to many people about ways to lose wieght. This will be the first time I have ever suggested this: Go to weight-watchers, or Jenny Craig where you have someone - and actual person who is looking at you - praising you every step of the way for how strong and beautifull and dedicated you are !!!
And, BTW, good job making him an ex. What an idiot to give up someone like you. You're awesome.

Jareda, many men and women have the thoughts that they are not good enough , pretty enough able to enough etc. becasue someone told them.
So prove him wrong! He is an x that means that you donot have to give him power over you any more. What ever he thinks is not your problem any more.
So take the children to the park and get active. Pushing a stroller and not taking a car can really do wonders. If you just exercise with the children at a childs leval to get started-- most children's shows do some exercise activity, buy a dance tape and learn line dance and your 4 year old will love doing it with you. I personally hate my Wii but use it. But using the excuse of someone else is not going to get you to your goal and won't help you move forward. So get up and look to your future and be healthy enough to tke care of yourself ,work, and take care of your precious children. YOU R WORTH IT!

Jareda: I carried 40 extra pounds for a long time(almost 15 years). I have lost about 30 pounds now over the course of about 9-10 months and I'm still going.There are a few things that finally worked for me. First of all, YOU have to decide that you really want to lose and then just pick a day and get started. Also set very consevative goals...don't expect to lose 60 pounds in 2 months. I suggest a goal of a pound a week, so that you can establish eating habits that you can continue after you lose the weight. Since you have internet access, I suggest going to the site www.fitday.com. This is a FREE program that helps you plan a course for weight loss and understand the calories associated with the food, and how you MUST offset it with exercise if you want to enjoy some treats like desserts or adult beverages. If you have a I-phone or other smartphone there is a program/application called Lose It! that I am using now. I can input the food and exercise immediately, and can plan out what I can eat each day in advance. Actually seeing how many calories are in certain foods is very eye opening and can lead to better decision making. It's similar to Weight Watchers, but you track calories instead of points. Bottom line is that you have to make smart decisions DAILY...even if you mess up one day or one week, immediately get back on track the next day/week.
I wish you much success, and pray your self-esteem recovers from the past. Blessings to you!

Hey!

I understand the mega weight gain issue post baby. I gained 65 lbs. with my first and 57 lbs. with the second. After having the second baby, the weight lingered. I was devastated at the sight of my appearance. However with my oldest nearly 4 years and the baby now 2 years old, I motivated myself to lose the weight. Now, I'm only about 9 lbs. heavier than my original pre-baby size and trying to lose another 25 lbs. before the year ends. My advice, and what really helped me...

- I signed up for several health/ weight conscious websites. I receive daily information about how to eat healthy and what types of foods to incorporate into my diet. These sites also provide exercise information and encouragement.

- I joined a gym and made a committment to exercise at the gym at least 4 hours a week. I'm trying to increase that to 6 hours at the gym a week, but I have a child care dilema that will not be resolved in the near future. Paying money on the membership serves as motivation as well. I can not afford to waste money and the $ 35 monthly is motivation enought to get my money's worth.

- I purchased exercise DVD's for exercising at home. Before getting ready and leaving for work, I put in a pilates video that runs for about 25-30 minutes. I am able to get some "me time" before everyone wakes up and jump starting my day with pilates makes the morning and the remainder of the day go smootly.

- Lastly, when I have days were I fall off my work out plan and over sleep, over eat and under exercise, I DO NOT beat myself up about it. There is the next day, and I just give it my all then.

Good luck. Remember, you are beautiful, powerful and strong. You are a mother. Take care of yourself and you children; take care of yourself to take care of your children; taking care of yourself will teach your children to value themselves and you as a person.

- T.

Have you tried Baby Boot Camp? It's stroller fitness for parents. You bring your child in a stroller and get a full body work out. Most locations are at parks so your kids will get a chance to play at the end. I own my own franchise and love the women I have met. It is more than just a work out. It's a support group, playgroup and exercise. There isn't one mom of mine that hasn't shown up at one time or another in tears. By the end of class she is feeling better from talking about it and getting moving. www.babybootcamp.com

If your health coverage will cover it, maybe you can get a little counseling too to try to see why you are eating.

Hang in there. You are a good person and deserve to be happy.

J.

Hello. I know how you feel with the extra weight. I was carrying extra weight (about 40lbs) for a long time. I would recommend one of the exercise groups locally in your area like baby boot camp or a Mama Bootcamp exercise group. The environment around all the other women is like nothing like else. I joined Mama Bootcamp here in Sacramento and it has changed my life. I have lost over 35lbs in the last year and in addition to losing weight I have gained muscle strength and self esteem. I couldn't of done it without this group of women and my coaches. The support is just what you need. Try looking up a mama bootcamp or baby bootcamp in your area. The mama bootcamp is only the mom's, no kids. I prefer this because i can totally focus on just me. But it all depends on your schedule with the children. Good luck and you can do it! You can!

I have a great weight loss program if you are interested, but I will tell you this.......your husband certainly could have done a psych out on you. You may not believe that you can be thin or that you are pretty........but of course he never would have chosen you in the first place if he did not think you were not attractive! So know in your heart he said those things to keep you where he wanted you, and that they had nothing to do with reality.

I'm glad you want to lose weight to be healthy. But you also need to be emotionally healthy. So I am going to suggest you find a group, or create a women's group, where you can go to build your self esteem. Support one another and talk about how to feel good about yourself.

At the risk of sounding like the comic Al Franken from Saturday Night Live I am going to tell you, "You are good enough!" Now do what you have to do to believe it yourself. Learn to love yourself, then the rest will come.

I have a book that I loved, but it depends on you and your personality. Mine was spiritual, but not religious. "Soul Coaching," by Denise Linn.

Hi Jareda,
The first thing you do is get your ex's negative comments out of your mind. Some people do this to hurt others. (I'm speaking from experience)
Focus on your little ones and yourself. Get couseling if you can.
I know it's easier said than done, but focus on the good things in your life, like your children, and yourself. Remind yourself that YOU ARE A WORTHY AND WONDERFUL PERSON... Get out with your kids, go the park, for a stroll. Meet and make new friends, surround yourself with positive people.

Weight watchers is the best way to go. There is a support group and meetings to be accountable for and you loose it safely. I would do that. It is a fabulous program and really a life style change for dieting.

I was watching the Joy Bauer Fit Club on NBC, and this girl was a newly single mother, over wieght and not happy. She got a bike, and a cart to tow her little one around with her, cause she felt guilty about leaving them. She lost I think over 100lbs and she looked great, she did something that did not take her away from her kids. That might be something to consider. Good luck.
I am curently doing Zumba three nights a week. It is so much fun! Look into that too!

If you can afford to do it, Weight Watchers is great. You have to be diligent about counting your points and learning what to substitute, etc. but if you do, you'll lose the weight. I like the program because it lets you eat real food and make your choices which therefore makes it easier to keep the weight off afterwards. I've done the meetings routine which is OK at first but now I'm just doing it online. Good luck and don't give up - if for no other reason, your health is the primary reason to maintain a healthy weight.

J. F.

I am sorry to hear of your struggles. I have struggles with weight all my life. at one point I lost 60 pounds on weight watchers after my first child. now I find I am still over eating and am reading Women, Food, and God by Geneen Roth. (God refering to spirit). I still struggle everyday but I really love the book. good luck to you.

First of all, don't let anyone put you down! Second, know that you can change your body but do it for YOU. I'm currently pregnant and at 9 months, still doing some modified kettlebell exercises. This program changed my life! I've retained my skinny arms and this is by far the fastest I'd ever firmed up. I purchased my kettlebells at Target and have seen at Kohl's but are also available from this website http://www.ironcorekettlebells.com/sarah-lurie/ . You can also google kettlebells, which is hundreds of years old and started with the russian military for training, to watch some videos on it. And no, regular weights do not give the same benefits. Walking with the kids in the stroller is also something you can enjoy together! Best wishes to you!

I've done Weight Watchers (ww) since Jan 2009. I lost about 30 there and got bored with counting points a bit (I've done it off and on for 10 years). Now I'm using MyFitnessPal.com (mfp) which is free and online. I still go to my WW meetings because they hold me accountable and I love the group and the support, etc. However, I log my food and find information and support throughout the week from MFP. Since joining that site in December I've lost an additional 30 lbs, so 60 lbs total since Jan 2009. I could have lost more but I've been maintaining and not trying as hard as I could be. I find my daughter a huge motivation. I am raising my daughter to be very healthy, eating fruits, veggies, lean meats, etc by example so it's easier to be "good". I want to be around to see her have children of her own so I work hard to be healthy. The biggest perk of that is my daughter eats healthy (most of the time).
I really love Weight Watchers and MyFitnessPal, both great places to find support, information and accountability.
I'm glad to hear your ex is an ex because you and your kids don't need someone like that in your life!
best of luck,
C.

I am going thru the same thing. Many factors such as stress, depression, insomnia, or low self esteem can be the prob. You know your not those things he said to you, keep your head up and say I can do this, and we are all beautiful inside and out even if someone calls us names. Let go of things that are holding you back, so you can move forward. Have faith in yourself that you can fight this battle. Forgive others and you can win the battle. Don't the negative words get to you. Keeping a positive mind helps you lose the weight. Anything is possible if you set your mind to it. Meditation works also.

A few thoughts:
--Oprah's magazine has a very positive and self-loving tone to its articles and columns, so that is a better read for you that a lot of other women's magazines (avoid them!)
--If you like fruit, get really good fresh fruit and eat a lot of it.
--Special K cereal. If you don't like the plain, try the red berries variety.
--Hula hoop is a great and inexpensive exercise program.
--Lots of water (to replace any juice or soda etc)
--Play with your kids. Turn on the music and dance with them!
--Wear clothes that you feel good in, practice god grooming to feel your best. Get a new haircut.
--Ask friends to exercise with you and take your kids for walks.
--Lots of small meals instead a few big ones (if you get really hungry, you tend to eat too much)
--take vitamins

Join Weight Watchers!

DO NOT listen to him! He's mean, why listen to mean people and take it to heart. It will only derail you.

How you feel, is up to you.
I am chubby since I had my 2 kids... I still feel fine. I'm okay with it.
I need to lose weight.. I used to be tight and toned and skinny with 6-pack abs. Not now. But I am a Mom and proud of it.
Eat for health... healthily. Not junk. Eat for hunger. Not emotion.
It takes time... everyone has good qualities... not based on looks. Find that in you. Find what you are proud of, in yourself.
For me, my identity does not come from my weight... I know what I"m about.
Exercise... it helps mental well being as well. Walk, hike, do exercises when watching tv instead of sitting to watch tv. Tell yourself, if you want to watch tv, the you have to do it standing and moving.... for a whole 1/2 hour show. Run in place, do sit ups, do lunges, jump up and down, dance, do jumping jacks etc.

so many tips will come you way here.
I know, its not easy,
just some quick ideas,
all the best,
Susan