it sounds like you got alot of mixed advise.. i hope you find something useful out of it.. but please don't get down on yourself, as i see some ladys seem to feel very strongly about the continuation of breast feeding.. every mom and every baby are different.. its all up to what feels right to you and your son.. less and less mothers are breast feeding at all and i must say for you to do it for a full year deserves recognition. *big hug* from me. though it is true that breast milk is best (and i'm not saying it isn't) most experts will the agree that the first year is most important, and you didn't say you wanted to stop all together, just slow down a bit.. so try that.. a little more solid food a little less breast.. stop him from nursing before hes done and then play with him, or offer a snack.. distract him.. during the day of corse.. as for night, good luck. my son is now off the breast and bottle at 16 months, but STILL wakes himself up at night.. fortunantly for me he goes back down with a cup of water and a pacifier.. (i fear i will have some trouble breaking the binky dependensy) but none the less hes up, which means i'm up.. ehh..
i feel i have helped you very little if at all, but would again like to say i'm proud of you, for nursing all the way, and for going it alone. hang in there things will be o.k. and having that little man smile at you and say 'i love you mommy' for the first time, will make every sore breast, every strtch mark, and every sleepless night worth it. i promise!
i would like to add, because some don't know.. you should never give an infant honey.. it contains a strain of botulisum (not sure if i spelled that right) that the baby body is not yet strong enough to fight.. so please. try to stay away from that bit of help..
good luck i'm new to this site so i don't know how you'd contact me if you wanted, but feel free to, if you know how, i'd love to hear how its going!