L.W.
I think that unfortunately the mess comes with using utensils. But kids enjoy learning anyway. I started giving my kids plastic spoons at about 1 and forks at 2. Just only put a small amount of food on their plate at a time and then it isn't so bad. My son is 2 1/2 now and uses a regular spoon and fork with out much mess at all. If you keep offering the utensils, after awhile they just get it. I still have to remind my 4 year old to use them, but my 6 year and 8 year olds have no problem, so I know it sinks in.