Twins in Same Class or Not?

My 5yr old twin girls are in the same KDG class, and I may keep them together next year as well. They share friends, and also have their own individual friends in their class.

My thought is as long as they do not affect each other socially or academically I will let them decide if they want to stay together.

In preschool they were in the same class, and quite frankly they each did there own thing, they were not attached at the hip.

For me it will make it easier as homework will be the same, and since I work f/t that is a lifesaver.

YOu could alway try them together, and see how it goes.

I have 3 year old twins who we are putting into preschool next fall as well. It's a really complicated issue with a lot of variables to make your decision on. First, my oldest son goes to an elementary school with a policy of separating twins, so I did a lot of reading to prepare myself in case I needed to put up a fight. If you know whether or not there's a policy at the school they will attend, that may help you make your decision. It's probably better to get them used to separation earlier if it's inevitable and preschool is a shorter day to start with. Also, your twins' personalities play into it as well. My twin B (they're both boys) is really very enmeshed with his brother and doesn't do a good job of asserting himself or engaging with others when his brother is around. This is a really good argument for a gentle early separation so that he can get used to it and begin to develop his own personality. Some twins are less enmeshed and it might be less difficult for them to be together but engage as individuals. Finally, my oldest son has 2 sets of twins in his grade. I've been really interested to watch how they've managed the last 3 years in school. In one case that makes me hopeful for my guys, the more shy, less assertive twin really came out of her shell and is a total leader now with a sparkling personality and lots of friends of her own. There are a lot of books on the subject and in some cases the issue has gotten very politicized with new laws being passed in some areas giving parents more discretion over the question of separation. Good luck!

As a former teacher I would say that it depends on the set of twins. If your twins are more independent of each other... make other friends, have different interests and such I would say that it doesn't really matter if they are in the same class or not. If the twins are very dependent upon each other it might be a good idea to have them in different classes so that they can learn to be more independent of each other.

I have 5 year old b/g twins in preschool and because of the school I choose, they have been together for the last two years. I see good and bad to either situation. It has worked out very well for me. Being boy/girl they are very different. They definately have different friends but they also share some friends, which is great for play dates. They push each others buttons sometimes in class, but for the most part I really think they like having the security of each other there. I do make it a point to have one activity apart. She is in dance while he goes to soccer. Of course she loves soccer also so they will be doing that together in the fall. But since they are together 24/7 I do try to have some seperate activities, even though that is more work for you! My son goes to school with b/g twins in his class and it was 6 months before he even realized it. I talked to the mom a lot about it and she has had no problem with them being together for most of their schooling. They have seperate lives and friends, yet it does make school work easier! We attend private school so there is no choice, twins will be together. Good luck!

As a twin myself, my sister and I were never in a class together until our senior year in high school-a gym class. I think it was much better for us to be in different classe. We learned at much different speeds and it really helped us develop different characteristics and traits. I would say different classes all the way. It's nice to have your "own" thing as a twin. They will be thrilled to see each other and talk about their "own "days to each other.

Hi M..
A few years ago I had a set of triplets in my Kindergarten class, and the reason they were together is because the mom thought that was the only way that she could keep track of all the paperwork that comes home in K. This year I have a set of twins that I think should have been seperated. If you think they will socialize with other kids, then go for it. I would stress to the teacher to stress to the class that they have names, and not to be referred to as "the twins". Good luck in your decision.

We have out 4 yo b/g twins at the Goddard School, and I'm really glad they are in the same class together. I know they have each other, and when my wife it on the road a lot, or my days at work are long, I know they have each other. They do play and learn a lot of different things, but they also get to share in the same activities, like themed weeks, art projects, etc. I think at THIS age it's great having them in the same class. We may put them in different classes later if we think that would be better.

Good luck,
Peace,
Richard

As a twin myself, my sister and I were only together through kindergarten. After that, they always separated us and we still managed to be extremely close with the same group of friends. I think being together is fine for pre-k and kindergarten but, looking back, I believe the separation was good for us after that. We were very shy and it gave us a chance to be on our own and become a little more independent. After all, we were with each other every waking minute when we were not in school so a little time apart was good!

I have 4 1/2 yr old boy twins. They have been in preschool now for 2 years. The first year they were separated and it was the best thing for them. This year they are in the same class. THey have the same friends but out of those same friends they have their "special" friends the ones that they get along with the best. The first year I think it helpped them learn that it is ok to be separated and they learned their independence (even though they really dont have issues with separation) but I think it just helped boost what was already there as far as their own independence. Their teacher this year makes sure that the boys are referred to by their names and not the twins. As they are both their own person and own personality and they should be viewed as individuals. Next year for Kinder I think they will be in the same class but that will be discussed at the year end meeting with their teachers of this year and the teachers of next year.