TO: Mom's Who Have Lost a Child.....

Im so sorry. I havent been through this, although I do have a child and I would be lost. I dont really have any advice. In my oppinoin there probably isnt any, But Im here to listen if you need a friend.

First of all, let me say that I am so sorry for your loss. Words cannot take away the pain that you are feeling- a pain that those of us who have never lost a child can never comprehend.

A little girl who was in my daughter's preschool class two years ago had a cousin who died from the same cancer. The parents set up a website and also a foundation called The Cure Starts Now. Being active in that might bring you some amount of comfort.

The wesite is: www.desserich.org.

I have been reading their online journal daily for about 8 months and I can tell you without a doubt they are kind people. You can't write a journal like that without bearing your soul.

I will pray for strength for you during this holiday season. I will also pray that this insidious cancer will never again affect an innocent child.

J.

I just wanted to say that my heart and prayers go out to you & your family. I dont personally the pain, but I know that your son will always be with you. May the lord wrap his arms around your family, and may you find peace and happiness again. Even though words aren't comfort, I truly am sorry.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss and although I can't offer any personal advice, I do have a website I thought you might find helpful...www.griefhaven.org.

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your husband.

D.

Oh God! I am so so so so sorry.
I can't imagine how you feel and what you are going through.
Just know that you are in our prayers.

B.,

I just wanted to say how very sorry I am for the loss of your son. I cannot even begin to imagine what your family is going through. You guys are in my prayers.

F.

Hey B.. My name is A. and I lost a son 4 years ago (he was 7 months old). He was a near-SIDS baby at 4 days old, but I started CPR and we got him back, but lost a lot of oxygen to his brain which cause him to have severe problems. It is the hardest thing you will ever go through. My husband and I coped differently and we had to seek counceling to make it through. Please talk with family, friends, or me. You need to talk and let people know you are devistated. Tell them the truth. It is the best medicine. You love your son, let everyone know why. There is not an hour that goes by that I don't think about Coleman. I live in Wetumpka, AL. now and i am blessed to have a 2 year old daughter and 3month old TWIN BOYS!!!! God has belssed our family and Coleman was the best thing that ever happen to us. I learned more from him in the few months he was here than I have from anyone in my whole life. Please keep in touch with me and let me know how you all are doing. Stay strong, that is what your son would want for you.
-A.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. We lost our daughter, Ella (our first child), two years ago in November. She was only 2 weeks old but her sickness and death were completely unexpected. I understand that feeling of devastation and, at first, I thought it would never subside. It takes time, and it never goes away completely, but the pain and emptiness you feel right now will not last forever. I found that at first, I could not stop thinking of Ella and I cried at every thought. I still think of her everyday but the memories that I have now are not all sad. I have a one-year old son and sometimes, when I look at him, I remember my precious baby and cry. However, that only happens every now and then. I guess what I'm trying to say is that it takes a long time to get over the death but it will get better day by day. It helps TREMENDOUSLY to lean on your family and friends - they will be there for you and help you not feel so alone. Having that support really helped us.

I hope this helps you, at least some. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. Our priest told us after Ella's passing that she is saint in heaven now and that she is lovingly watching over us. I know that your son is a saint, too, and he will always love you and protect you!

Hi B.. I am so sorry for your loss. I can not imagine how hard this must be for you. I watched my brother die, and I saw how it tore up my mom. It took her years to function normally again. In that time she forgot a lot about her other 2 children and my dad. But, we always gave her constant support. My brother has been gone now for 8 years. She still thinks about him everyday. She still cries over him. But, she smiles now. That is what matters. Any advice I would have for you is to remember the good times. Also, do not forget about your husband or any other children you might have. He will always be your son. Be proud of that.
May God bless you and your family through this horrible time.
A.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.
J.

I'm very sorry for your pain. Our daughter died 2 years ago this coming January. I can truly say that nothing I have ever experieced in life compares to Victoria's death. I would love to help you in any way that I can. There is far too much to include in a forum like this, but I would be more than willing to try an online chat, or talk over the phone if you'd like (I'm in Arkansas). If interested, just click on my link and let me know what you'd like to do.

God can give you peace on this path!

B.,

I am so sorry for your loss. No words can ever take the pain of losing a child away. My husband and I lost our son on December 9, 2007, he was 4 days old. Benjamin suffered from Trisomy 13, a cardiac defect, and holoprosencephaly. The problems were diagnosed when I was 5 months pregnant, so I at least had 4 months to sort of grieve. After Benjamin was born, we were blessed to have those 4 days with him, then we had to make the agonizing decision to remove life support.

I have no doubts that Benjamin is now in heaven. I can only look to the Lord for comfort, he lost a son too. I received a package in the mail today from a Christian support group. www.sarahs-laughter.com is the sight.

I have no advice, only to take one day at a time. You'll always remember and love your little boy. Moving on with your life doesn't mean you don't love him. I'm open to talk to you if you need someone. My email is ____@____.com

J.
Baton Rouge, LA

Dear B.,

(((HUGS))) to you, friend. I cannot imagine the depth of your loss, particularly during the holidays. While I haven't lost a child, my heart goes to you. Please know that I am holding you close in thought and prayer right now.

Do you have a support system? Friends, family? Are you in a good church or supportive religious community? If you aren't religious, do you have a cultural group that offers you support?

Know that your cyber-friend is thinking of you,

Warmly,
A. in Birmingham, AL

My heart goes out to you and your family. Losing a child is the hardest thing that can happen to a woman. Prayer and the Bible help give you peace. Mattie Stapanick died of M.S. and he was the 4th child in his family to die. His mother published his books - one is called Heart Songs - he died before his 13th birthday and had lost his other siblings ages 2,4,and 6. His mother lost all her children and then she died. She was a wonderful strong woman who may help you grieve. Grieve and cry - it's so natural. I always read Dr. Kubler Ross's books - "To live until we say goodbye. I gained so much from her writing.

My heart goes out to you. I have never lost a child, and could not even imagine the pain. My deepest symphathies to you and your husband.

I haven't been in your position, and it is hard to imagine the loss of a child. You are in my prayers.

I lost a child, a daughter. She is still living, but in a different state. Its the about the same thing, as she was 3 when my ex took her away from me. I have NOT seen her in 18 years, & it breaks my heart that she want have nothing to do with me. Her dad, whom I divorced is now dead, but still she want have anything to do with me. Now, she is 41 years old, & I would give anything to see her again. But, all I can do is PRAY, & hope she is happy. As for your little boy, know he is in Heaven with our FATHER, who is keeping him busy playing with other little boys.Keep busy, go to church, & pray daily that life will become easy as time goes by.

Hello,
I too, have never had to endure that kind of pain, but another mom mentioned the website www.desserich.com. I went to that website and have started with week 1. Their daughter had the same cancer as your child. It has given me a whole new outlook on parenting and living each day to the fullest. They have continued on writing weekly even after the loss of their daughter. This may help to know there are others out there hurting like you and for the same reason. I am so sorry for your loss.
Prayers,
A.

Dearest Brandi~

First of all, I would like to to say how sorry I am that you lost your precious son. How hard it is to give back a boy that you so cherish. I know. My son passed away on New Years Eve 1984. He was two and a half years old. We buried him on New Years Day 1985.

I will never forget Stephen. He suffered so much, and now he is at peace. I can talk about him without crying now. I can talk about the trip to Disney world and how much he loved Cream of Wheat. I have his pictures on the wall, and I can show his nephew who he is named after.

Just take some time. Don't let anyone rush you. And if you need to talk, let me know.

Peace.

Dear B.,

How sorry I am for your loss... my prayers are w/ you. I have only one child, a son, and I do not know how I would ever deal w/ that loss.

I wish you much peace and hope in the future.

Again, Im so very sorry for your loss.

P.