How Am I Going to Get Through the Next Hour?

I feel so sorry for you. Just know that she is going to a better place and won't be suffering anymore. Hugs.

For me when my uncle recently died, what helped me was trying to focus on what I could do for those that would be most affected by his death. That was after a good cry of course, there is no shame in needing to cry for a while.

Blessed Be

I am praying you find solace. Allow yourself this process, if it's possible. You will get through. Let it be hard, and let yourself grieve. I am very sorry for your loss. And am also praying for your family.

Try to remember to eat a little food when you're ready. Drink warm tea, and juice. Take a hot bath tonight, if that is comforting.

I think, for me, praying in gratitude is helpful when I'm going through a loss. "Thank you for the time I had with this beautiful person. Please give me the strength to move through this, and to be of service."

Big hugs.

I'm so sorry. How tragic.
All I know is the age-old advice "If God brings you to it, God will bring you through it."
Pray for peace and comfort for her, her family and for yourself. And I will too.

I'm so sorry your family is going through this :-( but she will finally be at peace, and that alone would help me deal with it a bit better. Please know your whole family is in my prayers ! xoxox

I am so so so sorry =(

There are no words to say... I cannot imagine what you are going through or feeling. Just think about her though... She is brain dead and is not living anymore. To take her off life support is such a hard decision, but probably the best. At least now she can be an angel to her girls. Let everyone remember her as she was, not as she is.

Matthew 5:4
"Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted"

I've said a prayer and will say another one tonight. Wishing peace for your family.

I am so sorry for what you are going through! I can imagine if it were me I would just go ahead and cry, as loud and as hard as I needed to. If you are a person of faith, I would also pray. (As a Catholic I would pray for the repose of her soul, but if you do not believe in that, you could always just pray for strength and comfort for her family.)

So very sorry for your pain.

I was in this position in my 20s when my cousin died at 42 leaving a 14 and 12 year old daughter. She knew it was the end and sent them home to study for their school finals that evening. Especially, as a Mom, I can't even imagine her pain and their's.

There will be nothing to truly comfort you now, and I am so sorry I can't help. I would just suggest that you try to see the pain as a tribute of sorts to your family. In your pain you are with them today. And perhaps, if there is any good element to this, is your cousin does not know the same pain that her family is feeling right now.

My cousin's daughters are beautiful accomplished young women now, and she would be very proud of them. The still mourn her, but they also know how incredible she was. I hope I am remembered as a fantastic mom, and that is a gift you can give them, always reminding them of their great mom in times when their memories might not be as clear.

I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like your family is absolutely doing the right thing. Let yourself go through all of your emotions, even if you feel physically ill. That's OK. Can anyone watch your kids for a little while tonight so that you can let yourself grieve? I wish the best for you and your family.

Ooh my - I'm truly sorry for your loss...

How do you get through it? One breath at a time...One prayer at a time...God will guide you through this and help you and your family heal - it won't happen over night - but God will there to hold your hand and guide you...

if she elected to donate her body parts - know that she will live on in those people...I hope and pray that her daughters have nothing but wonderful memories of her and cherish those..

I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

To me true love for another person is letting them go when it is time. I know this is dificult but she is not really living now. Being alive is to be involved in life and the caring of the people you love. She can no longer do that. She has been on life support for 7 months, without it her body would have died then. If you really feel love for another person let them go.

You will see her again and she will always be there in spirit to care for her children and other loved ones. Saying goodbye is always difficult. Instead thank your higher power for her life and the beautiful person she has always been and that you have been lucky to have her be a part of your life. Celebrate who she is and ask her to visit from time to time, she will and you will know when she is there.

Blessings and condolences to you and your family.

I feel your pain. I lost my 36 yo cousin to breast cancer a year and a half ago. All I could think about was her two young boys and how devastating it would be to lose your mother so young. Something I will share with you: your cousin is not alone. Right before my cousin passed, her mother (my aunt) was holding her hand and my aunt told her how much she loved her and that she was not alone. My cousin, who had been in a coma for two days, replied, "I know, grandma and grandpa are here with me to take me to heaven." And that was it, she was gone just a moment later. I took such great comfort in knowing that our grandparents were there to lead her to the gates of heaven. And your cousin's loved ones who have gone before her are with her right now, too, so do not fear. Think about the wonderful times and moments you shared with your cousin and let yourself grieve. I'm praying for your comfort and peace. God bless.

Prayers being said on your behalf. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I pray that you find comfort in the Comforter.

Hi,

I am sending hugs and prayers your way....I know how hard it is to lose someone you love. My advice to you is to breath, take good care of yourself and to let yourself feel however you feel--don't judge yourself or your feelings. Crying is one of the most therapeudic things to do for yourself----so if you need to go spend some time grieving, do that whenever you need to. I went through some really,really traumatic things in my life and had to set aside a time each day to grieve my losses and to feel what I was feeling. It helped me to cope because I knew that I could greive the way i needed to each day in my own private way....I wish you the best and I am so sorry for your loss.

Take good care,

M

We had to take my 21 year old brother off life support (he was only on it a few days after a seizure stopped his heart and lungs from working on their own) a few years ago. My advice is to send cards and call and ask how they're doing. But the true advice is to keep doing this down the road. So many people are "there for you" when it first happens, but a little down the road they all disappear (sometimes as soon as a week or two later all the phone calls stop). Send them some gift cards for local restaurants or take-out places - you really don't feel like cooking and dealing with dishes at a time like this. If you can afford it, you could hire a cleaning person to come into their house once or twice so they don't have to worry about that either. But what means the most is when you send a Christmas card and include a note that you know this Christmas will be a difficult one for them. Or when you make a phone call out of the blue saying, "Hey, I was just thinking about that funny time with your mom." Give them a chance to talk about her and keep her memory alive. A lot of people at first keep trying to get you to bare your soul and cry with them, but that can be very uncomfortable. What works better is to share fun, specific memories and just let them talk. Good luck!

I'm so sorry for your loss. It is hard to understand why things like this happen, but know that you are not alone--there is a lot of support out there so get it if you need it. Grief is for the living, and you definitely owe it to yourself to grieve and deal with your loss. It is important to remember the great times you had with your cousin and know that those memories are with you forever. Look for the silver lining in tragedy--let it bring the whole family even closer together--there is no better way to honor your cousin.
Best wishes to you and your family!

I will think of you and your family and please think of my friend's. She too is 38 and they stopped chemo as it wasn't working and she has a matter of hours or days. She has a 5 month old daughter and a just turned 4 year old daughter. Why tragedies such as these happen is beyond me. Children should never lose their mothers. My heart breaks for hers and your cousin's.