This Is Pretty Pathetic...

I understand... I'm hoping to meet some new mom friends through the Daycare that we're probably going to put my son in.

I don't know. We moved to TX just before my 3rd was born. 4 years later I still have no friends or family close by (see how sad is that I would settle for family!). I have tried to make new friends but it just doesn't seem to be that easy. I find them and it is great for a bit and then I wonder what was I thinking I should have just kept to myself. I keep thinking they will all be in school before I know it and then I can have a life again.

In the military we move every two to three years. We just moved again this last month.
Be the friend. If you want adult interacton get out there with your neighbors and hang out with the other moms in the yards.
Find a church and get involved.
MAke friends with the girls in Food Lion/Walmart/ Target,/Lowe's etc. Start up conversatin with them. Like what you love about whatever you are buying. THen go to the same girl the next time you shop.
Your kids friend's moms are great places to start. Invite one of the moms with a three year old over.
Have a Pampered Chef party, of Longaberger, Henn Workshop, etc.
Go for a walk in the neighborhood with the dog and introduce yourself to people.
Sometimes you have to teach yourself to be more outgoing then you would normally be. I am a very shy person but having moved 7 times in 15 years I have had to learn to make friends fast.
YOur husbands coworkers wives, these gals come to home parties.
I love the ice cream social idea. I might even try that one in my new neighborhood.
THe friends you meet today may to be your best friends forever but they may introduce you to someone who you click real well with.

Put yourself out there to meet people... are your kids in a daycare setting? I have found friends by my kids attending birthday parties and meeting their moms. What about church or mothers day out programs, gyms, or subdivision gatherings on special occasions those type atmospheres are usually conducive to meeting people.

And NO you are not pathetic, its hard to put yourself outt there, I know.

when we moved into our neighborhood we threw a meet the neighbors party. It was funny how many people really didn't know each other. So now we throw and around the world party every winter (you go from house to house) and an ice cream social (each neighbor brings a topping) every summer. It's an easy way to make friends nearby. Sometimes people around you want to do something it just takes someone to be the planner!

Mom, you have to get involved in your community and meet people like another Mom suggested, friends don't just knock on your door. We have moved 3 times in the last 20 yrs and each time to a city where neither my husband nor I knew anyone. I got involved in meeting people soon by volunteering at my daughter's elementary school, found out in the paper about local play groups, got her in some pee wee sports actvities and tumbling lessons, went to new churches in each city, took her to library story times, the community pool and parks near our house, At these places I introduced myself to other mom's of kidsmy little girl enjoyed playing with at each place. I also introduced myself to her little preschool friend's moms by chatting with them as school dismissal then calling and setting up play- dates. If you ask your son's preschool teacher ( if he attends) who your boy's friends are at preschool then you can call these moms and set up a play date at the park to start then at your home. This is a great way to start making friends.I also went and introduced my self to new neighbors each time we moved and asked who had young children in the area then my daughter and I knocked on doors of these families, or we stopped and introduced oursleves when we saw close neighbors with children our child's age playing out in their yards. I am in no way an outgoing person, but with each move I saw I had to put myself out there to meet people, make new friends and help my child make friends too. Mom. I promise it works. I hope some of my ideas help, good luck.

We moved a little over a year ago to an area 7 hours from where I grew up (and where all of our family is). We knew absolutely no one with kids down here, and I felt very isolated for the first few months. Then a light bulb came on! I realized that I was the one isolating myself and that the only way I was going to meet people was if I put myself out on a limb. Most people who are content with their friends are not necessarily going to go out of their way to include a new-comer, so I knew I had a lot of work to do.

Here is my advice: GET INVOLVED IN EVERYTHING!!! I went to our community center and signed my son up for classes (and at $24 for 4 classes, that wasn't breaking the bank).

I went to the library for story time.

I went to the park at all different times of the day to increase my chances of meeting all different people.

I went to museums with my son and would strike up a conversation with a child's mom he was playing with.

I volunteered at a VBS at a church I had only gone to once. It was a great way to meet church members and meet other moms (we ended up not continuing to go to that church, but I MET people)!

My son and I also took walks around the neighborhood all hours of the day. It is amazing how many people you can say hello to while walking. If they had kids my son's age, I stopped to talk to them.

Finally, I would take my son to McDonald's and let him play at the playplace. Of course there weren't always women there that I felt like I could talk to, but more often than not there was someone that I could at least start up a conversation with!

These may not necessarily lead to friendships, but it will at least get you out there and socializing with other moms and women. Within 4 months of moving I found that I had more friends here in NC that had kids than I did in PA because I FORCED MYSELF to get out there! Good luck...you CAN do it!!! :)

P.S. I also suggest you google "mom group" plus your town/city and see what comes up. There are always new groups forming and meeting up, and it is obviously other moms looking to make friends too!

Check out www.meetup.com. Put in your zip code and see what kinds of playgroups and other groups interest you. I met a great group of women through meetup.

p.s. and it's not pathetic! It's hard to meet new people once you're more settled down. It's great that you're reaching out.

I'll be your friend! We're just up the road in Lansdowne! I too was "friendless" for two years until we plugged into our church and my kids went to preschool. Slowly but surely I'm gaining a few friends I can call up anytime for a "girl's night". We all need time away from our family so we can refresh!

I read your bio and your kids are similar ages to mine so we should meet up at a park sometime! We can take it from there . . . if you'd like. :o)
FYI - I'm the one who suggested Aldan Union Church previously.

Just shoot me an email if you'd like to meet up for a playdate!

I'm in the same boat as your but without the moving part. I have lived in the same area all my life but have grow apart from my high school friends and have made very few new friends. I really dont have any advise just here to tell you that you arent alone.

I'm in this boat because most of my friends have moved (I'm still in my graduate school town). I've been going to activities with my almost one year old and inviting other moms to do things with me... they have activities at our library (on weekdays for SAHPs and on the weekends). Also, I'm not religious, but am considering attending an open minded church to meet a cross-section of people that you can't meet at work (me or my spouse).

I just joined a SAHM group in my area that has a lot of part and full time SAHMs who no longer hang out with the same groups they used to...
found it by googling Moms group name of my city.

Good luck!

I moved when I was pregnant with my first. I read the local paper before we moved, and when we were on bedrest. There are a lot of things in the calendar section re moms...playgroups, nursing mom advisory councils, etc. This was before the Internet...I would think it would be so much easier now! I joined an organized parenting place, which has changed names and now is called Parents, Inc., and on Fridays I attended a drop in "playgroup" for parents. I met 10 really close friends there. We spent every Friday together when our kids were infants and toddlers, and then some! Some of us are still in touch, and those infants are now in high school! I also made new friends in a Mommy and Me class with my first child, in a Music Together class with my second child, and at a YMCA class with my second child...as well as swim classes at the YMCA and when my children started preschool! Even met new people at the local playground! Look around, make some calls, and good luck!

I totally know what you are going through. I am in the same exact situation. I moved away from all of my friends and family a week after my baby was born. She's 16 months now, and I think the only person who knows me by name here is the guy at Starbucks. LOL. Well thats not entirely true, I did make 2 friends I guess you would say. They are the wives of my boyfriends friends. They are nice and all but I don't see them that often. Other then those people its just his family, which they don't even get together that often (sort of a blessing in disguise). So when I go somewhere I go with just my baby (usually my boyfriend is at work).
I recently I enrolled back in school, and aside from needing to do it, I am excited to get to mingle with actual adults again. Our city offers different activities for different age groups, and I am hoping to enroll my baby and meet some people through that as well. Those are my only 2 ideas, and if I don't meet people through them, I know I will end up being the crazy cat lady when I get older. =) Good Luck.

I was in the exact boat, the only difference being that I am in basically the same area I grew up and was raised in. Funny thing--when I got married and had kids, I was willing to put my social life on hold. However, my friends didn't. They moved on without me and I was ok with that to a point. However, it started to really get to me when my mom passed and then my hubby's mom & bro...it was to the point that I had NO ONE to talk to aside from my hubby. I really do think I went through at state of undiagnosed depression. Then I started attending church again, not the one I grew up in, but one that is right in town. I love it! There are so many people there in the same boat as what I was. Now we have adult get togethers once a month where the youth group babysits for us parents and we get to go out and have fun with other people just like us.

I met my friends in baby classes. Sign the kids up for something and you will meet moms. Also when your 3 yr old starts pre-school he will gravitate to a couple of kids, find out who they are, call the moms, and invite them for a play date.

Same here, we have moved twice in two years. Live in pretty much a college town now, which means everyone is a good bit younger or at least 10 years older than us. I'm hoping once we have kids we may meet more people our age with kids through the kids, sad but true. We go to church and there are several young families there, but they only seem to come for one week at a time or so. We are friendly with several of our neighbors, but more just to say hi and talk a little. It bothers me more off and on, I did start a business to get me out of the house a little and that helped, even if I don't see many people.

All I can say is maybe try meeting other parents through your children and have some playdates with the kids to get to know the parents better. If there is any kind of class you are interested in you may make some friends there.

I'm in the same situation. I'm a SAHM with a 2 1/2 year old boy. My husband works around 55-60 hours a week, so I'm alone 90% of the time. Plus, I don't have a car to go anywhere. It gets really old sometimes, but I try to think positive. Hopefully, someday I'll have a couple of close friends. It would be nice. :)