Thanks to everyone who responded to my last question.
Thanks for all the response to my questions.
The AMerican Ba Association requires that every attorney do some pro bono (free) work each year, here is a state by state listing link for such services
http://www.abanet.org/legalservices/probono/directory.html
H., I am so sorry that you are going through this. Call Legal Aid of Northwest Texas ###-###-#### (free legal assistance for low-income residentys of dallas, Collin, Ellis, etc. priority problem areas: housing, family law, consumer issues.. There are other branch offices. Call Lawyer Referral Service, Dallas Bar Association ###-###-#### - Referral to attorney experienced in tuyp of counsel needed. Fee of $20.00 for a 30-minute consultsation. Good luck.
I am 24 weeks pregnant and my lawyer has been a life saver! Her name is Susan Wright and her website is www.susanzwright.com. Good Luck! I would tell you will be better soon but like I have been told it will get much worse but it will be better when it is all over!
Tiffany Deforrest
1701 River Run
Fort Worth, TX 76107
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Excellent!
Another group that may be able to assist you is Legal Action Works. Here is a link: http://www.centraldallasministries.org/law/index.htm Also there is a group of women at our church who would love to support you and your children through this difficult time. Please contact me if you would like more information.
If you live in the Dallas area - use Sylvia Atkins of Atkins and O'toole. She is fabulous and represented me when my first husband chose to have an affair and then not to work on our marriage and was really mean! She is somewhat pricey but worth every penny and will come up with a payment plan or put it on your husband to pay since he is the reason you need to divorce for your safety. Good luck - may God give you extreme strength to face the unpleasantness of divorce or to seek some Christian counsel on what to do. I hadn't worked for a few years- my son was only 2 - what a blessing he was young! Also, I attend Watermark Community Church and they have fabulous Christian staff members that would love to work this all through with you! Whatever your need my prayer is that you'll remember that HE is watching over you and your children. Love, P.
Well H. i the best thing to get out of that situation is taking it god in prayer without ceasing.and a way i got a my divorce i went to the library and asked for the divorce book and it didn't cost anything so we could exchange numbers or whatever i can to help you i love to bless others whos in need of a miracle please respond back.
Go to Legal Aide they give you help for free or based on your income. Since there is no income there's no charge. I don't have the number on me but call information and they meet every third Thursday of the month at a local church here in East Dallas. You need to be there at 5:30 because the line get's long and the wait is worse. Good luck.
Carol Wilson.
I know people who've used her. She compassionate and creative in her approach. You might consider going to a women's shelter, as well. Or talking to counselors there. They have pro bono lawyers that help out and can give you a lot of information. You don't actually have to live in their shelter to go to counselling or a group. The Family Place is another great resource in Dallas. For both physically and emotionally abused women.
H., I'm sorry to hear that you can't work things out. Try legal aid. You can get a divorce for no charge. Also, I doubt very, very seriously that he can take your kids away from you. He's just speaking out of anger. If you are not abusive to your kids and you are not an unfit mother, the judge will not take them from you. Just get as much child support as you can from him. If he pays on time (like mine never has), and you get a job it will all work out. Maybe you could move in with you parents (if they are still alive) and at least that will give you a place where you can get on your feet without paying rent. It's best to have a plan in case the judge wants to know your plan and if you can afford a place to live with your kids. Divorce is always more expensive when you have kids and/or own property together. Good luck to you and again, I'm sorry to hear about the divorce.
H.-
I don't have a good answer for you, but rather a phone number to call for advice. Genesis Woman's Shelter has a hotline that might be able to help you with some advice. The number is 214-946-HELP. I hope this helps. My prayers are with you and your little ones.
-K.
If you do not have funds for an attorney, you can contact Legal Aid of North Texas and they will provide you a pro bono (free) attorney. However, please be advised that you are not guaranteed an attorney. It is dependent on your income and several other factors but it never hurts to call.
Call legal aide they do not charge and tell them what you are going thru no man has the right to lift a hand to any women that is not a man and that is not good for the kids to be around that my prayers are with but try legal aide i think it is located dowmtown here is a website i found try this http://www.lanwt.org/applyforhelp.asp see if they can help please keep us posted
A littel about me: i am a single mom and i have a 7 year old son and he is such a blessing to me
Keith Griffin ###-###-#### -- he handled mine and was great!
E. herman
I was in the same situation many year ago. A friend told me to go to the court house, purchase the paperwork (like an application), fill it out myself and then pay the filing fees......it was a little complicated but I did it, it' didn't cost much, and I got my divorce. I even walked the divorce decree to the judges chambers myself and he signed them. It's been some time since that, so I don't know if one can still do their own divorce. It may be worth a trip to the court house and asking the clerk. God Bless You.
I'm a mom divorce attorney in Colleyville. If you are in Tarrant County, we can help. If not, we can still help by guiding you to the right attorney. Give us a call and we'll get you going. Talk with Angela and tell her you are from Mamasource and I said to waive the consult fee. J. D. ###-###-####; janetdentonlsw.com
please see my PM to you
You're going to need money, but you have some.... your husband's. You are entitled to some of it.
Call this firm in Denton. My friend works there. See if they can help.
You didn't say where you live, but if you're in Collin County, you can try Randy Sandifer in Allen. He's fair and compassionate. A good Christian man you happens to be an attorney -- a combination hard to find! Good luck, H..
It doesn't matter that you don't work. You and your husband made the decision for you to stay home and raise your children and that is work.
HALF OF EVERYTHING THAT YOU ALL HAVE IS YOURS!!!!!!
HALF OF HIS SALARY IS YOURS,
HALF OF THE PROPERTY IS YOURS,
HALF OF ALL IRAS, PENSIONS, 401k, CHECKING, SAVINGS AND ALL OTHER ACCOUNTS ARE YOURS!!!
I am not sure how you are not able to get your hands on "his money" to file for a divorce but if that is the case then start selling off whatever is in the house and jewelry to get the money.
Good luck,
R.
I was divorced 5 years ago adn my attorney was Keith Griffin -- his number is ###-###-#### and he was fabulous. I wish you well during this difficult time.
Erika Herman
I am in the middle of a divorce myself...my attorney is majorly for the woman in the case. His name is James Nygaard out of McKinney. Do an advanced Google search. He has been nominated to be in the TX Rising Star Lawyers magazine. His number is ###-###-####. His assistant is Arianne. My situation is unique because my marrage is a common law marrage...and he has done excellent for me so far. Your husband cannot "take" your kids away from you. More often than not, any judge will always rule in favor for the mother to be primary custodian unless there are circumstances in which it is not a good situation for that to happen. My attorney used to work for a lawyer named Ike Vanden Eykel...do a google on him too. You will be amazed at what you find. Ike is out of Dallas. Jim Nygaard worked for him and his business is based off other referrals from happy clients and other attorneys. He will do a good job. He will also take the time to give you a free consultation and let you know exactly what he thinks your options are and if he thinks he can do something for you in your case. (he took an entire hour and 1/2 consultation with me before I agreed to retain him) See what he can do, let him know your situation...I think some attorney have to take some pro-bono (free) cases...don't ask about him taking you on for free, but ask him at the end of your consultation what he might be able to help you with considering your financial situation. He is on fire in the courtroom and leaves no detail out. Just call him and then email me and let me know what you think. If he cannot help you, I know for a fact he can direct you in the right direction to someone GOOD that can help you. Good luck H.. Keep your chin up. It will be hard in the beginning, but beginnings are always scary at first. Oh yeah, by the way...TX is a community property state...you are entitled to HALF of EVERYTHING. 401 k, pensions, house, furniture, you name it....Jim will be able to get you more than you think you have coming. I promise.
J.
If you check around you can get an attorney for about $500, they supply the paper work and you get the signatures. Done
I know a wonderful attorney who practices family law. Her name is Jennifer Hargrave she is with Verner Brumley. I don't know if she is what you need, but its name. Good luck.
H.,
I obviously do not know the ins and outs of your situation based on just this small request. However, I'm a apart of a local church that has an outstanding marriage and divorce care program. I know it's not a lawyer referral but it's a place where people go who are looking for guidance in what to do. Go to www.watermark.org and click on the contact us page. Anyone listed under the marriage ministry contacts would be able to point you in the right direction. I pray for your situation... that God would lead you in the right way.
I'v been there...I had a power and control relationship with my spouse of 8 years. He constantly intimidated, yelled and with held from us. On advice from his cousin (turns out his family has depression and anxiety!) I went to a woman's shelter and got some needed empowerment and learned what I could do to HELP MYSELF. Now I am my old self again, Yea!!! (it's been a complete 180, cuz I felt small!)
Take care of yourself...get strong it's a long haul ahead. My attoney was Mike Berkley, ###-###-#### he was so earnest and caring and his rate was 225/ hour, not bad. I ended up not getting divorced...it took a long year and a half plus of being separated. (We are going on our first vacation together and recently moved back in together). Eventually he got some help and we both stopped what ever we were doing. But that year and a half was UGLY! As soon as I stopped reacting to his pettiness he was without amunition. Get a handle of your emotions, from my heart, please listen to your emotions, connect with yourself, learn from them but don't react to them...level out your emotions. Try to complain as little as necessary, vent yes but don't go crazy, no blaming- all it does is make you the victim...and there is nothing wrong with you! Learn to negotiate and if he can't and starts whatever...my favorite is "I'll have this talk with you when your voice is level like mine". Controlling men do it because they are insecure, there is something about you they must intimidate plus they were controlled and it's what they know.
Figure it out... what your issues are, we all have them, b/c heaven forbid you get divorced just to find the same guy all over again. Own it before it owns you.
Since you may be on your way to being a single mom, get a handle on your kids behavior by taking a parenting class. When the kids are with their dad, go back to school, it's great for your esteem and it's financial freedom. You only have so much energy so please be cautious with it. No other man can belittle you when you won't tolerate it cuz you can leave and support yourself (and they know you will leave, my husband does and trust me he tells me he got a second chance).
Great books to read: Dark side of the light chasers and The questions all by Debbie Ford. Love and logic.
Be strong! I know it's corny...but sending you lots of love!
I would start with the local women's shelter. I know you are afraid, but if you take yourself and your children there, he will not be able to find you, and they will know how to handle this situation. They do it everyday.
I found a website that might be of help for information and attorneys. Never stay when you or your children could be in danger. Good luck and please post again to let us know how you are doing.
God Bless.
http://www.texasdivorce-lawyer.com/family_violence_spouse...
H... I know you have had quite an overwhelming response of support. I just wanted to let you know, I work for Safehaven of Tarrant County as a legal advocate supervisor. I can put you in touch with people who can help you, free of charge. You are definately not by yourself in this. Safehaven is a non-profit agency in Ft. Worth and Arlington. We have shelters, counseiling centers and we've got legal advocates at both sites. The number is: ###-###-####. Please let me know if you have any questions or need any other kind of assistance. Good luck to you, and please stay safe.
I am very sorry for what you are going through. I know that the Genesis Women's Shelter in Dallas is a wonderful resource for therapy and assistance for those in abusive homes.
