Thank You Cards - Blairsville,GA

I almost didn't want to read the question.....because I am sooooo guilty of not writing thank you's...It's just terrible. I know it. I want to. I even buy nice thank you cards....but I just don't find the time or the discipline to sit down and actually put it all together....

Sorry I don't have a helpful solution or answer, b/c it's an annoying life long habit myself. And I know i have royally ticked some family members off by not putting a thank you in the mail for them. But maybe you can get confirmation from him, being as you are the wife and you can tell all that he loved the 'so and so'....and Thank you so much for remembering him :)

"Yes he got them, he says thanks sorry he didn't write back a little busy as you can imagine." Your hubs isn't gonna change so either you write them or respond when you are asked. This is a no win. I'm not sure my husband even knows how to write a thank you note, so same boat.

Because he is deployed give him lots of grace as he is doing a tough job. If at some point he can write an email great but if not, make it a point to let everyone know when he has received something. when he comes home, have a welcome home get together with these friends and family so he can say thank you in person. I am sure once he's back safe and sound all those who care will find visiting with him and his verbal thank you to be the best expression of appreciation :)

I would think that he has time for this. I would imagine that in his spare
time he wants to communicate with you and his family. If you know he
has received packages and e-mails, you can say thank you for him.
Your family should be grateful he is protecting our country so that they
can be free. You could probably gently remind them of that.

If your not sure say, I'm not sure, the limited amount of time I talk to him, is mostly about the kids/family.

If you know, say yes, he did mention he received it and is very grateful.

I like the idea of having a coming home party for him, so he can thank everyone in person.

Does he return emails from YOU? Has he returned calls from YOU? If he's capable of doing those things, then he can do the others. Does he not like your family? I don't know....how hard is it to hit "reply" and say a simple, "Thank you, I got your package. I appreciate it very much." Not hard at all. Sounds to me like he's making excuses to be lazy (ie. "he's never been taught to write thank you notes.") Doesn't he know how to be grateful?

In reality I think it is absurdly rude to not say thank you. My 16 yr old is not allowed to use anything sent to her before a thank you note is hand written and in the mail..

HOWEVER...........in this case.........your husband is protecting our country. My brother was there a long time ago in Desert Storm. They have more pressing things to do other then to send a thank you to everyone who has sent something to them. In your case, I would thank these kind people myself for my husband.

And I thank you and your husband for his efforts while being deployed and your efforts as a mom to keep your household together and running smoothly.

I personally hate to write thank-you cards, but emails are SO easy. I would ask him what is so hard about typing "thank you" and hitting send. Then, let it go. He is an adult and it's his responsibility and not yours to acknowledge people.

If I was you I would ask your husband if he had them and then you could write a thank you note to the family members who are asking. I am a big fan of thank you notes. I make my kids write them. But let me tell you this I think that a member of our armed forces who is in a foreign country is giving me a big enough THANK YOU that I don't need a hand written or emailed not to say thanks. He is risking his life to make sure mine is more comfortable. If family members don't understand that he is busy and might in fact be in places he can't have access to computer all the time are so worried about the thank you notes they shouldn't bother sending him gifts.

as far as the email thing goes. depending on what is going on where he is he may not be able to answer. my son in law used to have what they called black outs. thats when someone has been injured or killed and no emails go in or out till the family of the soldier has been notified. also depending on what the emails are asking they are not allowed to give out specifics about where they are or what they are doing. just an fyi

We were also taught to write thank you notes. When my kids were very little I would have them draw or color a picture to send with a thank you note that I would write for gifts. When they turned 3 I would write a simple note and have them trace the letters. Now I write the note and have them copy what I wrote on their own paper. My goal is to instill in them how important thank you notes are. I remember one time when I didn't write a thank you note, about 10 years ago, and it still haunts me today. For people like us not getting a thank you note seems crazy. Just tell him to write a couple of sentences to satisfy those who care about him.

Do not nag him. Just let him do his job over there..
Maybe when you speak with him mention that some packages have been sent and be on the look out, or you hope he enjoyed the packages that were sent by Aunt so and so..

My cousin was stationed during the Gulf war and we did not receive thank you notes. When he came home we had a big welcome home gathering from the whole family.. As he gave me a big hug, he told me he "really enjoyed the packages" I had sent.. I was so happy he was home safe.. I never thought about the thank yous..

Ok.. a peek into the world of people who forget thank you's: We love the poeple in our lives. We tell them all the time and show it with time together, etc. We may not send cards, or remember your B-day or even...oooops the anniversary. We just need a little grace from you just like you need grace from us when you nag and act like the things we DO aren't good enough to show we care.

You tell your family that you are sorry he didn't take time out of fighting for our country to give them some special attention but you're sure he appreciated it???

Sorry for the attitude, but acting like that about NOT getting a card is at least as tacky as not sending it in the first place.

Yes, I believe in Thank You's! If someone takes the time to remember me,
then absolutely. Why don't you make some premade thank you notes for him. Send him the thank you notes, some pens and stamps. This way he is ready and can pop it in the mail. And yes, he is fighting for our country I'm sure is has a lot on his shoulders, but people are sending him something from far away. And at the very least, hit the reply button and/or
create a new email and say Thank You, I've received your package. I live away from family and always sending things. I just want to know, did you receive it? Have your husband read what eveyone has said, that way he can maybe understand. Best wishes and thank him for all of us!