L., yes consequences are how they learn, i now have 3 teens, well 2 oldes is not a teen anymore, he is 20, hahaha if she has to do her own laundry, for instance, the consequences of it not getting done is she has no clean clothes not by the fault of anyone else, but by her own fault, how hard is it to put a load of laundry in, before school, switch it out later, and dry it ? if its in the washer and you need it put it in a basket, if she was on her own she would have those same consequences, why stop the reality of consequences we all have them, we all have to learn where we put our term paper, if our room is a mess, we pay for having to look frantically for it in a messy room however if we had listened to mom and cleaned our room, that term paper would of been neatly on the desk or in our backpack, when it was done, etc, definitely let the consequences happen, if she has not learned that not doing things by now does not have any consequences, you might have more issues to deal with than just a teen ? its ok to let them happen, this is part of their training to be an adult, she will be fine, but talk to her about it too, and get her view of things ? and find out how come she dont have time to do it and maybe chart what she does with her time, if she is watching tv or playing games or a freinds house she has the time, find the time, buy out the opportune time, enjoy life, and knwo that you are helping to raise our future, !! D. s