I am really just curious, but I can't ask this person, I don't know them this well, but sitting across from her in boring meetings this has come to my attention. This couple is still married (happily to the best of my limited knowledge), but they have both switched their wedding rings to their right hands, yes I was curious enough to check old pictures and now I feel like a stalker.
I know that in some cultures that it is tradition to wear the wedding ring on the right hand as opposed to the left, but why switch after wearing it on one hand to the other?
It is none of my business and I am bored, but not nosey enough to ask her. I just know if I tried to change mine it would feel weird and my fingers are slightly different sizes.
So which hand do you wear your wedding ring on if you wear one and what reasons would someone have to switch?
Thanks for the input, I will likely never know because I don't see myself asking her. I myself didn't wear my ring for several years, but finally lost weight and can wear it again. I just found it odd that they BOTH switched hands. I just thought that may have some sweet (hopefully nothing bad) meaning.
Well when I wore mine it was on the left hand. Mine has not fit for years and we don't have the money to get it sized. I am having to find a new job so I got a cheap one from Walmart to wear on interviews cause I feel strange going into something like that with no ring.
Yes, definitely you're bored....This is possibly as simple as weight gain or loss on wife or husband's part and the other partner switched hands to be companionable, or even as a kind of sweet joke: "Hey, if you're wearing yours on the right we'll be right-handers together" or whatever.
It could just be that one of them is left-handed and got tired of having the ring "in the way" on the dominant hand. I don't like rings on my right hand because I'm right-handed and rings seem awkward and heavier on that hand. If the convention were to wear wedding bands on the right hand, I'd probably move mine to the left.
My mom never wore her wedding band. She worked in a business where many employees were not permitted to wear any rings or watches at work, ever, for safety reasons, so she didn't either, though she was office staff and not covered by that requirement officially. She was relieved to have an excuse not to wear a ring on her tiny, arthritic fingers! No one ever questioned if she was married. And I often don't have my wedding and engagement rings on because I take them off to clean house or when I have skin issues and sometimes they stay off for a few days or a week. I'm no less married, and nobody asks about them.
The left "ring" finger for the wedding band is purely a cultural convention and as you've noted, in other cultures they might wear the band on another finger. And there are people in this culture and others who wear no rings at all but are no less married than any married person who chooses to wear a ring. I note that there was a post saying that people should follow the "norm" so that others wouldn't speculate about them. I wouldn't care what others thought, and if they want to speculate about my marital status based on jewelry -- time for everyone to get a hobby.
huh, I've never known a couple to do that, I would have wondered too, but just like you, I can't see a good way to sneak that one in the conversatation .
I wear mine on my left and so does hubs.
Well, one day I looked down and my wedding ring was on my right hand. No idea how that happened. Worse, one day I looked down and it was gone. Completely gone, missing, absent. It had never been particularly loose and I have no idea how it fell of. Never found it. DH replaced it for our next anniversary.
We wear our wedding rings on our right hands and I have a family ring (they are both art rings with images in the band) on my left 'ring' finger; husband has his grandfather's old garnet ring on his.
Never thought about why someone would switch. Weight gain or loss, maybe? Or comfort? I don't know. I figure that a person's behavior is what 'makes' their marriage, not where/if they wear a ring. No one will assume I'm on the make unless I act like it. :)
When I lived in Europe, I switched my hand because the country I lived in wore right hand if married, left hand if divorced. I was young and didn't want to be hit on, so I wore it on the right (even before I was married, I wore a band on my right for the same reason). I doubt that applies here, but I would just ask her.
Today, I wear my wedding and engagement ring on my left, my claddagh (bought on our honeymoon in Ireland) on my right.
In the US, the finger you wear your wedding band on is traditionally your left ring finger. It's commonly recognized that if you're wearing a ring on this hand, you're "taken."
Because this is the norm, I wouldn't ever change it to the other hand. Because to me, it would appear as if I (or my husband) were trying to appear to others to be unmarried and available.
If your ring isn't fitting right, you get it sized and wear it on the correct finger. You don't give others an opportunity to speculate "Are they having troubles? Are they getting a divorce? Is this person really married?"
It could honestly be as simple as it doesn't fit on their left hand anymore and they don't want to or haven't replaced them. I no longer fit my original wedding bands. After realizing it wasn't going to happen after my third my husband and I got new bands. But we waited a few years to see if my fingers were going to go back to their previous size before my third child was born or not.
I did move my anniversary ring from my left hand to my right hand, it wasn't replaceable and didn't bother me to move to the other hand.
If they are left handed the ring could have been bothering them so they moved it to the right hand.
I would be more concerned if I saw a friend no longer wearing their wedding band than switching hands.
I'd find a way to ask. She probably won't be offended if she's a friend.
Say something like "Hey, I just noticed your ring is on the other hand. Are you okay? Did you hurt your hand?"
Ask if it took getting used to wearing on the right instead of left. Start a conversation and see where it leads.
Recently my left ring finger became swollen and has not gone completely down. I switched my ring and have not been able to get it past the knuckle without force. So it will stay on my right hand. So I now have two diamonds on the one hand and none on the other.
This could have happened to the person in question.
You will never know unless you ask.
Have a great weekend.
the other S.
I have no idea, I wear both mine on my left and couldn't switch if I wanted since both my ring fingers are very different sizes. I would just ask her flat out. I would be too curious to know the reason. lol
I've never looked that closely at how other people wear their wedding bands. I wore mine on my left, but if someone else wanted to wear theirs on their right, on a chain around their neck or through their nose, I wouldn't lose any sleep wondering why.
