The Correct Way to Wear Your Wedding Ring

Updated on February 24, 2010
D.L. asks from Hollywood, FL
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Silly question... what is the proper/correct way to wear your wedding ring with your engagement ring? I have heard to wear the engagement ring with the wedding ring on top (the order they were received). I've also heard to wear the wedding ring first with the engagement ring on top so that the wedding ring is closest to your heart. Is there a right or proper way to wear them?? :-)

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Very interesting responses! Thank you all for your input! I am married and have always worn my engagement ring first then the wedding band to symbolize the story or the order in which things happened. That's the way I was told to do it too. I just noticed others who wear theirs opposite and so I thought I'd see what you all out here in Mamapedia World thought. Today, I switched it around to see if it "felt" different to me, and it doesn't! So I guess I will wear it however it ends up! LOL! :-)

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T.C.

answers from Chicago on

I wear my wedding band first, then my engagement ring second. I don't know if this is the "proper" way to wear them, but I always assumed so. If I did it the other way it'd feel backwards. Congrats!

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J.M.

answers from Tampa on

Well my engagement ring and wedding ring are sodered together. I wear my 1 year anniversary band first then my engement/wedding ring. It just lays better that way. Also I only take them off to clean them. I wore them while pregnant with both of my kids. This was a fun post :)

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J.H.

answers from Gainesville on

Okay, so apparently I have been doing this wrong for the past 5 years. I was told to wear the engagement ring in. I just switched them around, and they feel okay, but visibly it looks weird after having them the other way for so long. I'll give it about a week, and if I don't get used to them that way, I'm going to switch back.

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K.P.

answers from New York on

wedding ring closest to your heart~

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D.W.

answers from Indianapolis on

Tradition is wedding band closest to your heart and engagement ring on the outside.

I chose not to have mine soldered together so I could wear just my band if I wished. Then again, I didn't and still don't want a diamond. I wanted our commitment for each other to be the most valuable part of the process, not the ring.....and I love my blue topaz stone.

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S.H.

answers from Huntsville on

I was always told to wear the wedding ring first, so that it is closest to your heart. So that's how I wear mine.

I'm sure it's just as much personal preference too. :)

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P.W.

answers from Dallas on

I was taught to wear the wedding ring closer to your heart.........however, I cringe to think there is a "correct" way to wear a wedding ring. My vote is to wear it the way you like it.

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M.F.

answers from Phoenix on

Wedding ring first, then engagement ring. Wedding sets are sold to be worn that way and if you have a jeweler solder your rings together, as I did, that's the way they'll do it.
That said, wear it however you're comfortable. Some people wear their wedding ring on their left hand and their engagement ring on their right after the wedding.

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A.S.

answers from Denver on

I think the way it's 'supposed' to be is wedding band (closest to heart) then engagement ring.

For me, we got married so young, all we could afford was the wedding band. At our 10 year anniversary he bought me a beautiful solitaire that looks like an engagement ring. Well, to me, the 10 year ring meant more than the initial ring since it's symbolized a lot of ups and downs for us and that we're still together....so it now is closest and my band is second. And the solitaire's a tad loose so I'd be devastated if I lost it. Anyway, to someone who didn't know, it appears backwards, but for me, it's right :)

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A.A.

answers from Chicago on

I've always heard the wedding band closer to your heart thing and then the engagement ring, so that is how I wear mine. I haven't seen it the other way, but I guess it doesn't really matter in the big picture =)

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B.J.

answers from Kansas City on

Wedding ring first, closest to heart. Also, if you are not yet married, it is considered proper to put your engagement ring on your right hand during the ceremony, then move it back afterwards on top of the wedding band. Of course, do what suits you best.

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M.L.

answers from Los Angeles on

Wedding ring closest to your heart!

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J.M.

answers from Tampa on

My wife and I perform many wedding ceremonies. She is Canadian, I was born and raised in the New York City area. When asking for the rings in the ceremony, we get three. The groom places his wedding ring on her finger, she does the same, and then the groom places her engagement ring on the bride's finger last. Officiant: "Mike, the engagement ring you gave to Kim when you asked her to marry you, you gave with promises. Those promises, now fulfilled, you accept as your lifetime commitment. This engagement ring goes on last, after the wedding band. It is there to remind you both that your love, vows and marriage need your attention, constant vigilance and protection.

Let your rings also be a sign that your love has substance as well as soul, a present as well as a past, and that despite its occasional sorrows, love is a circle of happiness, wonder and delight."

I have never seen the engagement ring go back on first. But there is no right or wrong. You might be shocked if you knew the origins of certain wedding "traditions."

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R.M.

answers from Nashville on

I was told when I got married you take your engagement ring and put it on your right had for the ceremony so that your left hand would be bare for when your wedding ring is put on (not sure why you are supposed to have a bare hand) and then after your vows you put your engagement ring back on the outside and leave it that way. I did that, but then my set didnt fit as well that way so I switched them. I think most women just wear them whichever way fits best.

J.G.

answers from San Antonio on

I do the wedding ring "closer" to my heart too. Not sure what's right either though.

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H.C.

answers from Orlando on

Everyone I know wears the wedding ring first, then the engagement ring second...so the wedding ring is closest to the heart. Most brides wear their engagement ring on their right hand for the ceremony, then switch it back afterwards.

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E.C.

answers from Miami on

Use it how ever you like, in the finger that you feel that make your hand more beautiful...there is no rules

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L.W.

answers from Miami on

I've never read an "official" answer for this one. But I was told by my mother that it's wedding ring first because it's more important and should be closer to you. Everyone I know wears it that way.

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J.K.

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I was also told wedding ring first to be closest to your heart (although when I first got married I did wear it the other way- made since because I got it first) but did change it after people told me it was the other way around. Ok so that makes since too. I also realized pretty quickly that my plain gold wedding band was much more comfortable against the webbing of my fingers then the intricate and oraments diamonds, gold,etc of my engagement ring. So I kept it that way mostly because it was the most comfortable for me. I have noticed recently how the gold is wearing from always wearing it the same way (ofcourse engagment ring stone up,etc) but didn't realize that I actually wore the wedding band the same way too because it is wore and formed to fit my finger just right too! I asked my husband a few weeks ago if he thought it would eventually wear through (being a welder and machinist he knows everything about metal) and he said yes it would. I jokingly told him I hoped it waited until our 10 year anniversary (we plan on renewing our vows and I am hoping for a larger stone- and prettier wedding band) but in reality I would still wear the originals anyway so I better keep an eye on it before it wears through! It was fun reading the responses.

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D.H.

answers from Jacksonville on

There are many beliefs in ways to wear them I wear them different sometimes just for the heck of it to be different lol. But here is a website that will explain some of it but google it hun there are is tons of stuff about it!

Here is one link I found!
http://www.antiquediamondsales.com/correct-way-to-wear-yo...

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A.C.

answers from Miami on

I was always told that you wear your wedding ring closest to your heart. Being that I've broken off several engagements and divorced once. The divorce was much harder than any engagement I broke off. In fact, the breaking of engagements was more of, Whew, thank goodness I didn't get married! Now that I've finally gotten it right with my soulmate, my husband, I have to say that wearing my wedding ring closest to my heart reminds me of what my commitment means to me and how important my marriage is. I can lose the engagement ring and still have the symbol of being married, take the wedding ring away and that symbolizes something entirely different, now doesn't it.

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A.S.

answers from Dallas on

I've never heard of a proper way to wear the rings. I wear mine with the loosest one on the inside and the tighter fitting one on the outside.

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T.F.

answers from Miami on

I've always heard that your wedding ring should be worn closest to your heart, and that's how I've always worn it, but I think personal preference works just fine! Wear it however YOU like and however it's most comfortable for you, I say!

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V.M.

answers from Erie on

Interesting responses

My 2 cents: For our wedding bands, i picked out a "jacket" which from reading this stuff i guess wasn't quite traditional it has inset diamons on either side and the solitare engagment ring fits into a little cut out in it. I asked for a 5 year anniversary band and so how i wear mine in to but the five year band closest to my hand and the engagement ring next and the jacket which was really my wedding band on top of it all.

do what makes you feel happy and what looks nice to you.

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D.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

Wedding ring on first-closest to your heart!

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A.Z.

answers from Los Angeles on

Wedding ring closest to the heart, engagement ring on top.

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H.P.

answers from Orlando on

I wear mine with my wedding band on first, then the engagement ring....

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